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mkpilot
Jul 5, 2009, 09:48 PM
Me and my exgirlfriend lived together for 18 months. 4 months ago she broke up with me and moved back to her parents. Trust issues and insecurity, (thanks to my friend who was telling me over and over that she is cheating on me) I know bad kind of friend. Her parents don't like me after I had fight with her father, very controlling man. Well after 3 days she was texting and calling me, how much she loves me, miss me, wish it never happened etc. Week later she asked me to meet up for lunch, I asked her what she wants, I told her I am sorry and that I want her back, she said she needs more time. I gave her time and space, never called her or text her, then she was start calling me and texting me every day, see each other 2-3 times a week for lunch. Month later we have fight and she broke up with me again, and again she start contacting me after few days, from that time things where going pretty good, she start staying in my place over weekends and start spending more time with me. The last weekend she told me that she is my girl, it will be only me and her etc. Then 2 days later we got call from collection agency from our previous apartment, that we have to pay 4000 $ for carpet replacement, I told them I will not pay this amount, it is way over charged. Then they called her and try to used they tricks on her. She called me back and start fighting with me, that if her parents find out about this we will be done etc. I told her that we will take care of this, and don't tell her parents about this, this is our business. She end it up telling her father, We did not talk over the weekend and on Sunday morning she text me that we are done, that she can't se me or talk to me anymore behind her parents back, that it will be ugly, plus ishe has too much drama in her life with me and her father is getting lawyer and going after me. Week went by and I got call from her, that the collection guy told her we will be going to the court. I said great because I will fight the over charges. She said OK then she asked me how I been and how I doing, I said good, working hard. She said me to I am very busy, then her phone was ringing at work and she said that she has to go, and she will talk to me soon. 10 days went by, no contact from her, no even happy 4 of July. So now, what you think, should I wait and hope she will come back again or she has moved on... She is 29 and I am 37. Thank you for any answers... Please

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 6, 2009, 10:45 AM
Move on. She is playing games.

jolienoire
Jul 6, 2009, 10:52 AM
Imagine you weren't you for a moment!
Now read your post.

The answer is evidently clear.

Move on! She is playing games.

If you do what you always done you'll get what you always gotten.

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 6, 2009, 10:54 AM
She seems to be her parent's puppet as well, and until she can think, speak and act for herself then you need to find someone more mature, more committed, and more independent. Sorry.

ajGambino
Jul 6, 2009, 01:16 PM
This woman is 29 years old and still playing games like she's in high school. I would not mess with this one, she sounds to quick to run away for whatever reason. People like that cannot be forced to be tied down with someone, let her live her life... but most importantly, live yours without her. You do not need this heartache she constantly gives you.

ChihuahuaMomma
Jul 6, 2009, 01:17 PM
Yup, those are the ones that go out for a gallon of milk, and you never see them again.

roxypox
Jul 6, 2009, 05:08 PM
I agree with the others, you should move on! She is playing games and your time is just too presious foryou to play them with her!

She does seem to lack maturity and like someone has already mentioned; you can' force someone to be committed to you...

Move on and start a-fresh and live your life without her. This is really getting you no where.

friend4u178
Jul 6, 2009, 06:06 PM
Before I got to the bottom of your post I thought with the behaviour and lack of maturity you guys were a lot younger.

As the others said she's playing games. Leave her alone to play with someone else. Lifes too short to get stuck living with this sort of cr*p.

Very convenient too that she stopped contacting you when you told her about the money that's owed.

Zoeynoey
Jul 23, 2012, 05:14 PM
From what I saw in that question was that once you broke up the first time she called you and texted you saying how much she missed you then once you met up a day or so later she said she needed space which Is a big change of mind. In conclusion it's either
1.) she can never make up her mind or
2.) she playing games
Number 2 is more likely so id break up with her and if she contacts you again just ignore her and block her number