I was going to the 3 month scan with my ex on Monday now today she says she's had it and will be getting rid of the baby I don't believe her as I asked the midwife and she never went to see her yet for the scan she also says she's going to live where I can't find her I don't know what to do I tried reasoning with her but she won't listen I know the boyfriend wants it to be just them two and not have me around all I want is to be a dad I have always been good to my ex and never hurt her I know she's against abortions and loves children I just think she wants to bring the child up with him as he won't stay with her how can I find out if she's keeping the baby and what rights have I got to prove it is mine?

DNA test. I believe you certainly have rights if it is your child. If she moves away before you get the chance to see if it's your child, you can always track her down. What will be very hard on you is if you do find out that it is indeed your child and she chooses to move away. You're right. It does sound like she just wants to raise the child with her BF and may possibly want you out of the picture but I hope I'm wrong. Sit tight and wait for some expert answers here. I sure do hope it works out for you. Hang in there.

I hope so I don't think its right she should just get away with it she said her body is rejecting the baby is that possible oh and also its not mine its her boyfriend and one thing she slipped up on is that I said would go for custody of the baby she said I can't they wouldn't let me have the baby well if she's getting a abortion I wouldn't be able to anyway she just keep twisting everything and wants me go away which makes me more determined thanks for your help

Hiya Phil. I'm sorry. In your original post you asked how you can prove it is yours.? Either way, I'm not sure how old she is but I have heard of women's body rejecting the baby, however, something doesn't sound right with that. Is she saying she's having a miscarriage or something? Or maybe her doctor sees a problem. I don't think she's having an abortion Phil at 3 months pregnant. As far as them letting you have custody, unfortunately it's her choice since it's not your child. I'm sorry you're hurting. If I misunderstand something here, let me know. I am just a little bit confused about a couple of things. I wish you the best of luck and you are most welcome if I can try to help in any way.

Well when I was with her it was a affair her boyfriend knew after the first week as she told him anyway she wanted sex all the time no protection and wanted a baby as did I silly I know so early in the relationship he was supposed to move out last weekend 3 days before she dumped me told me she loved me next day dumped all the time I was with her she great paid her own way asked for nothing moaned at me if I didn't hold her etc all the time through the relationship he tried to use the kids of his saying he didn't trust me around them then saw a can of beer in bin and said he didn't want the kids around me because I drink which I hardly do just weekends then he said he hoped she miscarried and he would never bring up my kid if me and her split everything he was doing was mind games I met him once and he didn't like me he has no mates but did get a girlfriend and I hoped that would be it he would go he moved most of his stuff out then went away with his girlfriend for a week he came back on the Wednesday it ended she was fine in the morning he also tried to say baby could be his it was all mind games he controls her life with violence I did stick it through but it wasn't to be I did not contact her only once to say about the scan which was when she said all the stuff about the baby that was a week after it ended when I last see her she was looking through baby books taking all the vitamins planning to buy stuff together etc she was a lovely girl who showed me nothing but love and now this I just feel like saying forget it I won't see the baby and leave you to it just so the baby might have a chance of living as he just might push her to have the abortion honest this girl wouldn't do it unless pushed to it I was thinking of checking the abortion clinic in the hope they might tell me if she has it booked to go there