omega_red_08
Jun 24, 2009, 07:39 AM
My girlfriend says we lost our spark a couple of months ago. I'm about to have a meltdown literally. We had our rough patches and things were going great I thought. This morning we had an argument about me asking questions. I admit I asked her 2 questions about how she was feeling and she tore me a new one. She said that all I ever do is ask questions. That our conversations are always her talking and me asking questions. This is not entirely true. Communication has never been our strongest point. Car rides usually involve her text messaging and me listening to her music. Trying to talk to her or changing the station only makes things worse. It's very insulting to me and I've asked her to not do it but she says she has too.
We fought the entire ride to work and she has been texting me all morning talking about "Are we going to break up?" and all that. It's making me insane. She threw me under the bus and said that our problems are because of me. It's my asking questions all the time, not showing her how much I love her, the fact that I always correct her and the fact that I believe I'm better than everyone else because, as she put it, I have a degree, that is causing all the drama. She says that in the 2 years we have been dating that I have never gotten her a card, flowers or any little thing to show her how much I love her. Apparently, I also put on a mask of a good guy in public but at home I'm a demon. What she fails to see is that, every time and, literally, every time we go out she always gets something. She gets clothes, jewelry, and other little nick nacks that she will literally stand there and cry and pout for.
She fails to see all the big purchases I made for her. I bought a house prematurely because she wanted to move out of our apartment. I told her I planned to save money for a down payment on a house in town but we got a cheap single wide instead. Even now she isn't happy with the home because it's not the one she wanted only the one we could afford. I got a car for her put in my name to get her out of a higher car payment. I spent over 600 dollars on stuff she wanted for our yard, including a small fish pond. I'm in the process of getting a porch and deck built because she wants it.
I'm just so mad at me for going along with her and not standing up for what I think was right. I feel like I can never win. Everyday she comes up with something new to trash me about.
I'm venting and probably rambling but it's getting to the point where it is taking an emotional toll on me. I'm sure she could get on here and post her side and paint me just like I have painted her and it's unfair of me to do this but I have no other way to cope.
I guess the question is: Is our relationship beyond repair? It was going great then this happened today.
We fought the entire ride to work and she has been texting me all morning talking about "Are we going to break up?" and all that. It's making me insane. She threw me under the bus and said that our problems are because of me. It's my asking questions all the time, not showing her how much I love her, the fact that I always correct her and the fact that I believe I'm better than everyone else because, as she put it, I have a degree, that is causing all the drama. She says that in the 2 years we have been dating that I have never gotten her a card, flowers or any little thing to show her how much I love her. Apparently, I also put on a mask of a good guy in public but at home I'm a demon. What she fails to see is that, every time and, literally, every time we go out she always gets something. She gets clothes, jewelry, and other little nick nacks that she will literally stand there and cry and pout for.
She fails to see all the big purchases I made for her. I bought a house prematurely because she wanted to move out of our apartment. I told her I planned to save money for a down payment on a house in town but we got a cheap single wide instead. Even now she isn't happy with the home because it's not the one she wanted only the one we could afford. I got a car for her put in my name to get her out of a higher car payment. I spent over 600 dollars on stuff she wanted for our yard, including a small fish pond. I'm in the process of getting a porch and deck built because she wants it.
I'm just so mad at me for going along with her and not standing up for what I think was right. I feel like I can never win. Everyday she comes up with something new to trash me about.
I'm venting and probably rambling but it's getting to the point where it is taking an emotional toll on me. I'm sure she could get on here and post her side and paint me just like I have painted her and it's unfair of me to do this but I have no other way to cope.
I guess the question is: Is our relationship beyond repair? It was going great then this happened today.