My name is lili, I would like to ask you guys for an opinion of something, Well I have been dating this guy for like 1 year and so far this is what’s happening. We met and for me it was love at first sight. And for him too I think? But we moved in together after a couple of months and that didn't work because we argued all the time, so we decided he should just move out and just date to see how it we could make this work out. At first I was hurt because I felt like I was doing something wrong, But through time I noticed that even though we were not living together it was still the same. He would come over and just seat there. And not say anything and when I tried to be with him you can tell he didn't like the fact that I was approaching him, I am like okay now we haven't seen each other and all you can say is that I am being to aggressive, and than he reassures me that he loves me, I don’t' know, Now x-mas time is coming, last year we went to my parents house so this year he wants to go to his,, But I just asked him a couple of days.. that It would be nice if his parents came over my parents house for thanksgiving so they can meet, well he said he wasn’t ready to do that yet…?lol? His talking about all this getting married and than he says that, well now its even worse because I work fulltime and go to school full time and we never really get to see each other plus we do talk but he never says anything, it gets in my last nerves, so anyway I don’t know what to do, should I let him go right now or wait till he does, because I think its bound to happened? Ohh yeah and he says his not used to moving so fast and that blah.. blah.. I know I love him and letting him go its going to hurt me but I can tell his not happy but I’ve also tried to let him go but he always says that he is going to change….Someone please tell me something….. :rolleyes:

Let him go girl. YOU are not happy. It's YOUR life, YOUR decision. If you have already tried talking to him, and that didn't work, there's nothing else you can do. Move on. You will be glad you did.

Are you happy in such a relationship?

Are you happy in such a relationship?!

I am not happy, I do care about him he has helped me alots in the last year and really he is sweet when he wants attention and that's like once a month , sometimes I think its me, maybe I not what he wants, and if that's the case why don't he just tell me already.. I have to tell him what to do and what to say,, I would like to think he doesn't know any better, hmm I 'm giving excuses huh..

If you're not happy, stop trying. I'm sure you want to make this work out, but there is no need to continue to make yourself miserable here. Continuing to stay in this relationship is only going to make your spirit lower. Go out and be on your own for a while and don't forget that there are thousands of other fish in the sea out there waiting for you.

Give your spirit time to heal, leave this man.