View Full Version : If there are virgins out there
NiceGirl17
Jun 12, 2009, 06:40 PM
Hi are there virgins out there who take there virginity seriously
cogirl4now
Jun 12, 2009, 10:47 PM
Yes I do
Alty
Jun 12, 2009, 10:50 PM
There are many teens on this site that are in no rush to give up their virginity.
There are a lot of people in their twenties on this site that are still virgins, waiting for marriage or a serious relationship.
shazamataz
Jun 13, 2009, 06:27 AM
Virginity is something that should be closely guarded.
I guarded mine until I was 18 and I was very happy that I waited.
I don't care if a guy think I'm "frigid" for not giving myself to him. I respect myself more for waiting until I am ready.
briannekayleen
Jun 13, 2009, 07:20 PM
Absolutely. Stay a virgin... stand up for what is right
JoeCanada76
Jun 13, 2009, 07:25 PM
There is a new trend in today's world. Keeping your virginity as long as you can. Some people do not lose it until there late 20's and 30's.
mudweiser
Jun 13, 2009, 07:33 PM
There are many virgins out there. However, I don't think you should isolate yourself with only virgins, why not learn from other walks of life?
I think teen abstinence is a great idea; most teens don't even know how to keep their underwear streak-free and think they can handle sex.
Whether it's a religious thing, or the fact that you just want to save yourself for the one you love, or just fear of catching AIDS or an STD, or even pregnancy -- it's still a good choice to make when you feel unprepared for that type of responsibility.
Sarah
thegreygoose
Jun 14, 2009, 04:22 PM
I really want to know if you look down upon people who have lost their virginity but who aren't married?
Alty
Jun 14, 2009, 04:26 PM
i really want to know if u look down upon ppl who have lost their virginity but who arent married?
That's a good question.
thegreygoose
Jun 14, 2009, 04:54 PM
That's a good question.
I just want to know because I'm 16 and I lost my virginity when I was 13...
I'm not whitetrash or even a little sluty
Alty
Jun 14, 2009, 04:59 PM
i just want to know because im 16 and i lost my virginity when i was 13....
im not whitetrash or even a little sluty
13 is really young to make that kind of decision.
Why did you think this was the right time for you?
The reason why adults tell kids to wait is because they're kids, they really don't understand the very real consequences of sex. They live in a fairy tail world where everything is all love and roses, not reality and heartache.
I was also a teen when I lost my virginity, so I speak from experience, learning things the hard way.
If I could go back I'd have waited a while.
number9forlife1
Jun 14, 2009, 05:43 PM
Im a virgin but I don't really care if my best friend is or isn't anymore, that was there choice and I don't judge them.. but I do know that there are people out there, that judge you if you aren't a virgin depending on your age.. and then you get those people who judge you because you are a virgin... but I wouldn't care what people thought about me if I lost it or didn't...
N0help4u
Jun 14, 2009, 06:34 PM
Most people simply do not believe there is anybody that is a virgin past the age of 17. There are many though.
There are organizations like reborn virgins or virgin clubs to meet people so you don't feel isolated like you are the only one.
Reborn Virgin (http://www.rebornvirgin.com/oath.html)
What is Silver Ring Thing? (http://www.silverringthing.com/whatissrt.asp)
thegreygoose
Jun 14, 2009, 08:59 PM
13 is really young to make that kind of decision.
Why did you think this was the right time for you?
The reason why adults tell kids to wait is because they're kids, they really don't understand the very real consequences of sex. They live in a fairy tail world where everything is all love and roses, not reality and heartache.
I was also a teen when I lost my virginity, so I speak from experience, learning things the hard way.
If I could go back I'd have waited a while.
I used to regret it a lot but now that I think about it...
It made me who I am...
I'm a little harden, personality wise. Most people think I'm a but I just say how I feel most of the time
shazamataz
Jun 15, 2009, 06:44 AM
i used to regret it alot but now that i think about it...
it made me who i am...
im a little harden, personality wise. most ppl think im a but i just say how i feel most of the time
My partner lost his when he was 13 also...
He really regrets it.
The girls he dated and slept with at school didn't really mean a lot and he wished he had waited for a relationship that was a bit more meaningful.
kctiger
Jun 15, 2009, 09:01 AM
I took mine seriously until I lost it...
The deal is this. I waited a LONG time before I had sex. Sure, I messed around, but I have never considered sex something that you just do... to me, it meant something to share yourself like that with someone. Thus, I didn't want to lose my virginity for sake of "guy talk" and bar chatter, I wanted to do it when I thought it meant the most, and when I was ready to share that part of me.
People who constantly worry about losing their virginity need to rethink things. We live in a society now that judges people by when they have, or haven't had sex for the first time, and to me, that isn't a fair way to judge anyone.
ImInLoveWithHim
Jun 18, 2009, 11:47 PM
im 13yrs old and i have already lost my virginity!! it totally sucks because all my friends right now arent as mature as i am...and they all are always asking me, "How does it feel?" "Were you scared?" I honestly can't take it anymore...so please keep your purity!! i regret ever losing mine
Alty
Jun 19, 2009, 01:27 PM
im 13yrs old and i have already lost my virginity!! it totally sucks because all my friends right now arent as mature as i am...and they all are always asking me, "How does it feel?" "Were you scared?" I honestly can't take it anymore...so please keep your purity!! i regret ever losing mine
I just want to point out that having sex doesn't make you mature.
I've never met a 13 year old that's emotionally, physically and financially ready to have sex. At 13 you're still a child, no matter how mature you think you are.
spitvenom
Jun 19, 2009, 01:50 PM
Hey that is awesome that you want to wait. I lost my virginity when I was 13. I Don't even remember the girls name something like Jen or Jess or something never saw her again after that. I just remember she was 16. Funny thing is I never told any of my friends until I was about 19.
jenniepepsi
Jun 19, 2009, 02:04 PM
I took my virginity serously. Unfortunately I didn't have a choice to keep it when I was raped when I was 11. However even after that, I still took my 'consentual virginity' seriously.
Keep in mind that some girls don't have that choice.
shazamataz
Jun 19, 2009, 11:58 PM
Hey that is awesome that you want to wait. I lost my virginity when I was 13. I Don't even remember the girls name something like Jen or Jess or something never saw her again after that. I just remember she was 16. Funny thing is i never told any of my friends until I was about 19.
Are you sure you aren't my partner :eek:
He was 13 and the girl was 16... and her name started with J :eek:
raychi
Jun 20, 2009, 01:40 PM
[QUOTE=Altenweg;1794056]There are many teens on this site that are in no rush to give up their virginity.
There are a lot of people in their twenties on this site that are still virgins, waiting for marriage or a serious relationship
I think that's the way it should be! Stay virgin till 20 at least. Bit too late for me though. Tip: don't give in to peer pressure
addy
Jun 20, 2009, 04:52 PM
Yes, I am.
In a sense.
I'm going to lose it at some point but I'm trying to be as careful as I can about it.
Hence the asking questions on askmehelpdesk instead of just going out there and praying to god I don't get pregnant.
HrvSavag3r
Jun 21, 2009, 06:00 AM
Stand by what you believe in. I however didn't I lost it to the first slut that opened her legs in my direction. (sorry for the french) but seriously its something I regret and something I think I will regret for the rest of my life.
So make the right choice because after you don't have to listen to us. Because we can't baby you, but it is good you ask for advice in a serious situation. At the end of the day the choice is yours to make :) tc.
goodgirl92
Jun 22, 2009, 12:38 AM
Hi, I'm 17 and a proud vergin. While I would give myself to my boyfriend, I don't think we're ready for that yet. We love each other more than anything, but we're just not into that. We like the little things more :D they're what matter for us. I think it's good that your'e a vergin. Waiting for the right one is a fantastic thing to do :) good luck x
NiceGirl17
Jun 22, 2009, 12:42 PM
No I don't look down at people who lost there virginity. I just asked that question because sometimes I feel like I'm all alone in this and want to fine people who I can relate to.
NiceGirl17
Jun 22, 2009, 12:52 PM
[QUOTE=HrvSavag3r;1809987]Stand by what you believe in. I however didn't I lost it to the first slut that opened her legs in my direction. (sorry for the french) but seriously its something I regret and something I think I will regret for the rest of my life.
So make the right choice because after you don't have to listen to us. Because we can't baby you, but it is good you ask for advice in a serious situation. At the end of the day the choice is yours to make :) tc.
Thank you for that.
:)
NiceGirl17
Jun 22, 2009, 12:55 PM
]hi, I'm 17 and a proud vergin. While I would give myself to my boyfriend, I don't think we're ready for that yet. We love each other more than anything, but we're just not into that. We like the little things more :D they're what matter for us. I think it's good that your'e a vergin. Waiting for the right one is a fantastic thing to do :) good luck
Thanks. I'm also 17 and proud of being a virgin. I just want to wait for the right time and place.
NiceGirl17
Jun 22, 2009, 12:59 PM
[QUOTE=raychi;1809000][QUOTE=Altenweg;1794056]There are many teens on this site that are in no rush to give up their virginity.
There are a lot of people in their twenties on this site that are still virgins, waiting for marriage or a serious relationship
I think that's the way it should be! Stay virgin till 20 at least. Bit too late for me though. Tip: don't give in to peer pressure
Hi raychi, I was thinking of losing it at that age, because I'm in a serious relationship. I think three years would be good , but even if it's more than that I still want to wait.
goodgirl92
Jun 24, 2009, 07:19 PM
Your welcome :) you're doing the right thing. I know its hard to find girls our age who don't like this sort of thing, but that's their fault. You'll find your prince out there one day :)
Texie Studstill
Jun 24, 2009, 07:48 PM
Hey Im 14 and even though I'm the only one left in all of my friends, and I am teased and poked at constantly, I take it very seriously. My biggest fear is giving in to someone and then having to live my whole life knowing that my first time was just out of trying to fit it. It is a hard thing to do but hold onto it. It is the one thing you have that you can't ever get back, and don't listen to the other kids that say you are lame for keeping a hold of it. They are lame for being weak and letting go and you know what they say. Misery loves company. Don't fall for it.Stay strong.