My best friend is currently in emotionally abusive relationship. She claims he doesn't hit her but she constantly has bruises on her body.

Her boyfriend of 5 yrs cheats, lies, mistreats her, doesn't work for like 3 yrs, he isn't supportive of her going to school or working and on top of that she always finds numbers of other girls in his pocket. So, of course she confronts him he denies it. They get into huge fight. He doesn't pay rent or pay bills but he lives with her, but what pisses me off is that she helps him pay for his child support so, he doesn't go to jail and he still doing this behavior to her.

He states that she's psyco and extremely jealous but I've told him that he gives her reason to act like that because honestly my best friend is very attractive female. Guys always hit on her and she turns them down. I never tell her to leave him but I hate to see her in lots of pain. Her relationship is unhealthy, they don't have kids together, no one in her family likes him or do her friends like him, she has to hide from talking to us to avoid agruments with him. He constantly tells her he would rather leave her and go live in homeless shelter then to be with her but he doesn't leave. Why? And What can I do to help her see through this unhealthy relationship. Please Help!!

Get her out or there,

But if you can't,

Support her and let her learn on her own,

If he starts to hit her,

You call the cops.

IMO, all the best

As a friend, it sucks to have to sit back and watch this, but know it isn't as easy as you think it may be to help. In these situations I fear all you can do is just be there when and if she needs you. Unfortunately this is something she is going to have to make a decision for herself about, and no matter how much you try and convince her otherwise, until she sees the relationship as condeming to her life, nothing will change.

Be there when she needs you and support her through this. She will ultimately decide if this relationship isn't for her. Sometimes being a good friend is knowing when not to say the things that are on your mind, but just to rather be there with open arms, no matter what. This is that time. If he is hitting her, there are obvious steps that SHE needs to take to rectify that. Good luck!

I agree with KC. Unfortunately the best thing you can do is just be there for her. She needs to make these decisions on her own. Hopefully she's not too far off from realizing she needs to leave him.

Does anyone thing he will leave her like he says he would? Every time they agure he always threats her he'll leave but doesn't?

She told me that she would rather get left then leaving him because other wise it's to difficult for her, I'm a witness that she did leave him for like 1 mth and she was really depressed she went to go look for him they got back together and her situation seems to have gotton worse.

Maybe all of her friends and family should have some sort of intervention for your friend. It might or not work but it is worth a shot.

You have to realize that people of abused are victims. Some are strong enough to leave once they get fed up but most stay until they are carry out in a body bag. Hate to say that but it is the truth.

Your friend have to want to change and break free from this guy because the longer she stays the more of a hold he will have over her.

You asked "will he leave?" I doubt it! Your friend is paying his way (including child support) while he sits around and literally treats her like crap. He doesn't have to work, he can cheat all he wants, then smack her around, tell her what to do like he is a child--no he isn't leaving.

Your friend should more focus on the abused she is receiving from him instead of his cheated ways. I bet he even tells her it is her fault when he hits her.

When my friend was getting abused my friend and I went and dragged her the house kicking and screaming. She hated us for it but now she thanks us everyday for it because if we hadn't she would have still been there but she is doing so much better. We all are so proud of her.

Make your friend watch "What love got to do it (Tina Turner story) and "Enough (with Jlo). I am sorry about your friend and I know you hate to see her go through this especially when she can do a lot better and deserves better but hopefully she will see the light. If she can't see it on her own again have an intervention with her and you can call 1-800-799-safe (if your in the US) and they can help give you ideas. Your last result is to call Steve Walkos--he might can help before it is too late.