4 year relationship ends, 4 months ago. Did not want responsibility of my children, has 3 of own. Said his feelings changed after heart attack 2 yrs ago. Never told me. Boyfriend, still married, ex wife moved down the street from me, with her boyfriend, and there kids 3 yrs ago. Ex boyfriend said "he loves me-but", it's not me, its him. It's not our relationship, it's life around us. How do I move on from this with out going nuts?

Obvioulsy this is a hard time for you.I think you need to give yourself some time to heal.Let your tears water your soul..
You say you have kids, you have to stay strong for them to.Your a strong independent women and you can get through this.

How do I move on from this with out going nuts?

You may go a bit nuts for a while, but if you cut all contact with him, you will heal over time, and be able to regroup, and rebuild your own life, without him.

Read the stickies at the beginning of this forum, for some really good suggestions on coping with a break up.

There is a link in my signature.