I have had it often, but the 'afterward' pain is what kills me! The during part is bearable, slightly enjoyable, but the week after is pain, bloody stool, and a lot of standing!! When, if ever, will I stop having this aftermath torture?:eek:

What kind of anal sex are you HAVING?

Occasionally--VERY occasionally--I'll have bloody stool, and discomfort for a few HOURS.

You should see your doctor about this.

Yes see your doc it could be something else that is going on in your colon. Do you use lubricate? You should try to have a rectal exam, because what you are describing is not normal.

I had the type of bleeding you are describing after I gave birth to my son. Doc said he though it could have been a hemorrhoid.

Good luck and take care of yourself.

Yes, a few hours but not for that long. You need to see your doctor

What every one here said is right, see a doctor.

It sounds as if the sex is creating a lesion, or rubbing the anal canal raw. In any case, please see your doctor as it could be anything and it could potentially be serious.

I would also question participating in a sexual activity that is painful and that hurts you. This may be your choice, but there are a multitude of other things that you can choose to do which are enjoyable!

When done properly it should not hurt or bleed! This is very rare!

There needs to be lots of preparation, lots of lubricant and a partner willing to go at YOUR pace.

I have slight discomfort for maybe 5-10 minutes afterwards but never any bleeding!

Tell your partner to stop being so rough! Go to your doctor as well and get checked out for heameroids (sorry can't spell that!)

i have had it often, but the 'afterward' pain is what kills me! the during part is bearable, slightly enjoyable, but the week after is pain, bloody stool, and a lot of standing!!!! when, if ever, will i stop having this aftermath torture?:eek:If you have ANY blood at all you are not doing it right, or using enough lube. You should NEVER have any bleeding at all. And it should not be painful at all afterwards. And I am talking from over 25 years of experience with back door sex.

i have had it often, but the 'afterward' pain is what kills me! the during part is bearable, slightly enjoyable, but the week after is pain, bloody stool, and a lot of standing!!!! when, if ever, will i stop having this aftermath torture?:eek:

That's an exit door, not an entrance. There's your problem.

That's an exit door, not an entrance. There's your problem.
You do NOT know what you are missing by leaving that out of your bag of tricks cozyk. Lots, and I mean LOTS of nerve endings there make it enjoyible.

Key is go slowly, (if there is pain you aren't allowing enough time to relax and moving too fast) and use lots of lube and the anus does not self lube.

That's an exit door, not an entrance. There's your problem.

This is the OP CHOICE, as you have your own. That doesn't mean that your choice is right or better than hers.

Most people do not have complications with anal sex.

There are mitigating factors to the symptoms the OP is describing.

People post for advice, not judgement or to hear how someone else lives their life.

So your problem, is the advice is unwarranted and uncalled for.

P.S. If you are a sexual prude (which is not a bad thing), then maybe posting on the Adult Sexuality board is not the place to post.

I think she, or actually HE might be rushing the penitration... forcing it in before she has relaxed enough naturally. This only takes a few minutes at most, but is critical. I'm also willing to bet they aren't using enough of the right lubricant... and no spit isn't the right one. And also possible that they are trying to park the car in the garage with their Truck is already parked there. ( as in colon is not empty). We usually time it so within a few hours after a bowel movement... but not less than 45 minutes after one. Eliminates the pulling out a Plum from the pie surprise.

Eliminates the pulling out a Plum from the pie suprise.

Ewww, did you have to give us a visual Smoothy? :(

:: placing plum (break snack) into garbage ::

Well here I was excited for summer fruits. :)

Hey what fun is it if you don't toss in a few funny if not colorful analogies every so often.:D

I'm floored. Love the honesty on this post. All are right. Decision and preference is the OP's. Just want to add, that you should please please see your doctor.

Ewww, did you have to give us a visual Smoothy? :(

Well this is the reality of it isn't it? Not only can the garage already be occupied, but the garage is full of crap... so to speak. Doesn't bring about a very pleasant visual.

You do NOT know what you are missing by leaving that out of your bag of tricks cozyk. Lots, and I mean LOTS of nerve endings there make it enjoyible.

Key is go slowly, (if there is pain you aren't allowing enough time to relax and moving too fast) and use lots of lube and the anus does not self lube.

It works just like a suppository and gets those gears turning.

Well this is the reality of it isn't it? Not only can the garage already be occupied, but the garage is full of crap...so to speak. Doesn't bring about a very pleasant visual.

Its not even a fraction of a bad as you try to make it out to be. Seriously. Wait 45 minutes after a bowel movement, and there are no bad smells or "crap" to deal with at all. And its always a good idea to wash up after any form of sex for the obvious reasons as well.

I've got over 25 years of "sneaking in the back door" without any "suprises" in all that time. And no complaints about any pain after the first couple of experiences with the women who have not yet learned to relax the sphincter and communicate their current state of readiness.

I really do pity the poor fellows married to women who refuse anal and/or oral ( And I am pointing no fingers, it's a general comment). That would make for a horribly dull marital sex life. And yes... I have dated women like that in the past so they do in fact exist. I'm quite happy my wife does not hold any of these inhibitions. Because even after 17 years of marriage, we still "willingly get it on" nearly every single night.

Edit: And I do wish to say the same for women married to far less openminded men than themselves.

I really do pity the poor fellows married to women who refuse anal and/or oral ( And I am pointing no fingers, its a general comment). That would make for a horribly dull marital sex life. And yes...I have dated women like that in the past so they do in fact exist. I'm quite happy my wife does not hold any of these inhibitions. Because even after 17 years of marriage, we still "willingly get it on" nearly every single night.

The same goes for men. There is so much more to a wonderful sex life than missionary. The bedroom, a comfortable partner are all about communicating and experimentation.

I agree 100%.

At least be willing to try, In my opinion.

The same goes for men. There is so much more to a wonderful sex life than missionary. The bedroom, a comfortable partner are all about communicating and experimentation.

I agree 100%.

At least be willing to try, IMHO.Yes very true... prudes can be either gender just as easily. That's why I put an edit in my post about the time you were typing this one up.

Its not even a fraction of a bad as you try to make it out to be. Seriously. Wait 45 minutes after a bowel movement, and there are no bad smells or "crap" to deal with at all. And its always a good idea to wash up after any form of sex for the obvious reasons as well.

I've got over 25 years of "sneaking in the back door" without any "suprises" in all that time. And no complaints about any pain after the first couple of experiences with the women who have not yet learned to relax the sphincter and comunicate their current state of readiness.

I really do pity the poor fellows married to women who refuse anal and/or oral ( And I am pointing no fingers, its a general comment). That would make for a horribly dull marital sex life. And yes...I have dated women like that in the past so they do in fact exist. I'm quite happy my wife does not hold any of these inhibitions. Because even after 17 years of marriage, we still "willingly get it on" nearly every single night.

Edit: And I do wish to say the same for women married to far less openminded men than themselves.

And do you also let her shove things up your rear end. Wouldn't it be just as enjoyable for you since the plumbing in that area is the same? A neighbor of mine was telling us girls that her husband wanted to come in the back door. After we all finished gasping in total gross out, she told us the rest of the story. "She said to him, I'll let you stick something up mine if you let me stick something up yours." Well, he just came unglued. I'm not a queer, he replied. What's the difference? Does she shove things up your booty?

Now, I've never considered myself a prude, nor have I ever been called one. My husband tried that with me once and it hurt like crazy. I took that as a hint. I mean if you have to make sure you poop at least 45 min. prior, wash up real good, take care of the bad smells, use plenty of lubricant, and take the chance of "plums" being pulled out, I just think there are other things that can be done to achieve the same goal. But, that's just me. If it's not you, go for it.

Anal play can be very stimulating for both partners.

There are many men that are just as comfortable with anal play as there are women.

And do you also let her shove things up your rear end. Wouldn't it be just as enjoyable for you since the plumbing in that area is the same? A neighbor of mine was telling us girls that her husband wanted to come in the back door. After we all finished gasping in total gross out, she told us the rest of the story. "She said to him, I'll let you stick something up mine if you let me stick something up yours." Well, he just came unglued. I'm not a queer, he replied. What's the difference? Does she shove things up your booty?

Now, I've never considered myself a prude, nor have I ever been called one. My husband tried that with me once and it hurt like crazy. I took that as a hint. I mean if you have to make sure you poop at least 45 min. prior, wash up real good, take care of the bad smells, use plenty of lubricant, and take the chance of "plums" being pulled out, I just think there are other things that can be done to achieve the same goal. But, that's just me. If it's not you, go for it.

You misquoted a few things there. You CAN do it right away after a BM but you will get some odors sometimes. But no worse than during her period vaginally. And you would normally wash up after regular vanilla sex too or certain odors will linger and grow. Look at a bit of anatomy to see the point I'm making. There is more than one sphincter on the colon... there is one at the beginning as well as the end, and it does remain empty much of the time, unlike the intestines which remain full. The 45 minutes after a BM is just a good way to predict the rather large window of opportunity you have, it can be 4 or more hours long depending on you particular metabolism and diet. Know your body and you won't be pulling out any plums.

As far as her getting hers too? Why not. Its one of the few things a married couple can share that will feel exactly the same for either partner. And yes.. the wife has actually gotten off doing that without any other stimulation... both ways.

Personally a guy that commented like that to a woman, I would say is a bit narrow minded and a prude themselves. You can't knock it until your tried it and given it a fair chance.

As far as lubricants... there are more than a few women that need extra lubrication than they can produce due to no fault of their own. So what is difference there... none I see.

As far as her getting hers too? Why not. Its one of the few things a married couple can share that will feel exactly the same for either partner. And yes.. the wife has actually gotten off doing that without any other stimulation... both ways.

I am a little confused by this. What is she sticking into you? And she is getting off just by shoving something in and out of you? Without any other stimulation to her than that?

I am a little confused by this. What is she sticking into you? And she is getting off just by shoving something in and out of you? Without any other stimulation to her than that?With women its all a state of mind. I've gotten one girlfriend off without either of us even touching her in the usual places, in fact she could have been fully dressed at the time, though she wasn't. So sometimes a woman needs little to no extra stimulation to orgasm. She just has to really be into the moment.

And it can be fingers, hand or one of her favorite toys... what specifically isn't the issue.

Problem is few if any women can achieve this state of mind while being closed minded. You HAVE to really, and I mean really know yourself... something relatively few women really do learn to do because you can't do this without a lot of experimentation.


And having the right partner helps as well.

Okay... start a NEW thread for discussion of Anal sex versus no anal sex.

You are hijacking this one, and that stops here.

Yeah... it did drift a bit off topic there.

As everyone else has said hon, anal sex SHOULD NOT HURT NOR BLEED. Use more lube and go slower.

Um... That shouldn't happen. Are you using lube? If not that is probably the problem. If you are using lube then you should see a doctor about it. It won't be embarrassing so if that's why you won't go don't worry about it.

Trust me doctors have seen it all. You won't even raise an eyebrow if you have a frank discussion with them if you need to.