I am about to get back in the process of looking for a house. A year and a half ago I looked by myself with a realtor(old). She seemed to not be doing to good of a good job and the timimg conflict so I stopped looking for a house. Three months ago me and my girlfriend of 9 yrs started looking with this realtor(new) that was recommended to her. Everything started good from my eye. She (realtor) paid attn to what we were looking for and anything that could help us she referred us to. Well by my g/f talking with her(realtor) all the time she starting gathering suspision. After a few sessions of looking and hearing about the money figures(I don't think she really grasp what the realtor was saying as far as the down payment an closing being paid) we need she says she's not worried about getting a house anymore, and one reason is that she doesn't trust the realtor around me(she is newly single and has been kind of flirty). So I keep pushing the issue with no avail. So then I say I will just look for a house for myself and she says go ahead. Now every time I bring up a house she says for me to get a house and she will just move with me. Thing is I am sort of comfortable with the realtor(I don't want the hassle of changing realtors and plus she has been better than the last realtor) but she g/f)(my doesn't want me to use her because of her flirtyness and knowing where we would stay. Would I be wrong to use the realtor to avoid having to find another one? I think if I do use her my girl will be mad for a while but she isn't in the deal anymore it is just me. Honest opinions please?

My g/f isn't jealous of the realtor, Just more cautious. If I put up all the funds I will be the only one on the deed(im no jack@$$).
Hope this is more clear.

Let me try and figure out "she's" and "hers" here.

Your girlfriend is jealous of your realtor.
You don't think your girlfriend is real clear on the up-front costs of buying a house.
Is this the girlfriend's reason for jealousy? Feeling ignorant?

Your girlfriend has bowed out of the purchase process.
You want to know if continuing to use this realtor will cause further problems with the girlfriend.

Probably. Changing realtors may not help a lot if it's an inadequacy issue with the girlfriend.

Have the realator ever gave you any indictation that she likes you? Or is your girlfriend uncomfortable with you being around females period?

Also are you planning on putting your girlfriend name on the deed? If so, be careful because she will own half of the house.

All these views and only 2 decided to post replys. They didn't exactly answer my question. I'm only looking for honest answers. Everyone has their opinion. What's yours?

all these views and only 2 decided to post replys. they didn't exactly answer my question. i'm only looking for honest answers. Everyone has their opinion. What's yours?

If I didn't answer the question, please restate it.

Your question is a bit confusing especially given you have been together for 9 years? That's incredible that she is "cautious" of the realtor.

My take is tell her up front what your doing, and then do it, as I can't see why it makes a bit of difference to her. If she isn't coming up with cash to help, then you let her know that its your house you bought.

I just don't see why you would have to be sneaky with a partner of 9 years, unless you didn't trust her, or have intentions of getting rid of her. You do want her to move in with you don't you? Or is the real issue she ain't got her part of the cash? Will she pay rent if she moves in? What's up with this deal really? It has to be more than just a cute realtor at issue.