sol714
Jun 25, 2009, 02:10 PM
First, I just wanted to say hi to everyone, I’m new to this forum. I hope to help answer and help resolve as many question as I can here. We’ll if you guys don’t mind this is a going to be a long one. So I want to apologize in advance.
This girl and I have known each other for about 8 to 9 months now. I actually met her through a mutual friend, but she actually started talking with me first. Even though she told me her first impression of me was a bad one, because I didn't talk with her the first time we met. Later on she still ended up approaching me and we eventually became great friends. Over the past few month I realize I’m starting to fall for her. The problem is she has a boyfriend that she cares about tremendously. She tells me that she loves him, but not in love with him. Eventually I built up enough courage to tell her how I felt about her. She tells me that she have thought about being with me, but doesn’t want to break her boyfriend heart. I told her I understand, but because this is hard for me and because I don’t want to complicate her life. I think it would be best if stop being friends. At first she tells me that’s she OK with it, but a few hours later. She text me telling me she can’t do this and she doesn’t want to lose a friend like me. She also said that there must be some way to save our friendship. I told her that we could try to be friend and see where it takes us.
Now it's getting worst, because I’m starting to falling in love with her, so I tried to end the friendship again. I told her that this isn’t working, because being friends with her only made it worst. I told her that I was falling in love with her. She then tells me that she wanted to talk to me in person instead of me doing this over the phone. So we met up and talked about the situation. After a few hours we both decided that we should stop being friends. We gave each other a big hug and said our good bye. While I was driving home she sent me a text saying that she can’t do this and that she’s so sorry and that she wish everything were different. She then tells me that she doesn’t want to lose me and tells me that I mean so much to her. I then told her that this was the right thing to do for both of us even though it hurts like hell, but we’ll eventually get over it. She then said “there must be something we can do and that she only have one life and she don’t want to lose what she know can be great” and ask me if I care about her so much, why do I keep breaking her heart. After awhile we ended up staying friends.
Recently we got into a huge argument and I really mess up, I basically called her a liar and was yelling at her, which I feel horrible for doing. During the argument she tells me that her boyfriend is sweet, caring, and understanding. Then she said that he’s everything that I’m not. After she said that, I could feel my heart just ripped apart. I don’t think she realize what she said actually broke my heart. She then tells me to figure out if this friendship means anything to me and hung up on me. I sent a text telling her I’m sorry and a couple hour later she responded telling me that she forgive me.
She’s a great friend and I honestly can’t ask for a better friend, but I just wish these feelings would go away. But what I want to know is, should I just stop any sort of contact with her? Or should I stay friends with her and hope these feelings eventually go away? Also I was wondering if anyone could help me figure out what she really wants. She says I’m just her friend and that she doesn’t feel the same way, but she fights so hard to keep our friendship and tells me she don’t want me out of her life and that needs me. She’s even went as far to make time to hang out with me without her boyfriend, because she knows that seeing them together is hard for me. She tells me her boyfriend said he’s OK with this. I personally don’t understand how any guy can be OK with this. But that’s just me.
Thanks for reading my post and I really hope someone can provide me some suggestion of what I should do and what you guys think she might be thinking.
Thanks.
This girl and I have known each other for about 8 to 9 months now. I actually met her through a mutual friend, but she actually started talking with me first. Even though she told me her first impression of me was a bad one, because I didn't talk with her the first time we met. Later on she still ended up approaching me and we eventually became great friends. Over the past few month I realize I’m starting to fall for her. The problem is she has a boyfriend that she cares about tremendously. She tells me that she loves him, but not in love with him. Eventually I built up enough courage to tell her how I felt about her. She tells me that she have thought about being with me, but doesn’t want to break her boyfriend heart. I told her I understand, but because this is hard for me and because I don’t want to complicate her life. I think it would be best if stop being friends. At first she tells me that’s she OK with it, but a few hours later. She text me telling me she can’t do this and she doesn’t want to lose a friend like me. She also said that there must be some way to save our friendship. I told her that we could try to be friend and see where it takes us.
Now it's getting worst, because I’m starting to falling in love with her, so I tried to end the friendship again. I told her that this isn’t working, because being friends with her only made it worst. I told her that I was falling in love with her. She then tells me that she wanted to talk to me in person instead of me doing this over the phone. So we met up and talked about the situation. After a few hours we both decided that we should stop being friends. We gave each other a big hug and said our good bye. While I was driving home she sent me a text saying that she can’t do this and that she’s so sorry and that she wish everything were different. She then tells me that she doesn’t want to lose me and tells me that I mean so much to her. I then told her that this was the right thing to do for both of us even though it hurts like hell, but we’ll eventually get over it. She then said “there must be something we can do and that she only have one life and she don’t want to lose what she know can be great” and ask me if I care about her so much, why do I keep breaking her heart. After awhile we ended up staying friends.
Recently we got into a huge argument and I really mess up, I basically called her a liar and was yelling at her, which I feel horrible for doing. During the argument she tells me that her boyfriend is sweet, caring, and understanding. Then she said that he’s everything that I’m not. After she said that, I could feel my heart just ripped apart. I don’t think she realize what she said actually broke my heart. She then tells me to figure out if this friendship means anything to me and hung up on me. I sent a text telling her I’m sorry and a couple hour later she responded telling me that she forgive me.
She’s a great friend and I honestly can’t ask for a better friend, but I just wish these feelings would go away. But what I want to know is, should I just stop any sort of contact with her? Or should I stay friends with her and hope these feelings eventually go away? Also I was wondering if anyone could help me figure out what she really wants. She says I’m just her friend and that she doesn’t feel the same way, but she fights so hard to keep our friendship and tells me she don’t want me out of her life and that needs me. She’s even went as far to make time to hang out with me without her boyfriend, because she knows that seeing them together is hard for me. She tells me her boyfriend said he’s OK with this. I personally don’t understand how any guy can be OK with this. But that’s just me.
Thanks for reading my post and I really hope someone can provide me some suggestion of what I should do and what you guys think she might be thinking.
Thanks.