I wanted to ask something about someone at my school. There is this girl I have liked for 2 years who I have only said a couple of words to over the course of the two years. She has probably known that I have liked her since this one time... that I sort of wrote her a really gushy love poem to trying to express my feelings for her. A couple of days ago though, she said that she has a boyfriend over myspace. But the one thing that always puts a big question mark over my head is she looks at me every chance that she gets. I am one year younger than her and I was wondering how to handle the situation. She really has never said anything to me except a few words, and whenever I do something clumsy or silly, she giggles. Do you think I should try to be friends first? And if she breaks up with her boyfriend, do you think I should catch her while she falls?

She has a boyfriend now, so she's off limits. You should really consider looking for someone in your own grade.

The reason you're trying to interpret the way she looks at you is because you like her, so you try to twist any signs possible to make it seem like she has feelings for you. Don't read too much into her signals, it will just make you go in circles wondering what they mean.

Talaniman Rule- leave girls with boyfriends alone, and don't hold your breathe waiting for them to fall.

Talaniman Rule- If one female isn't available, there are millions that are. Don't get stuck on one who is BUSY with other things.

Talaniman Rule- Get your own girlfriend and leave the other guys alone.

Talaniman Rule - Don't miss other opportunities and options because your stuck on someone who is not as stuck on you, thats just plain crazy.

My advice...............obey the rules. They are for your own protection against being bored, stuck, and wasting your time, unless you think she has a cute friend who needs a good guy to hang with.

Had to spread the rep Tal but I agree.

Girl + Boyfriend = off limits.

I agree with these others that she is off limits if she's with a boyfriend. But some girls just put that on their MySpace pages. You might find out yourself through your network of friends. It would be good to know for sure.

And, yes, don't make too much of the signals you think you see. But don't ignore her body language either. Be a friend, pay attention, and let things happen naturally.

Keep in mind that it's rare for younger-guy-older-girl relationships to work. Keep your eyes open to someone else who is glancing at you.

Tao