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confusedax
Jun 10, 2009, 01:29 PM
Every time I have broken up with any of my bfs, we keep talking and it makes the break up process go on forever. If you are still in touch, what would be the best way to initiate No Contact? Ignoring the person seems a bit immature, and whenever either person says they are done, I feel the other one makes a greater effort to keep in touch and try to keep the other person around... any thoughts?

liz28
Jun 10, 2009, 01:40 PM
How do you expect to go NC if your still talking to them? After all NC means No Contact--right?

I wish
Jun 10, 2009, 01:44 PM
Here are the rules: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/nc-rules-faqs-332732.html

Block them out of every means of communcation. Don't pick up when they call.

I know that some people want to stay friends with their ex. But the reason you need to go into no contact is so that you stop having feelings for them. Once the feelings are gone, you can try to be friends. If you were meant to be friends, you will find each other again.

talaniman
Jun 10, 2009, 03:08 PM
Disappear from their life.

MsMewiththat
Jun 10, 2009, 03:13 PM
I agree that ignoring the person seems immature. I think that it is fair to be up front with the person that you don't want to be rude and will no lo nger be accepting their phone calls and you would prefer if they stop contacting you. Sound fair?

Triysle
Jun 10, 2009, 03:49 PM
First, you decide for yourself that you don't want the person in your life at all anymore. Then, once you have made that decision for yourself, let the other person know. If he or she chooses to try and break NC and contact you, do not respond.

The point is, don't just ignore the other person without telling them that you've made that decision. You don't have to explain why, but you should at least let him or her know that you want him or her out of your life.

Best of luck,

~ Tee