the lost sock
Jul 13, 2009, 07:20 AM
Hi,
I was in a relationship for 14 months until yesterday. I have just turned 23 and my girlfriend is going to be 28 this year. She asked me to give her time and space to deal with her issues. She feels that because I am only 23, she does not know if she wants to continue with our relationship. She told me that somedays she feels like she wants to be married in 2 years and start settling down, but she also said that sometimes it doesn't bother her.
We are extremely close and pretty much don't do things without each other. My life has revolved around her since we have been together. My parents were not altogether happy with the relationship - they told me something to this effect would happen. They like her, but just feel we are at different stages in our lives. The thing is we love each other madly. She makes me happy in ways I can't describe. And just trying to be without her is proving to be super difficult.
She said she wants to be single for a while and focus on herself and her things, because she has not done this in 12 years. She has always been in relationships. Things between us have always been up and down. The concerns have always been there from my side and hers, but since our last break up of a few days (this was about 3 months ago) things have been going great. We've been enjoying our time together, doing cool things, and just loving each other.
I am unsure of what to do. I want her in my life, not only as a friend, but as a girlfriend. To me, the future is something we cannot control. I give her all that I can at this point in my life and it seems as if the things she wants (or is making herself believe will make her happy), I can't give her (engagement, living together, etc). I am fully committed to her in all ways. She might not have a ring, but she has my heart.
Thanks in advance for any advice/answers I get.
The Lost Sock :)
I was in a relationship for 14 months until yesterday. I have just turned 23 and my girlfriend is going to be 28 this year. She asked me to give her time and space to deal with her issues. She feels that because I am only 23, she does not know if she wants to continue with our relationship. She told me that somedays she feels like she wants to be married in 2 years and start settling down, but she also said that sometimes it doesn't bother her.
We are extremely close and pretty much don't do things without each other. My life has revolved around her since we have been together. My parents were not altogether happy with the relationship - they told me something to this effect would happen. They like her, but just feel we are at different stages in our lives. The thing is we love each other madly. She makes me happy in ways I can't describe. And just trying to be without her is proving to be super difficult.
She said she wants to be single for a while and focus on herself and her things, because she has not done this in 12 years. She has always been in relationships. Things between us have always been up and down. The concerns have always been there from my side and hers, but since our last break up of a few days (this was about 3 months ago) things have been going great. We've been enjoying our time together, doing cool things, and just loving each other.
I am unsure of what to do. I want her in my life, not only as a friend, but as a girlfriend. To me, the future is something we cannot control. I give her all that I can at this point in my life and it seems as if the things she wants (or is making herself believe will make her happy), I can't give her (engagement, living together, etc). I am fully committed to her in all ways. She might not have a ring, but she has my heart.
Thanks in advance for any advice/answers I get.
The Lost Sock :)