I feel kind of pathetic right now. You see I'm best friends with a gal I think I love. Ive known her for about 2 years. My best friend went out with this girl for almost a year maybe. Even though it started all lovy doovy at first it got madly horrid. They were doing bad and fighting and she broke up with him on her birthday. In retaliation, he slapped her across the face. Also he's put scratches on her right arm. That's when my role as the best friend become a major one. I tried talking to her but it ended in arguments about him because I know how he is all along. He's a complete d*ck. In like a week or 2 later he goes back to her gives his little speeches "im sorry you know i love you and all" And I smoke my until I throw up, cigarettes. I guess I've stressed myself out and I caught that bad habit from it. After a few more arguments they have I keep coming up but am shot down because he just goes to her house and apologizes and I live a little farther away to go there. We had an argument and she gets completely pissed at me and blocks me and we don't talk for like a month or 2. It was a nice time because I did some exploring about things but out of nowhere... BOOM! She calls me and wants to talk and I'm back as the supportive friend. It seems while I've been gone she gained a habit of taking pills to "solve dilemas" so I decided to help because I guess I'm too nice of a guy to be an a-hole. So it was good for that time me and her were hanging out more than before when she was with him. And there was one day where we were in my bed cuddling and I wanted to kiss her she said no because she still had feelings. She said she feels this friendship is too pure and that kissing her would destroy it. The way she was hugging me was weird she was holding to my back kind of romantically. Anyway the day right after he goes to her and says he's sorry makes a long speech and she decides to take him back. I'm pissed and I tell her I'm not talking to her anymore and that I'm leaving this situation again. She tells me that she really cares about me that she tells me things she doesn't tell him, so stupidly I stay. Now a day or 2 later he's an a** again and she goes back on the pills for a day. I talk to her trying to help and then I tried to come over because I wanted to do something "bold and romantic" so I walk my freakin 5 miles to see her in which she didn't want me to come over and she never came out. Ever since that day in my house she hasn't wanted to hang out much. Well later that day he catches her by the pool to hang out and they do and the night ends bad. They aren't together or anything. But I knew since the hitting part that this was an unhealthy kind of relationship. So now I'm here typing she broke down last night with me telling me she's too weak to forget everything and she hates herself for it. I just feel his grip is too powerful. I love her I really grown that since the 2 years I met her, but right now I just want to help her end this once and for all more than anything and for her to be happy no matter what. Like I said they aren't together but I know all he has to do is say "i love you babe" let me come over shell give in. I want to know, what do I do? What can I do?

You put a lot of distance between those two, and no matter how you feel, stay out of their business, and their lives. NO MATTER WHAT!!

That's the problem, your caught between two people who are dysfunctional and ignorant, and you can't help either, nor is there a future.

Now you can do what ever you want, and be as hard headed, and dysfunctional, as they are. That's up to you, but I highly suggest, you take a path away from them, and their problems.

You put a lot of distance between those two, and no matter how you feel, stay out of their business, and their lives. NO MATTER WHAT!!!

Thats the problem, your caught between two people who are dysfunctional and ignorant, and you can't help either, nor is there a future.

Now you can do what ever you want, and be as hard headed, and dysfunctional, as they are. Thats up to you, but I highly suggest, you take a path away from them, and their problems.

Well I was out of the equation for a time and then she calls me out of nowhere after 2 months and drags me back in. Im the guy that she goes back to after his screw up

Well I told her goodbye again this time. It pretty much makes me feel like a block of freaking stone. But if you say I was the villain then I won't be sticking around for it. Its funny how everything can start from just asking a girl for change.

Stop being that guy and getting caught up in her drama. Your not Mr.Fixit. She have her own life to live just like you have yours.

If she decides to mess around with someone like she dealing with then it is her choice.

Your getting involved because of the feeling you have for him but you don't see this is a toxic friendship and you shouldn't even be her friend because you get too involved in her drama.

But if you say I was the villain then I won't be sticking around for it.

Don't trip my friend, I never said you were a villain, I said it would be hard headed for you to expect anything from a dysfunctional female, or male.