Hey all,
I need to know what the average guy thinks about a woman who is 33, single, hasn't been in a relationship for the past 7.5 years, and has never had sex. I've been trying the internet dating thing but have run into a lot of guys who are ONLY interested in sex and I don't just want to fall into bed with just anyone. I've only ever had one boyfriend and we didn't get to having sex (although now I'm beginning to wonder if maybe that was my one and only chance). I feel like I am very much on the outside of society and internet dating continually shows me that I am very inexperienced. I know it's unusual to be this old and not have had sex, especially since I'm not really religious but I really don't know how to deal with the dating scene right now. Any help would be much appreciated.

Life is what's next. You are a single woman who is 33, don't let anyone pressure you into doing what you don't want to do! You are a RARE find being a Virgin and all, But, other than that you are a single 33 year old Woman.
With that being said, I am a 33 year old Man who is not a virgin, and I will be honest and say that since I have already had sex I don't think I could go very long without it! LOL
But, If you stick it out and just continue doing the things you do You will find someone that doesn't want you just for sex.
My main point of advice, when you meet a guy, whether online or in person do not tell them you are a virgin, guys seem to think that when a girl says that it becomes a conquest for them. Just tell them you like to move slow because you are a cautious person, and when you do find the right guy, when the time comes then tell them.

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. If you are not meeting the right kind of guys for you through the internet, then you need to find a new place to meet men. What are your interests? Join groups based on your interests and you will find men who have the same interests as you. That will give you more to talk about.

Chances are, any man you meet will be interested in sex. But if they have real feelings for you they will be willing to wait until you are ready.

There are lots of places to meet people. Some suggestions:
Book Club
Bowling League
Church Choir
Cooking Class
Poetry Readings
Volunteer Work

Just be true to yourself and people will see you as genuine.

Hello k:

Look. EVERYBODY is interested in sex - you too. Yes, even the guys you meet at the bowling alley want to do it to you. And, you want it to be done...

So, now that THAT'S out of the way, you got to just jump in with both feet. Sex is FUN, after all.

Go out. Go do what you like doing. Make yourself sexy. Meet a guy. Invite him for lunch.. Don't make it an interview. It's just lunch. When you meet the right one, you don't have to DO much else - nature does it for you.

But, you got to put yourself out there.

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Hi Dear,

I am 29 and virgin too, I can undersatnd what you are feeling... its like... a feeling piching inside yourself...

What I will suggest is as you are a women you can get a nice guy as you are in modren country...

Find a nice guy feel your comfort zone... and then get involve in physical realtionship////

It will help you a lot.. as not getting sexual exp you will feel ignored.

I need to congratulate you that you are still a virgin at this age. You are a rare gem. You only need to work on yourself to be able to enter a stable relationship. Learn to accept people for who they are and not what you expect from them. I'll encourage you to maintain that tresure until marriage. Your future husband will chrish you for life. I wish you all the best.

Who cares that you're a 33 year old virgin? (Only you by the sounds of it).

It's not what defines you - I'm sure you are many other things and just because you've not yet had sex, that doesn't make you unusual or abnormal.

Keep doing the internet thing, but try and meet guys in other ways as well. Your virginity is only your business, and as others have said, it's to be treasured not derided.

What you need to do is establish friendships with guys - believe it or not they can be great friends and there are many that will like you without wanting to get into your pants.

Develop some confidence - wear nice clothes, lipstick and have a great hairstyle. When you feel good about yourself you won't worry as much about your virginity.

That's awesome that you are still a virgin. At 33. Nothing wrong with that at all. You are waiting for the right person. Believe me, I wish I stayed a virgin until I married. I lost my virginity at 18 but I have accepted that mistake...

You should actually use that as a positive thing, not a negative quality. Not to sound why or anything... I want to be straight up. Do you think maybe you haven't been in a relationship because of something you are doing wrong. PLEASE DON'T HATE ME lol I am being open and truthful. Perhaps you work a lot? Or your appearance isn't at its best? Take a good look at yourself. You don't have to have sex... but you do want to find a husband materal type of a man. Like I said. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, but are you approachable to any kind of man? Check yourself.

Again, don't be mad. I am only giving you an opinion.

I agree with most posts here... there's no shame being a virgin. Sex is good... but sex without romance is worst.

Have sex with feelings. It's awesome.

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Stop looking for Mr. Right, and start enjoying your dating experience and have fun with it. Be open to new experiences and activities, that will bring new friends to enjoy. If your having a great time a good guy will want to share it with you.

Relax!

I was going to ask them if they were close to Atlanta, if they were interested in a wonderful older preacher.
Sounds like a wonderful catch