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301103
Jul 8, 2009, 11:58 AM
Heyyyy guys
Baiscally,
I'm at college studying, just about to start my second year
I've got a calss mate, swear to god she's has to be an angel that's the only logical explanation, she's so amazing
I've liked her for some time, quiet a while, and yesterday she found out via her best mate, that I've got feelings towards her
And she totally siad no,
She said she didn't feel the same, she can't hurt her mother like that, going out with a boy
I don't want to go out with her
She goes she wants to be back to normal, close friends, but she's acting all weird around me
If it where left to me id write her name with the stars to show her how much she means to me
Or I would spray paint her name on the clouds so no matter where she is in the world, she knows ima be there for her through thick and thin, ima always be thinking about her
Ah man I like her so much
3shes the first girl I've ever fallen for ever in my life
Love only happens once, the rest is just life, in my eyes
Why does it sting, hurt so badly man
I don't know what to do
How to get over her
I can't
What am I going to do
Its like my eyes are jealous of my heart
Due to she's more closer to my heart then my eyes can see her with
Ah man
I feel so dead inside
I don't know what to do

Ah man
Why does it sting hurt so badly

E12191G
Jul 8, 2009, 12:11 PM
First off, lets be logical here. How long have you known the girl? Do you know her Entirely or just the class room girl. Are you in love with her or her looks?she doesn't want to hurt her mom by dating a guy?? Is she going to be single forever or date girls? Its common for people to act different around others once that little secret is reveled so don't take that personal. She just doesn't know how to act with you anymore because she knows you like her. That limits what can be joked around about. And love doesn't only happen once. It happens when you find the next right person for you at the moment. But in order for it to happen you have to let go. Otherwise you'll be stuck worrying about how it WOULD have been if you were together. Once you allow yourself to open up to new love, it'll come back. And also, I think right now you say she's close to your heart because you know you can't have her. So, for me, my best way of getting over people is to get rid of ALL communication. That limits how much you talk and see her. And when you stop going around things you start to kind of forget about them, or at leased there not in your mind as much. I suggest you start getting over her asap. It won't be easy at first but once you surround yourself with things you like to do and kep yourself busy, you'll start to feel better and open up to NEW an BETTER opportunities. She's not the best thing out there ill tell you that right now. So , hope I helped in someway.

301103
Jul 14, 2009, 10:31 AM
Hihi
Thanks for your reply
E1219G, means a lot
I've tried keeping my distance from her
But every time I see her across the common room, I melt
I try keeping it together, but I keep falling apart
I myself don't want to let her go, honestly
She's an agel, she has to be, she's so amazing
I am into her personality, by far
She's so cute in the way she does thing, and the way she smilesssss
Meltsz me
And I honeslty don't believe theresz anyone out there better then her
Ah man, it hurts so badly
Stings like mad
I just let her go
I can't live without her

I wish
Jul 14, 2009, 10:37 AM
Harshness warning

From what you told us, it sounds like you don't really know this girl very well. But from what you know about her, you feel very deeply about. I have a feeling that if you get to know her better, you will see more of her flaws and be less attracted to her.

She already made it clear that she doesn't feel the same way about you. So nor matter how much you lust after her, it won't change the situation. So why don't you try to focus on meeting new people?

I'm not sure where you get the idea that you only fall in love once. Are you sure you're not mixing up with "first love"? First love doesn't mean it's the person you will love the most in your life.

It's not the first love that counts, it's the last love that counts

You got to find a way to believe in yourself that you will find someone else.

E12191G
Jul 14, 2009, 11:46 AM
How old are you? And if you keep on seeing her then maybe its time to find new hang out places. Wh are you waisting your time on someone who doesn't even want you! Sounds harsh but it is what it is. S*** happens life goes on, times not waiting so don't wait for it to happen. And trust me buddy, there's always , always, ALWAYS someone better. You just haven't given it time to happen. Your stuck on this chick and when your too busy worrying about her, someone who doesn't want you, this other person can pass you up and you won't even notice it because your to stuck on this one. Now how would you like that to happen? I recently got over someone, by not talking to them, really liked them , it had a lot of potential. It would have been my first relationship in 2 years. But, didn't want to date me, because they didn't like remationships, so I stopped talking to them. 2 weeks later, I'm already looking for someone else, don't ge tme wrong, this person was awesome! Loved the personality, very different from others, VERY acute. Knew them for 2 years. But, I thought about that someone that's always better coming along, and them just passing me by because I'm stuck on this one. So I let go. There are more then a billion people. She's only one. There's PLENTy to go around. All in all, you got to let go,if you want to or not. That's just how life goes. And you will meet better and not as good people, but that's the beauty of life, you get to experience challenges, go through different experiences, the fun part is getting through them.

007bradz
Jul 14, 2009, 11:50 AM
If that's true, about it being the first time, that's your answer to why it stings.

I guess over time you start to learn how you deal with it in the best way for yourself, and have expectations to how it will feel.