It all started with losing my virginity to a man I hate now because I gave it away so easily. In doing so, I felt a depression and only sex could make it better. Ive had about 19 partners in the last 3 years. Some where long lasting and some were just for a good times, a couple of times in fact. Some nights, I would have sex then go and have sex a couple of hours later with a different guy.
Point is, I am not in this relationship for almost two years and we are monogamist. The thing is, he was a virgin and for the first couple of months, all we could do was have sex, which was great. But then, it started getting less and less, three or four times a week, then two or or three times a week, then once or twice a week, then once, the none. IT SUCKS. He tells me, he's just not into having sex so often. And this is not having sex for a couple of weeks. IT hurts, it sucks, it ridiculous, I love him and all, but wow, its really really hard. I don't feel pleasure, pleasuring myself. He's the best thing that's happen to me for a long time. Am I being punished for screwing all those guys?
Is it him? Is it me? I want to go to therapy or talk about it, but he always gets mad when I ask for it or want to walk about it. He doesn't see it but its taring me apart. Sex isn't everything I know, but its how I want to make love and be loved.
How do I get out of this mode, its been going on since last year, I want to cry and lash out and scream!!

Some one please give me something to work with.

Sorry for the grammar and spelling, I was really upset when I wrote this.

Everyone has a different level of sexual desire and needs, Finding a partner who is equal is important.

To be honest I had to laugh when you said it went down to 4 or 5 times a week, that is by average more than most. Expect for perhaps at the very first part of a relationship.

We work, we have duties at home that has to be done, meetings, activities and more.

No real answer except you and your partner needs to work this out.