My son has had no contact with his father for over 9 months and his father has made no effort to make contact. I don't want to change that by going into court and filing for a parenting plan... I don't want his money, I have supported my child this long with out his help... he is on probation for domestic violence against me so I really don't want him to have visitation. What do I do? If I leave things the way they are now and later down the road he decides he wants to be a part of my sons life, I will have a harder time "stopping" him. When I was growing up my mom had a plan where my father didn't get visitation but still had to pay child support... is that still possible. But then again I Don't want his money. I have tried to go to court for a parenting plan before but was unable to serve him because he avoids the servers, now that I can get him served for sure... no one will help me:confused: If you have any advice or know how I can get free or cheap help I would greatly appreciate it.

You petition the judge to award you with custody and him with supervised visitation. You can ask for no visitation but that probably won't happen. But remember that just because he is awarded some visitation dosen't mean that he will use it.

Its really starting to bother me when a parent is so selfish that they overlook the child. When you say " I dont want his money " what your really saying is two fold statement.

1) I don't want him to be responsible for his actions.

2) My child shouldn't have any life improvements.

Sure its great you can go it on your own but the money isn't just about you its about your child. If you truly don't need it to raise your child then stack it away in a college fund for them. Try to put the child first and yourself second when making decisions.