biocazman
Jun 14, 2009, 11:25 AM
Hey there everyone. Some advice if you have any would be helpful.
I'm 20 but was 19 when we split my ex is 18.
We had a big argument on the 29th April and then things were a little strange after that.
Then on the 3rd of may I spoke before I could think and said I thought we needed to break up but I regretted it from the second I said it.
I've been trying since we broke up to get her back... For the first few weeks I was doing all the stuff that you shouldn't do and then when I found out that what I was doing was the wrong thing I stopped.
We were together for just over 14 months and it was a loving relationship. We knew each other at school and liked each other when we were at school but didn't do anything about our feelings until we had both left school. We loved each other like crazy but we did fall out now and again.
She has said that she still has slight feelings for me but not a lot.
We still see each other now and again and spend time together now and again just as friends... Having a chat and a joke.
Since we broke up she has been giving me mixed messages saying one day that we will maybe get back together and the next saying that its never going to happen again...
We hurt each other at times during the relationship but she said that her being hurt is one of the things that would make her less likely to try again.
After we broke up she started going clubbing twice or 3 times a week and she has kissed 5 guys (nothing I can do about that) But she is seeing 2 guys... One of them really likes her and turned down a really good job because it would mean moving away and he doesn't want to leave her... She has been spending a lot of time with him.
We are getting on better now that we have done since we broke up and I still have all the love I've ever had for her and we have a quite good friendship.
On Friday just past however she said something a couple of times which gave me some hope... She said that she can't see into the future and that we may get back together some day. She said that she can't say we will NEVER try again...
The main things I'm wanting to ask are 1) does she really mean it when she says that she can't say its never going to happen again?
And 2) If she does get with a guy... is there still hope for me in the future? Should I be there to pick up the pieces if/when it fails?
I should also say that I was her first serious boyfriend and her first love.
She was my first real love but not my first girlfriend.
Thanks.
I'm 20 but was 19 when we split my ex is 18.
We had a big argument on the 29th April and then things were a little strange after that.
Then on the 3rd of may I spoke before I could think and said I thought we needed to break up but I regretted it from the second I said it.
I've been trying since we broke up to get her back... For the first few weeks I was doing all the stuff that you shouldn't do and then when I found out that what I was doing was the wrong thing I stopped.
We were together for just over 14 months and it was a loving relationship. We knew each other at school and liked each other when we were at school but didn't do anything about our feelings until we had both left school. We loved each other like crazy but we did fall out now and again.
She has said that she still has slight feelings for me but not a lot.
We still see each other now and again and spend time together now and again just as friends... Having a chat and a joke.
Since we broke up she has been giving me mixed messages saying one day that we will maybe get back together and the next saying that its never going to happen again...
We hurt each other at times during the relationship but she said that her being hurt is one of the things that would make her less likely to try again.
After we broke up she started going clubbing twice or 3 times a week and she has kissed 5 guys (nothing I can do about that) But she is seeing 2 guys... One of them really likes her and turned down a really good job because it would mean moving away and he doesn't want to leave her... She has been spending a lot of time with him.
We are getting on better now that we have done since we broke up and I still have all the love I've ever had for her and we have a quite good friendship.
On Friday just past however she said something a couple of times which gave me some hope... She said that she can't see into the future and that we may get back together some day. She said that she can't say we will NEVER try again...
The main things I'm wanting to ask are 1) does she really mean it when she says that she can't say its never going to happen again?
And 2) If she does get with a guy... is there still hope for me in the future? Should I be there to pick up the pieces if/when it fails?
I should also say that I was her first serious boyfriend and her first love.
She was my first real love but not my first girlfriend.
Thanks.