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funky_girl
Jul 11, 2009, 05:23 AM
I'm 15 yrs old, and about 2/3 weeks ago I was out with my friends and we met a friend of theirs but I never met him before. I really liked him.. The day after we met again and he acted as if he liked me. Then 3 days later my friends went swimming and I did not go, and he contacted me and teased me about not going, and we talked a bit. I really hoped that he'll ask my friends for my msn or mobile number.
Then a few days later my friend texted all of our friends giving his mobile number; as he asked her for some mobile numbers, she asked him whom mobile number he want and he didn't tell her, so she didn't give him any mobile numbers but instead she gave us all his mobile number, but we only texted a few. I still liked him. Then he told me to add him on msn, and we begin to talk as if we knew each other for long! He really likes me, even some of my friends became jealous and we met again but this time we were me and him and my friend[a girl] and she brought another boy[she likes] with her. I really had a great time with him! And I really talk about anything with him, it's like we're best friends.
The problem is that I am realizing that there are moments when I act and talk as if I really like him, and then there come moments when I don't like him in appearance. But in personality I'm always sure about myself - that I like his personality a lot. I have never went out with a guy, and I think that he is going to ask me out. I am really confused as I don't know if I do really like him or not! And I absolutely do not want to hurt his feelings!
I really appreciate some good advice and any kind of help :)

N0help4u
Jul 11, 2009, 06:50 AM
You have to decide which is more important to you appearance or someone that is really a great guy. Many girls that have great looking guys would have to admit that they don't always have the greatest relationship and then too whose to say you will ever get a great looking guy?
You are not certain yet because
*really developing a relationship takes time
And
*you are letting ''what about'' and ''what if'' type things hinder your thoughts and feelings.

Keep being his friend and see where it goes.

s_cianci
Jul 11, 2009, 06:56 AM
I think you need to take the time to get to know him better, then make your own decision. You'll find out soon enough how you feel about this guy.

jaimie02
Jul 11, 2009, 10:37 AM
Don't be superficial. Looks do matter to an extent, but trust me, I have learned that you either have to choose a gorgeous jerk or a not as gorgeous good guy. (not saying that all good looking people are mean)

But don't second guess your feelings because he doesn't look the way you want him to.

I used to be that way and then I met an amazing guy who is not that good looking, but that suddnly didn't matter anymore.

Figure out hw you feel. If you feel like you can't let go, then don't.

If you want to go for it, go for it, no matter what he looks like.

Take what these other two advisors say, because they are both right.

Good luck.

funky_girl
Jul 13, 2009, 05:11 AM
Thanks a lot! :)