Ok so my girlfriend and I have been absolute best friends and in love for 2 years. Everything was fine but we sometimes fought no big deal. We graduated from high school this month and I went on vacation for a week with my family. Came back and it was all fine. Last Monday night she told me out of nowhere she only likes me as a friend now and needs space. To make a long story short I have been a disaster. I lost my best friend and the love of my life. She says she still loves me as a best friend and misses me but wants to still be best friends. I think she also has a new boy in her life she met at work because she went to a bbq at his house a few days after but she says he is only a friend. She tells me she doesn't want me to feel pain and to move on in my life and if its meant to be its meant to be and we will get back together. I told her she needs her space because for like a year and a half she never has spent time with friends, just lived a life consumed with me. I went and talked to her 3 times since last Monday and she still says the same things. That she hasn't eaten all week and misses me but we need to move on and needs space and if its meant to be its meant to be. I talked to her on myspace and she told me she needs me in her life as a friend and I told her I need her to be my women or nothing. What do I do? I know I need to cut off contact and hopefully she goes crazy wondering what I'm doing because she is used to being with me 24/7 and comes back. Any advice or input is much appreciated, thank you.

Honestly, I think she met someone new and is keeping you on the side, sounds like she is keeping you close just in case her new thing doesn't work... I know it will be hard but you should start trying to move on yourself

I can't believe it though. The guy is 20 years old she is nothing like that. She is only 17

She tells me she doesn't want me to feel pain and to move on in my life and if its meant to be its meant to be and we will get back together.

No more boyfriend/girlfriend that's over.


I went and talked to her 3 times since last Monday and she still says the same things. That she hasn't eaten all week and misses me but we need to move on and needs space and if its meant to be its meant to be. I talked to her on myspace and she told me she needs me in her life as a friend

Translation, friends or hit the bricks buddy! She doesn't want to be your woman

That means leave her alone, and do as she said... move on.

Thanks for the honest answers. What is the chances she will come back if I don't talk to her at all? I know I need to move on she is ruining me. I will be out with buddies and when I wake up in the morning or if Im at work I start to think about her and get upset wondering why she would throw it all away out of nowhere. Hey friends are also my close friends and they think she is going crazy. She is acting weird and feels sick all day. Maybe she is just confused?

Stop wondering guy and work to get your own life straight without her. No one can predict what someone else will do, no matter how bad you want them to do as you want. That's not how life works.

Whether she is confused or not, don't make it you who is confused. Leave her alone. Anything you do will make things worse. Sorry guy for your loss.

Thanks for the advice you are so right. If she doesn't want this then she doesn't deserve me.

She isn't confused--your just stuck denial.

She broke up with you because she doesn't want to be in a relatiosnship with you. She is young and wants to explore so right now respect her honesty.

Relationship comes with no guarantees and break-ups happens. You need to let go and accept it is over. I know break-ups sucks but life goes on. You can't make someone be with you.

I started no contact today, only last hope. I can heal and get my together and hopefully she misses me and comes back, If not then I'll be strong and ready to keep going.

You're on the right path, do NC to heal, not to win her back

She said she needs me in her life because we are so close and I said I can't be your friend only your man.She is still sick feeling and misses me deep down. She said she broke up with me because we don't feel like boyfriend and girlfriend anymore and finally has time to herself. Do I do here I'm so confused. She said she NEEDS me in her life, yet she said she needs time for herself. So if I NC for a while I'm guessing she will go crazy without me and come back. Also she broke up with me exactly 3 weeks before our 2 year anniversary. So she may come back before then. I didn't see this coming, she talked about our 2 year and how happy she is its coming.


Damn women confuse me ;(

More or less the same story as me... but my ex didn't come back. She just stringed me along until she was well enough to be without me. I am ready to bet she won't come back to you. You should move on as it is quite clear she doesn't want you back especially since she has been with that other guy.

How long does nc last until they call?

NC is for you not her. You can sit around and wait for her all you want but your only be holding on to false hope. She may never return to you.

You're the cause for your own confusion not her.

Leave her alone. She may or may not come back. My guess is she won't.
NC is for you. Simply put, it is weaning yourself off her.
I wish you well.

Dang I thought a lot of couples got back together... this sucks... NC is harder than hell!

dang I thought a lot of couples got back together....this sucks...NC is harder than hell!
Nope, you don't always get what you want. Sometimes people break up because they are not meant to be a couple. You guys spent too much time with each other, she sounded too emotionally dependent. Not a healthy relationship. You both need to breathe and grow.
Use this time to reflect and grow. Learn things about yourself, do things apart from her.

Dude NC is REALLY REALLY hard. I'm on day 2. I'm so depressed and heartbroken. But we just got to keep at it I guess...

Yea, that's what NC is about. It's hard in the beginning then it gets easier. Be patient and take care of yourself.

I think she also has a new boy in her life she met at work because she went to a bbq at his house a few days after but she says he is only a friend.
Biz Markie has a few words about that.

Your instincts are probably right, she found a new interest. You're both really young so this type of stuff is going to happen.

Stick to NC and after a few months you'll be good.

So we have a mutual friend that is both one of our best friend and last night my ex and her went and hungout. She told her she said she really misses me badly but needs to be independent and live life single for a bit but not in relationships just herself. What does that mean? Later last night she texted me asking how I've been doing and I told her what I've been doing. Then I asked if she wanted to relax and have a good time sometime and she said sounds good! What do I think?

I know this is good for both of us. She has become waay to dependent of me and maybe this is her way of breaking loose for awhile and getting control to herself? I think she will come back but if she doesn't then at least I left her a better person...

needs to be independent and live life single for a bit but not in relationships just herself. What does that mean?
It means she wants the freedom to explore other options, and opportunities, with someone else besides you.

Then I asked if she wanted to relax and have a good time sometime and she said sounds good! What do I think?

Friendly stuff with no romance, is what she was agreeing to, you know to relax and enjoy, like you did before, but without any attachments, obligations, or commitment, other than friends, even if you get a hug, or kiss.

You let me know how that "hang out buddy" stuff works out for you.

Dude, the way things are happening to you is just similar to mine. Broke up without preparation, with your girl saying

She needs space
She can't be in a relationship
She says like you 2 are real good friends after the break up
She would contact you soon cause she misses you but DON'T WANT TO BE WITH U
She has a new *friend
She needs a single life
She needs to focus on whatever in her life

Well, from my point of view she might be confused. Stop contacting and one day she'll ask you out. If u touched the topic between u 2, she's going to say something different that confuses you and gives you false hope. See how it goes :)

This girl is all lovely, likes u, need u, but doesn't wan to be with u

Learn over the mistakes you did over the relationship, is it you or is it her?

Yea I am in a similar situation, my girl broke up with me about 2 months ago, and I get texts fairly often saying I miss you and love you and hate sleeping alone. Then I go after her and try to hang out and she backs off and ignores me for a few days. You need to back off and let her have that space. If there is another guy then there is another guy, its not the end of the world. Most likely if there is one it is just her experimenting and is a rebound, 90% of them don't work out and sometimes it gets you back together more quickly. You need to act like you don't care if she does, make her think you have moved on. Don't go out of your way to make her jealous, but act kind of distant and always like you are doing something. Make her feel like she is losing you, and she will come back.

Thanks for the advice^^^^^

I'll keep it updated. Part of me says f this ho and the other part of me wants her in my life :(

Dude, the way things are happening to u is just similar to mine. Broke up without preparation, with ur girl saying

She needs space
She can't be in a relationship
She says like you 2 are real good friends after the break up
She would contact u soon cause she misses u but DON'T WANT TO BE WITH U
She has a new *friend
She needs a single life
She needs to focus on whatever in her life

Well, from my point of view she might be confused. Stop contacting and one day she'll ask u out. If u touched the topic between u 2, she's going to say something different that confuses u and gives u false hope. See how it goes :)

This girl is all lovely, likes u, need u, but doesn't wan to be with u

Learn over the mistakes u did over the relationship, is it u or is it her?


It was both of us. Ended up getting sick of each other because we spent so much time together and went on trips with family all the time, she was with me every second. Kind of smothered each other in a way.

Thanks for the advice^^^^^

I'll keep it updated. Part of me says f this ho and the other part of me wants her in my life :(

My ex broke up without any preparation as well. For your well being you are just going to have to say "f this ho". You can't change her mind and this way you can heal.

She texted me Sunday asking how I've been. Then I asked her if she wanted to go to dinner and she said she already ate. I texted her on Thursday and asked how she was and asked if she wanted to go to the movies and she said she had work the next day. I'm done with this girl, waste of time. But I saw the guy she was talking to at the gym and about got roid rage and smashed him up, but held back cause I knew it would make matters worst...

Hey brother, hang in there! Your feelings are dragging u around like a monster in rage. Do u want to be a monster? U said u're done with her but u came up with all the hey do u want to go out with me? Want to have a talk? How are u? ALL THE CRAP THAT WILL MAKE U FEEL GOOD AND GATHER ALL THE TRASH FEELING LATER.

My ex told me space etc.. being to dependent on each other.. she contacted me and wanted to hang out.. missed me love me but doesn't want to be with me.. same story.. I highly suggest you don't see her... it will give you false hope.. you need to cut her out.. I know its hard.. I had to tell my ex I couldn't handle her contacting me because it kept giving me false hope because I didn't have it in me to just ignore.. and told her I needed no contact to move on and may be in the future we can then be friends when I'm ready. I know the hardest part is letting go, and the feeling of, how can she do this? And how can she not give me a second chance? But the fact is, you have to deal with the cards given to you. Work out, hang out with friends, do things YOU enjoy, live life without her. Find a way to be happy with just yourself and not NEED her. Its taken me almost 3 months (screwed up at the beg of course, had a few relapses). Started with LC. Tried to win her back a few times, tried to change for her and not for me. But in the end.. the best thing to do was NC and change for yourself.. though I did use changing for her as motivation, till I could accept finally changing for just myself. In the end, what really helped, is I tell myself repeatedly if you truly love them let them go because you want them to be happy, even if it isn't with you. That is the true test of love. The break up can be a positive too from what you learn from the growth and experience. And your next relationship will be that much better, with or without her.

Thanks for the advice^^^^^

I'll keep it updated. Part of me says f this ho and the other part of me wants her in my life :(
I don't think she is a hoe, you need to get a clue. You ask her out she says "I'm busy". What is it you don't get.
You need to face the fact that she does not want to be with you.

I know.. I know... I think it just hurts when you get mixed signals you know what I mean?

Most times when we get dumped, we see things that gives us hope, because if she is nice to us as a friend would be, we think we are going to get them back. When they resist its easy to think the signals are mixed, but its us who are not reading her signals right. How can we, when we are still full of hope, and feelings? That's why you cut the contact, as its hard to believe she won't change her mind, when she acts friendly, but cuts you off at the knees, when you press for what you had back.

Usually when they break up and want to be "friends", it's an easy way out for them... this way they still have a level of comfort that they did during the relationship. And since you are always around to be there for them, it's exactly what they need. She didn't REALLY want to be friends with you, she's just being selfish and wants to string you along until she's comfortable without you. But you shouldn't focus on HER.

You almost need to think of this in a selfish manner. She broke things off, she's seeing another guy already, she's playing this push/pull game of "hanging out". What about you? She is showing that she has no respect for your well being or feelings and she's only thinking of herself and her own well being... so don't sit there for another minute waiting around for a person like that to come back.

Look I know breakups suck... we've all been there. But you need to constantly remind yourself that it is not about her anymore and it's about you. Do you really want to be with someone who does stuff like this to you? You are young and you have your whole future ahead of you, why waste it with someone who obviously doesn't give a damn about you?

Good luck!

I think you're right^

That's why each time we talk a little longer goes by until the next time we speak. Eventually she will prob, be gone :(


Sad but true/honest.

I don't think she is as bad as this guy says she is. You don't have to demonize the girl because she wants to be with someone else.
Your talks will get fewer and farther in between but I don't think she is being selfish. I think she genuinely cares for you but just does not want to be with you.
Dogging her out is tacky. Don't stoop to that level. You are too nice a guy.

That's right. In a couple to 3 months, she'll be gone dragging you along all the time. The best thing for you to do is to just cut everything off with her immediately. It's best for you and she suck up a little of that pain that comes from a break up too.

Good luck buddy. There's someone out there that won't do this to you. You just have to get past your high school catch and move on to the one that's ready for a more mature relationship. Just don't let high school catch drag you through the gutter. It will leave heavier marks at your age.

So again I say, good luck and more power to you.

She's playing your emotions like a violin. She says she wants to be best friends because if you accept that, she won't have to feel bad about breaking your heart to smithereens.

Forget her. She's just wanting to string you along, having all the benefits of having you around without having the commitment. RUUUN AWWAAAYYY!

At the gym tonight I ran into the guy. I'm pretty pissed off almost beat his . But if there is any hope in us getting back together then it's time to stop acting like a highschooler and move on and not worry about this weakling. Thanks for everyone's help and all the advice you have all giving me, I really appreciate it.I think I got it all together now. I'll be OK and I will post back every now and then :)

Yeah fighting the guy is juvenile. But you are young!
Get your mind off her. Are you going to college? You may have too much time on your hands at this point.

Yeah fighting the guy is juvenile. But you are young!
Get your mind off her. Are you going to college? You may have too much time on your hands at this point.

I'm going to be honest. I got accepted to UCLA and she is going to a junior college and then transferring to a university. So I stayed back to go to the junior college because she was... wow I'm an idiot :confused:

Yeah, that was kind of dumb. Do you work?

I intern for an engineering firm mon-fri and work at the gym desk a few nights a week

Well keep yourself busy. Stop mooning over this girl. You are still young, there will be other girls in your life.
Maybe next semester try to go to a university.
You have a lot of life ahead of you. Don't get stuck on one person at such a young age.

Ok so an update.


I have been working on myself a lot the last month since we broke up (Yeah.. its been a month already) and have actually grown a lot from all of this. I have made myself look and feel better, and I'm starting to be happy again. But I still miss her, I miss everything about her and have not talked to her for 2 weeks. She is on vacation with her family and her birthday is the week after next. I know you all will disagree with me, but I would like to give the relationship another chance. If she does not initiate any contact by her birthday should I tell her happy birthday or would not saying anything at all make her miss me more because I would be out of her life?

Man trust me when I say I was feeling the same way. I know you miss her, and its going to take a wile for you to get over that. Just hang in there with the NC, it's a whole lot better then being confused. I wouldn't say anything to her on her birthday. I would just try and let go. If you guys are going to be together its going to be because of her, not because you text or didn't text her on her birthday. I made so many mistakes during our break up (trying to get her back) and thinking about her feelings and really wish I would have stuck with the NC. I honestly think we would have gave it another chance if I didn't push so much. Just try and move on.

What you think is going on?


We have very close mutual friends since we have all grown up together. And they told me some things tonight when we spoke.


They said she has every single picture up in her room... my hat on her dresser... notes I wrote to her... my jewelry to her... everything has not moved at all. They try and ask her about things and she will not answer. They said they don't know what's going on in her mind she will just change the subject or not answer. When they talk about me she just acts like everything is cool and she does not say anything?

Females are confusing arnt they

Dude, those stuffs don't mean much, well at least it depends. But don't make it a bright light for u. My 2nd ex is a coward and a weakling, she broke up through text, acted like a cold dummy after the break up and having fun texting some guy until she got clear that she's just trying to have fun and stopped, then she texted me. With all the bull saying she likes me, wants me to be her friend, there's one time I went to her house to talk things out, I found that she's still having the teddy bear I gave her to sleep with. So what the **** does that mean? It means nothing, she's just used to it. Those stuffs don't bring pain to the breaker, only to the breakee. I've broke up with my first ex and I am still keeping the stuffs in my room, no feel towards it anyway.

I wouldn't go as far and saying it means nothing, but I wouldn't pay too much attention to it. Honestly man until she says she wants you back, all the other stuff doesn't matter. I would continue with what you are doing and try not to think about her and what she is doing. It will only make things worse.

Ok so an update.


I have been working on myself a lot the last month since we broke up (Yeah..its been a month already) and have actually grown a lot from all of this. I have made myself look and feel better, and I'm starting to be happy again. But I still miss her, I miss everything about her and have not talked to her for 2 weeks. She is on vacation with her family and her birthday is the week after next. I know you all will disagree with me, but I would like to give the relationship another chance. If she does not initiate any contact by her birthday should I tell her happy birthday or would not saying anything at all make her miss me more because I would be out of her life?

If she has not contacted you it is because she either doesn't miss you or wants to get over you.
Unless she contacts you, leave her alone.

I don't know if anyone would agree with me on this, but I guess you could text her with a simple "Happy birthday, all the best". It is something a friend would do, and that's what she said she wants you to be, right?

The point is not to be a pushy kind of person, don't make her miss you. Just be her friend, a little, not her best friend obviously. But I don't know if you can actually have a relationship with her again. It will just be too hard, and as mentioned by someone in a thread before, they got their ex back and wish they didn't.

Good luck

Its now been 5 weeks. I can honestly say now I KNOW she will be back soon. But when she does I'm not taking her back... I'm done. Now I look back since the breakup and see who the real person she is, an ungrateful person and I do not like it. Time to find a real women when I move to la for college.

Its now been 5 weeks. I can honestly say now I KNOW she will be back soon. But when she does I'm not taking her back...I'm done. Now I look back since the breakup and see who the real person she is, an ungrateful person and I do not like it. Time to find a real women when I move to la for college.
So what brought this on? A day or so ago you were wanting her back wanting to wish her a happy birthday. Is she ungrateful because she does not want you back? That is her choice.
You need to move on.

Ok Its been 31 days no contact and been a month and a half since the breakup so for an *update* for how I'm feeling:

After the breakup I felt like my other half was gone and could not see myself ever without her. It was the worst feeling of my life. I felt as if I'd never find anyone that could compare and felt empty.

Its only been a month, but now I feel like I don't even want her back? Why do I feel such a way? Well I met a new, very good looking, and all around around awesome person.


I'm not sure why I no longer feel like I want her... maybe its just temporary. But next week I start college and she will be in my classes.

Any advice how I can act around her? I do not want to be her friend because I feel like I may be "friend zoned" and if in the future I want her back I'll be screwed.


Also I broke no contact only once, I did it on her b day (august 7th) to say "happy b day i hope you had a really good day!" and she replied with thank you sooo much. Then I didn't text her back

Yea I am in a similar situation, my girl broke up with me about 2 months ago, and I get texts fairly often saying I miss you and love you and hate sleeping alone. Then I go after her and try to hang out and she backs off and ignores me for a few days. You need to back off and let her have that space. If there is another guy then there is another guy, its not the end of the world. Most likely if there is one it is just her experimenting and is a rebound, 90% of them don't work out and sometimes it gets you back together more quickly. You need to act like you don't care if she does, make her think you have moved on. Don't go out of your way to make her jealous, but act kinda distant and always like you are doing something. Make her feel like she is losing you, and she will come back.

I'm in a similar boat... but I could not handle my girl being with someone else... why should she want to experiment... I did say to her that she should think long and hard, and don't do anything that she will regret... if she really does not want to come back then fine, but you can't go out, kiss another guy and then realise that I am your man...

I feel really sick at the thought of my girl kissing another guy... I'm sure the feeling is mutual...

When you see her be distant but polite.

Madb; Ok Its been 31 days no contact and been a month and a half since the breakup so for an *update* for how I'm feeling:

Good for you, and thanks for the update.


After the breakup I felt like my other half was gone and could not see myself ever without her. It was the worst feeling of my life. I felt as if I'd never find anyone that could compare and felt empty.

The feeling of loss is natural after breaking up with someone who was an important part of your life.


Its only been a month, but now I feel like I don't even want her back? Why do I feel such a way? Well I met a new, very good looking, and all around around awesome person.

Its natural also to replace that person with another, and since your happy, of course you don't want her back right now.


I'm not sure why I no longer feel like I want her... maybe its just temporary. But next week I start college and she will be in my classes.

So what, your happy now. Why throw a damper on what happens when you see her?


Any advice how I can act around her? I do not want to be her friend because I feel like I may be "friend zoned" and if in the future I want her back I'll be screwed.

Look dude, you said your happy, and don't want her back, worrying about the friend zone is only confusing yourself for nothing. If you were truly over her and are really moving on, then you wouldn't mind just being friends. If you truly had accepted that what you had is over, You would be worried about another chance.

Your either lying to yourself, or lying to us, OR BOTH!!


Also I broke no contact only once, I did it on her b day (august 7th) to say "happy b day i hope you had a really good day!" and she replied with thank you sooo much. Then I didn't text her back

Then let it drop, you did a good deed, got thanked, and that's the end of that subject.

Be polite when you see her in class, say hi, and go about your business. Anything else is overkill, and will only lead you backward into emotional confusion.

She was pretty honest and clear. To do so, and break up in a relationship is hard even for experienced people in this field. She did it great, no offence and move on man, no hopes, just you and new beginning. You need some time to go over this pain and after you guys may go back to friendship. But first things first...

Good luck.

Ok so my girlfriend and I have been absolute best friends and in love for 2 years. Everything was fine but we sometimes fought no big deal.

First of all you never fight with a female. You'll never win.


We graduated from highschool this month and I went on vacation for a week with my family. Came back and it was all fine. Last monday night she told me out of nowhere she only likes me as a friend now and needs space.

"Out of nowhere" Dude she's been feeling like this for a while now. Whenever a female tells you that she only likes as a friend and you hear the word "SPACE" Its over dude... shes lost interest in you all together.


I told her she needs her space because for like a year and a half she never has spent time with friends, just lived a life consumed with me.

Dude this is a major problem. You spent too much time together. You became too familiar with her. You had no self-control, and you definitely wasn't a challenge. You probably spent so much time together that she never had a chance to wonder what you are doing, or time to even miss you. Spending too much time together is a big no no... Her interest level stooped very low.


I went and talked to her 3 times since last monday and she still says the same things. That she hasnt eaten all week and misses me but we need to move on and needs space and if its meant to be its meant to be. I talked to her on myspace and she told me she needs me in her life as a friend and i told her I need her to be my women or nothing.

Drop this girl man. Its over. Go NO-CONTACT... SHE CONTRADICTING HERSELF LISTEN... SHE MISSES YOU BUT You NEED TO MOVE ON... AND THE WORD SPACE AGAIN... THIS GIRL IS A LOON... DROP THIS GIRL... MOVE ON... SHE WANTS TO STAY FRIENDS TO KEEP THAT STRING ATTACHED TO YOU... MOVE ON DUDE.


What do I do? I know I need to cut off contact and hopefully she goes crazy wondering what I'm doing because she is used to being with me 24/7 and comes back. Any advice or input is much appreciated, thank you.

Honestly dude she is not going crazy over you she's already moved on. Count your losses, learn from your mistakes, and move on...

We all have been through this.

I agree it is better to not get involved in an type of relationship with her not even friends.

If you want to still be friends that is one thing but to me she broke up with you so it should be your call if you want to remain friends or do NC. Why should the one who broke up have everything their way?

Thanks for all the responses guys!


I appreciate all the advice, and you're all right. Move on now that I'm happy because if I go back to her then this will lead me back to square one. When school starts on Monday I'll be nice like the type of person I am, but treat her like we never dated.

Well there we go, that wasn't so hard lol. You'll see that life is much better without our exes.

Respect her wishes right now. She wants her space and her own time. Your both young yet and that is only fair to both of you. Your emotions are flying right now and your thinking all kinds of things. Stay focused on you, as hard as it is. If it's meant to be it will happen someday, if not, there is nothing you can do to change things. The more you push and bother her and talk, they just go the other way. Work on you.

He said he moved on.

Dude... the best thing you can do is focus on yourself!
Always look to improve who you are.. in any way possible, whether it be physically, socially, academically etc..
You sound like a cool guy.. and you know the score - this chick is not meant for you, she's bad news.. focus on yourself, forget about her.. continue NC.
Your life is WAY more important than hers... you're going to look back in 5 years and be glad that u spent time improving yourself during your time of heartache.. it'll make u a stronger and more complete person... I went to Africa to help underprivileged kids.. helped me immensely with my breakup... if I can do it, so can u!
Good Luck!

Thanks for all the responses guys!


I appreciate all the advice, and you're all right. Move on now that I'm happy because if I go back to her then this will lead me back to square one. When school starts on monday I'll be nice like the type of person I am, but treat her like we never dated.

Don't try nor move on. Just keep it casual :) Jus like you were in your kid days

Classes start tomorrow... this is going to suck

Yep, and with that lots of parties and girls lol... look at the positive side.

I saw her today it was not good. She came into class and didn't see me and sat a couple rows in front of me. When the professor called my name she said "Hey bran I didnt see you...heeey" then I just looked at her and said hi.

After class we talked for a bit and she asked about my new streetbike and then talked about how she is much happier single and happy she broke up with me when she did so she could have summer with her friends. Then said she likes being single, doesn't want a boyfriend blah blah blah. She seems like a whole new person, acts and looks different.

Blah... just let it go man... she is pushing your buttons...

She knows talking to you about "how good it is to be single" and "leaving you was the best thing" is all stuff she is saying to piss you off. Such a low down and despicable thing to do if you asked me.

Don't pay attention to her at all. Let her "enjoy" her single life and her friends. You move along with your life and enjoy yourself too. Don't listen to her poison as its not helping you, but she feels good seeing the pain in your eyes when she tells you this stuff...

Thanks blackVY, that's a real good point. On another note the day was pretty good, found some nice new ladies in my classes that I can meet :)

Awesomeness... and with that bike, shouldn't be hard... Ladies love a guy with a hot bike... :)

What bike is it anyway?

As I said, uni is a great place to meet women, except if you're an electrical engineer guy... like me :(.

Haha... I know the feeling... When I was in uni, I did a Computer engineering degree... percentage of women in the classes was around the 3% mark... so sad...

But what me and the guys did was we skipped some classes and took some weird electives such as psychology and DAMN!! So many beautiful smart women in there.. it was awesome.. :)

Haha I'm in a junior college for this semester and there are still tons of good looking girls. Just need to talk to them when I go back.

And black, it's a suzuki gsxr 1000. Good for picking up the ladies!

That's cool... good luck with that... and yeah, a great bike always helps...

My friend has the Honda CBR 1000 I think... crazy thing...

Haha... I know the feeling... When I was in uni, I did a Computer engineering degree... percentage of women in the classes was around the 3% mark... so sad...

But what me and the guys did was we skipped some classes and took some weird electives such as psychology and DAMN!!! So many beautiful smart women in there.. it was awesome.. :)

I know it's sad, especially since there's more girl than guys in university... I guess going to parties and activities in the uni might be a good idea as I do have to finish my degree one day, I can't take just random classes lol.

As I said, uni is a great place to meet women, except if you're an electrical engineer guy... like me :(.

LOL straight on brother.
Third year of electrical engineering here. Out of 80 students there's like 2 women.

LOL straight on brother.
Third year of electrical engineering here. out of 80 students there's like 2 women.

4th year electrical engineer... I don't even count the guys, and the girls look like guys... talking about odds. One of my friends told me that once we leave uni it's going to be much harder to meet women... well I think he was wrong. Since we have such low odds we'll get much more chance later on. Beside I do hope to get into some parties this year since it has been a long time since I've been single...

Yeah cbr's are badass!


2nd day of school and met 3 more girls... doing good, doing good! Hahaha

I guess I'll give an *update* since I'm stuck at the school doing work and maybe you all want to know how things are now.

Been 2 and a half months since breakup


Now it's the 3rd week of school and things are pretty sketchy. We don't talk at all or even say hi in class and we sit next to each other. She is a pretty different person. Looks way different and parties pretty hard and she never used to party. Basically, I don't even care about her anymore.

Really weird how someone could be the center of your life for sooo long then not even care about them after 2 months.

Yeah it happens man... the person you knew and cared about is gone... she has changed and so have you...

Time heals and people grow apart and change.
But you do still care, there is still a bit of pain and even bitterness in your update.
But you are improving.