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3someone3
Jul 5, 2009, 08:11 PM
Well appears as if my boyfriend followed what you said, not that he read it or anyhting. He has no idea of this site, but I mean he followed your advice as in he broke up with me, today. I didn't want to do it, I didn't plan on doing it. With all due respect but when I read the responses I knew I wouldn't break it up because I was I am still in love with him sadly. But he did and you know why? Because I told him I had done a blow job before, I didn't just tell him out of the blue, we were talking about this subject. But he said that was just a big turn off and he wasn't interested in me anymore :/ this isn't so much of a question it's more of a please help me feel better shout out.
Wondergirl
Jul 5, 2009, 08:18 PM
I don't understand why people think they have to be totally upfront about all their previous sexual experiences. The last thing I would want to hear is a woman-by-woman recounting by a boyfriend. Who cares! It's ancient history and has nothing to do with me. I'm the one in his life now, and not those others. If he learned something from them that will help our physical and emotional relationship, great! Just don't tell me about all of them and what he did with them. The same with me -- if I learned something, also great! Why should I mess with his head and heart by telling him any details.
I can't think of anything to help you feel better, 3. Just learn from this experience and don't do this "revelation" thing again, even if the guy claims he wants to know. "We love each other. Let's tell each other everything." Phooey.
3someone3
Jul 5, 2009, 08:20 PM
But he was the one that asked
Wondergirl
Jul 5, 2009, 08:27 PM
but he was the one that asked
And you had to tell him??
3someone3
Jul 5, 2009, 08:31 PM
No I guess not but oh well I learned somehting and people learn new things every day too bad for me it had to be this way :/
Wondergirl
Jul 5, 2009, 08:32 PM
no i guess not but oh well i learned somehting and people learn new things every day too bad for me it had to be this way :/
Live and learn. That's what we all do.
Now, tell me a better way you could have answered him.
3someone3
Jul 5, 2009, 08:38 PM
Well that's another thing
I didn't know what else I could say
So help if this question comes up again?
Wondergirl
Jul 5, 2009, 08:41 PM
well that's another thing
i didn't know what else I could say
so help if this question comes up again?
C'mon, c'mon. Use your imagination. He asks you about old bfs and what you did with them. Then what do you say?
3someone3
Jul 5, 2009, 08:42 PM
Well now that I actually think about it, I could have just said it didn't matter..
Wondergirl
Jul 5, 2009, 08:44 PM
well now that i actually think about it, i could of just said it didn't matter..
Nope, not good enough. Be romantic and make him think he is the only guy in the world as far as you are concerned.
3someone3
Jul 5, 2009, 08:49 PM
Ahw :( well I tried lol OK so be romantic, I need to work on that
Wondergirl
Jul 5, 2009, 08:57 PM
ahw :( well i tried lol ok so be romantic, I need to work on that
Memorize this:
"You're the cream in my coffee and the sizzle in my steak, but there are two things I will never share with you. One is my recipe for chocolate chip cookies, and the other is information about old boyfriends."
3someone3
Jul 5, 2009, 09:10 PM
Oh wow that's good!
Wondergirl
Jul 5, 2009, 09:13 PM
oh wow that's good!!
Any other questions?
JoeCanada76
Jul 5, 2009, 09:14 PM
Another thing I would like to add. If people can not except that you did certain things with others in the past. You were honest about it, and they did not like it and broke up with you. They are not the right person to be with anyway.
I agree, with Wondergirl to a point. Past should be Past. At the same time if you do reveal the truth, if this person truly loves you they will not make it an issue and realize it has nothing to do with him.
3someone3
Jul 5, 2009, 09:16 PM
Not for now, but I will sure bother later