vminyard
Jun 17, 2009, 09:18 PM
Ok, I think I may have been a little vague."Andy" is my son's father, we were together 7 months,I had plans to go to a southern college and had even already bought a house int the region and he was going into the airforce, I got pregnant and found out AFTER we broke up.. (we had been broken up approx 4 weeks I was 7 weeks pregnant when I found out). I called and informed him that I was expecting and his exact words were "I DONT KNOW HOW WE HVENT DONE ANYTHING".. KNOWING that we had.I can honestly say I never cheated on him although he cheated 2 times... once with a woman and once with a MAN.. I was shocked also.
Weeks went on with no communication then my mother and his mother began communicating, they live in polar opposite ends of the nation. She seemed excited about the baby but also said she had doubts if Andy was the father, this upset me but I pushed all feelings aside and kept respectful of her and even her son whom was openly denying my son to everyone including mutual friends.Andy showed up to the 20 week sonogram and acted like a proud poppa (which made me sick seeing as how he was telling everyone he was not the father)but put on a BIG show for my family who also was attending.
Andy left for the airforce and my mother and grandmother went to see him off for basic. I could not attend, I was VERY sick and it also made me uncomfortable to be around someone who was talking so ill about me and my character.He brought a bag with a bag of diapers,a toy,a teether, and some wipes.My mother planned me a shower and invited his mother and father (his mother lives states away while his father lives merely minutes away)his mother said she would come.when I was 17 weeks pregnant I met a man I had went to middle school with, we were both trying to get up on our feet in hard circumstances and decided we would befriend one another and support each other, we fell in love and sadly he left for the army."Blake"(my husband) knew of my pregnancy and was willing to take on both me and my son."Blake" sent money, and supported me and my son while he was away, all the while nobody had heard from Andy.
When I was 30 weeks, my baby shower came and his mother sent a crib and a box with books,a blanket and a toy, but could apparently not attend but said she would be there for the birth.I sent picture texts of sonograms to both Andy and his mother (whom at this point had a very ill will towards me since she had been told lies by her son).Andy told several mutual friends when he was drinking that he had no plan on being there for my son and also said that he went into the military FOR my son, which was a lie.
When my son was born, Andy said he could not be on the birth certificate because the airforce would not allow it.My son's birth certificate at the moment still says FatherUnknown and I refuse to send him to kindergarten with that.Andy's mother did not show up for the birth either but said she'd come down when he was 4 months.Andy also said he'd be coming to see him when he was 2 months.I sent a picture of him every day for nearly 3 months.I got married when my son was 4 months, and neither andy's mother nor himself has attempted to make any contact.I have been very civil, but I am now done playing Mr.Nice Guy. My husband is supporting my son and thinks of him as his own, he loves my son with everything in him.My son is nearly 6 months old and I want to know how to pull any rights what so ever that his biological father may have.This man isn't worth the spit his mother put in to make him.please help.I don't want support from him, I don't want benefits, I don't want anything but for this man to get out of my son's life before he ever has the chance to hurt him.thank you.
Weeks went on with no communication then my mother and his mother began communicating, they live in polar opposite ends of the nation. She seemed excited about the baby but also said she had doubts if Andy was the father, this upset me but I pushed all feelings aside and kept respectful of her and even her son whom was openly denying my son to everyone including mutual friends.Andy showed up to the 20 week sonogram and acted like a proud poppa (which made me sick seeing as how he was telling everyone he was not the father)but put on a BIG show for my family who also was attending.
Andy left for the airforce and my mother and grandmother went to see him off for basic. I could not attend, I was VERY sick and it also made me uncomfortable to be around someone who was talking so ill about me and my character.He brought a bag with a bag of diapers,a toy,a teether, and some wipes.My mother planned me a shower and invited his mother and father (his mother lives states away while his father lives merely minutes away)his mother said she would come.when I was 17 weeks pregnant I met a man I had went to middle school with, we were both trying to get up on our feet in hard circumstances and decided we would befriend one another and support each other, we fell in love and sadly he left for the army."Blake"(my husband) knew of my pregnancy and was willing to take on both me and my son."Blake" sent money, and supported me and my son while he was away, all the while nobody had heard from Andy.
When I was 30 weeks, my baby shower came and his mother sent a crib and a box with books,a blanket and a toy, but could apparently not attend but said she would be there for the birth.I sent picture texts of sonograms to both Andy and his mother (whom at this point had a very ill will towards me since she had been told lies by her son).Andy told several mutual friends when he was drinking that he had no plan on being there for my son and also said that he went into the military FOR my son, which was a lie.
When my son was born, Andy said he could not be on the birth certificate because the airforce would not allow it.My son's birth certificate at the moment still says FatherUnknown and I refuse to send him to kindergarten with that.Andy's mother did not show up for the birth either but said she'd come down when he was 4 months.Andy also said he'd be coming to see him when he was 2 months.I sent a picture of him every day for nearly 3 months.I got married when my son was 4 months, and neither andy's mother nor himself has attempted to make any contact.I have been very civil, but I am now done playing Mr.Nice Guy. My husband is supporting my son and thinks of him as his own, he loves my son with everything in him.My son is nearly 6 months old and I want to know how to pull any rights what so ever that his biological father may have.This man isn't worth the spit his mother put in to make him.please help.I don't want support from him, I don't want benefits, I don't want anything but for this man to get out of my son's life before he ever has the chance to hurt him.thank you.