Okay dated this beautiful girl late last but we had a huge fight and things just fell apart and we have not been talking foe the past four months and in the last three weeks we started talking and its been great for both of us but now I am not sure whether we can be together couse all the signs are there but I think we are both being coutious because of the heartach the break up had on both of us. So basically what I would like to know is how do I know for sure that she wants to have a relationship with me.

You broke up for a reason. Just leave it at that. Be friends and move on...

Don't open up old wounds.

Well being cautious or not isn't bad. You broke up and haven't spoke for 4 months and there was a reason for that. Maybe the time did heal the wounds for both of you. But just take it one day at a time. Don't hope for it but don't rule it out. Something brought you back together. Maybe its for a good friendship and that will be just as rewarding in the end.

History will repeat itself if you don't figure out what went wrong the first time around.

If you choose to have a relationship with her again, go slow as the others have said. If it starts to get serious again, back up the truck, and have a really good look at whether you are heading down the same road again.

Talk, talk talk. You may find yourself with familiar feelings for her, but remember that love can be deceiving.

Before you allow yourself to get involved again, start with honesty. If you can work out the issues that caused the first breakup, and know that it is in the past, you may avoid a lot of heartache again. And, your 'new' relationship will be a lot stronger.