I exchanged numbers with this guy who has been interested in me for a while recently. He told me that he was going to be out of town for a week for an annual conference but asked me if I would like to have food with him when he comes back. Although he told me that he'd call when he gets back into town, he hasn't. So I'm curious as to why he hasn't called although he is back in town... thanks

He could be busy, might have lost your number, he may have just said that to be nice and had no intention of calling you. Could you call him and see if he wanted to get together?

... why not call him?

He like megan said, millions of things could have happened.

Why not call him and find out?

Don't take this to hard but, the reasons are far too numerous for any of us to give you any even Half A$$ed answer.
Example:
MAybe he lost your number.
Maybe he forgot.
Maybe he met some one else.
Maybe he was manic when he said it, but now is in a depressive state and just don't care.
Maybe he is too shy/nervous/affraid to call.
Maybe he is in jail.
Maybe he is working lots.
Maybe he got bit by a stapler and now has super powers, like stapling criminals to the wall. (Sorry, just wanted to lightend the mood. Ease up sister, and try to focus on your life, not what he is doing, as you can only change the way you choose to live. Let him do as he will, because you are a smart, independent, strong, beautiful, and interesting women. If he does call, find out his reason for not calling then, and decide if he is worth your time then.

Take care of yourself, and watch out for "Stapler Man"! Haha.

Good luck.

He could be busy, might have lost your number, he may have just said that to be nice and had no intention of calling you. Could you call him and see if he wanted to get together?

It was actually over email... long story short: I went to visit him at his work but came in at a really bad time. He felt bad and emailed me apologizing. He asked me for my number and if I would like to go get food when he comes back. It just seemed promising to me lol

He could be busy, might have lost your number, he may have just said that to be nice and had no intention of calling you. Could you call him and see if he wanted to get together?

It was through email and I just don't want to come off desperate because he did initiate it after all

Don't take this to hard but, the reasons are far too numerous for any of us to give you any even Half A$$ed answer.
Example:
MAybe he lost your number.
Maybe he forgot.
Maybe he met some one else.
Maybe he was manic when he said it, but now is in a depressive state and just don't care.
Maybe he is too shy/nervous/affraid to call.
Maybe he is in jail.
Maybe he is working lots.
Maybe he got bit by a stapler and now has super powers, like stapling criminals to the wall. (Sorry, just wanted to lightend the mood. Ease up sister, and try to focus on your life, not what he is doing, as you can only change the way you choose to live. Let him do as he will, because you are a smart, independent, strong, beautiful, and interesting women. If he does call, find out his reason for not calling then, and decide if he is worth your time then.

Take care of your self, and watch out for "Stapler Man"!! Haha.

good luck.



Haha nice.. nah I know he's still around but I just thought it was sketch. I haven't been wanting to get in a relationship in like 2 years because of school and such and just thought that now would be appropriate. But I got stood up haha

If you haven't heard from him and have his number... Why not calling him and see what happnes... LOl maybe it's the risk taker in me but that's the type of thing I'd do.

1. If he doesn't call, but we had an agreement that he would... (sure it can be him standing me up, but he could also have forgotten) So if he is interesting enough I'd call and give it a try.

2. If he sounds unineterested or is busy and can't meet... well then I'd move along and forget about it...

3. If he sounds interested and can meet up (cofee, lunch etc.) well cool... lets go with that!

I guess if I should ever put my life into a philosophy it's that sometimes you have to run a risk... besides if he is uniterested after sucha short time.. heck. It won't bother me that much anyway. Because I know that at least I would have showed interest and opened the door to someone who seemed interesting.

;)

Try calling him, you exchanged numbers for a reason.

haha nice..nah I know he's still around but I just thought it was sketch. I haven't been wanting to get in a relationship in like 2 years because of school and such and just thought that now would be appropriate. But I got stood up haha

Glad you got a laugh out of that.

"But I got stood up haha"-You Did you? I thought you said you didn't know what happened? That's not being stood up that's not knowing what happened. It's OK to feel insecure, and doubteful; but, try not to let it get you down. Just give him a call and ask if he is interested in coffee. Nothing serious, just chill and laid back. If he keeps finding reasons for not being there, then wheather he is standing you up or not, his life is too hecktic or messed up for him to "date" you. Besides he is one guy out of howmany? Billions? (Please don't give into the movie made "Love" ideals, because it's not real. Yes, there are some people who fall in love and stay together till they die, but few indeed.) Be yourself, if you don't know who that is, or you are feeling doubtful, you'd be best advised to find yourself, forgive yourself (if need be,), love yourself, respect yourself, know yourself, and then you can be yourself.

Durning all that time in school and such, the 2 years, did you do any self discovering and learn to be comfortable just being you?

After all, if you don't know yourself, then how can you possibly know who you want to be with, even if only casual dating? (I think that's a pretty valid question.)

Nestorian

There are too many factors to consider. If you want to talk to him again, then give him a call. You guys haven't talked in so long, it's really difficult to seem desperate.

Desperate is when you over-do something. This is under-doing something.

Screw him he lost. Move on next lol

Oh give him a call. What's to lose?

Listen there is nothing wrong with a girl calling a guy. It is okay to go after what you want instead of wondering. Venture a little because you have nothing to lose then you will get your answer.

I second and third the above suggestions - give him a call - just don't sound too needy and don't place too much expectation on the outcome.

Relax. A relationship will happen.

Glad you got a laugh out of that.

"But I got stood up haha"-You Did you? I thought you said you didn't know what happened? Thats not being stood up thats not knowing what happened. It's ok to feel insecure, and doubteful; but, try not to let it get you down. Just give him a call and ask if he is interested in coffee. Nothing serious, just chill and laid back. If he keeps finding reasons for not being there, then wheather he is standing you up or not, his life is too hecktic or messed up for him to "date" you. Besides he is one guy out of howmany? billions? (Please don't give into the movie made "Love" ideals, because it's not real. Yes, there are some people who fall in love and stay together till they die, but few indeed.) Be yourself, if you don't know who that is, or you are feeling doubtful, you'd be best advised to find yourself, forgive yourself (if need be,), love yourself, respect yourself, know yourself, and then you can be yourself.

Durning all that time in school and such, the 2 years, did you do any self discovering and learn to be comfortable just being you??

After all, if you don't know yourself, then how can you possibly know who you want to be with, even if only casual dating? (I think thats a pretty valid question.)

Nestorian

Yea I've had an awesome two years getting to know myself. I'm quite content with what I've accomplished and just did not really have the desire to focus on anything else (i.e relationships). But right now I am interested in getting to know him a little more, however I'm a little more traditional when it comes to relationships. From my experience, if a guy likes a girl, he actively seeks her. If he's not interested, he doesn't. Maybe that's black and white for some people; perhaps I'm totally wrong on it, but I really can't help but feel that way.

I understand, but all you want is an opportunity to know someone better, not a commitment, or relationship at this time, so its okay, I think, to start up a dialog toward friendship.

I understand, but all you want is an opportunity to know someone better, not a commitment, or relationship at this time, so its okay, I think, to start up a dialog toward friendship.

True, but we work next door to each other (literally) so I can't help but think that he has to initiate something... there is no way that he just "forgot." I'm pretty sure he's aware

Maybe he isn't into workplace relationships, as it can get messy you know.

True, but we work next door to eachother (literally) so I can't help but think that he has to initiate something...there is no way that he just "forgot." I'm pretty sure he's aware

I think that you're 'second guessing' this guy. How can you be 'sure' of anything? We often attribute emotions, reasons and explanations for things that other people do without any REAL idea of what those reasons emotions and explanations are.

In any case, why should he initiate anything? That's only your perception.

If he literally works next to you then suggest grabbing a bite for lunch. What's the point of worrying too much about it? Just do it without any expectations. You'll never know unless you try.

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I'm dating a guy right now and things seem to be going pretty well. However, I feel as though we're going to drift apart sooner or later because we're different. By different, I mean morally. I do not intend on sleeping with him and I feel as though he has those expectations. We haven't discussed anything pertaining to our previous relationships, but it's one of those gut feelings that I have in which I think that he'll call things off because I'm a virgin. Yea, I hear it all the time that it's his loss, however, it sort of upsets me because that seems to be the most important element in a relationship. So my question is, how do I make of this paranoia (do I ever bring it up to him) because I don't want to invest time into something that will eventually dissipate. Thanks

If he's not willing to wait as you wish he's not worth keeping.

Just be honest with him , let him know how you feel and take it from there.

Whatever you do don't do something your not ready for just to keep someone who doesn't respect your morals. And remember , you only lose your virginity ONCE!!

You should tell him if you want to be in a serious relationship with him. If he is falling pretty heavily for you, then you should tell him too, so as not to break his heart before he has totally fallen for you.

Sex is a very important part of a relationship, especially if he's not a virgin too. Lack of it (even if he's willing to wait) does put up barriers and create frustrations. The best policy would be to tell him and let him decide.

You need to talk to him about this. You never know, if he really cares about you maybe you two can work something out. If not then at least you're figuring things out sooner rather than later.

How do you know his feelings without even talking to him about it? You are being quite judgmental about this issue. The only way to find out his feelings is to talk to him

I'm the first person to say that moral differences between mates shouldn't be ignored. I think it's important that you know they exist and are concerned.

But I think you're being melodramatic unnecessarily at this point. People CAN be inspired to be better than they were last time, better than they were last year, or even just last week. People do change, or at least can pretend to until so much time has passed they actually have changed.

So, I would put the issue on the shelf where it belongs. For now.

Spend this time getting to know your guy fully. If he's respecting your boundaries, let him. And praise him for it when the topic does come up. I mean when the issue arises, PRAISE HIM for his support of your values and for the way HE has protected your virtue. PRAISE HIM for the knight he has been and thank him for making you feel so safe around him on this issue.

Guys love sex, truly. But you can't believe how powerful sincere and focused praise can be on a man, even more powerful than the sex drive.

How long have you been dating, as its none of his business if its only been casual, and not that long. Now when things get exclusive, and you have had a while to get to know each other, then you can talk.

Before then its about enjoying getting to know each other so stop worrying.

I think you're jumping the gun. You're just assuming that he feels a certain way without actually talking things out with him.

It's not about your lose or his lose at this point, you need to be honest and upfront about your feelings and then see how he reacts.

If he truly cared about you, he will respect you and you will be a good match. If he doesn't, then show him the door. It's nobody's lose because you weren't a match in the first place.

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I feel as though my boyfriend is ignoring my texts. I texted him goodnight last night and got no response. Earlier today though, he texts me asking how my day is. After responding to him, he didn't say anything. I don't know if it's a comfort thing for him because we've been seeing each other for a while, but I can't help but get bothered. How do I address this?

You confront him and address the problem. Communication is the key to a relationship.

He is not ignoring you, the more stress you give him about it the less he will text you

I no how you feel... I've had experience... what I have found is, that guys seem to this this for attention.. I think they know that we get rather annoyed when they don't text back, so they just don't text back.. which makes us more annoyed and curious or upset, or whatever you are feeling.. if he doesn't text back.. dont dwell on it.. try to move on otherwise it will make u feel down.. if u really want to, confront him and ask him y he never replies. Good luck =)

He may have been busy or something at least he did contact you earlier. As long as he is keeping in touch I wouldn't go crazy over missing a call or two.
Tell him you like hearing his voice before you go to sleep and leave it go at that.

You address this by not getting upset and then when the two of you talk face to face, you establish what you both can, and can't do. That's how couples deal with things, by talking honestly, instead of getting upset for no reason. My gosh, do you expect every text to get answered, or get carried away when its not? That's on you, and not him. Are you insecure or something? Or just inexperienced?

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