I started dating my girlfriend around 6 weeks ago. We had known each other for 8 months at work. I had always liked her, but never got involved in making a move as she was currently in a long-term relationship of 18 months.

It was not until a work night out in April that we had stron eye contact, and she became closer to me talking to me about how she feels she needs to be single again, and that she has broken up once again with her 18month boyfriend. They were on and off all the time. He is 18 and she's 19, but maturer than most. Anyway on that night I still did not make a move as I had respect for her relationship and was not sure if I should believe her about her break up. Girls know how to tease, and lead us on... oh don't we know. I took it easy. However she came onto me that night, and we hooked up. When I wanted to make out wiv her she held back and I asked her why she did that, and she replied to me that she did not want to get hurt. From then I could tell that she was possibly a deep girl, and I had respect for that.

That night ended with me driving her home from the club at like 2am and she literally poured her heart out to me explaining to me how she had noticed me and liked for sometime at work. It was weird for me having a conversation like this on my first night of hookinh up with a girl. This was when I noticed she was a relationship lover and not a one night stand. She's 19 and has only slept with 2 guys before me. She has an outstanding image, she is a 10/10, this is not just my view but she's a lady that stands out amazingly in a club. Along with this she has a great personality, which I was surprised at.

So drove her home and the night ended good. About a week later of keeping in contact trying to get to know each other a bit more, she asked me if we could stay friends for now, but that she does really want to get to know me more and go further. The reason for he wating time is that she wants to get over her ex-bf who probably thinks she's going to go bk to him after every break up they had, but this time was different for her.

I understood what she asked for and agreed. It was about a week later that I was out wiv my own guys at a club, and in a drunken state I sent the girl a very cheesy but emotional message (this was something that I regreted in the morning) it could turn out badly wrong or amazingly funny.

RESULT: She loved it and from that day on we began to roll into the relationship. This was was last week of April.

Beginning of May she moved into my house. We connected on every level. I personally have a strong personality, and 1st impressions count a lot for me, and I did analyse her very well. It was going to fast... the words we exchanged, her moving in etc. The so called honeymoon period.

However I count on my initial impressions, and yes she began to tick every box a guy could want. I was aware of everything, but little did I know of an external factor which was awaiting us. So in the 5 weeks up till now, I had my 21st birthday, she met my family I met hers, and many would hate to hear this... but yes we were scheduled to move into a new house together. We were the subject of everyone at work, from colleagues to managers at work (officed based environment with 40 people in our department knowing of us). Our love began to grow everyday. She told me that I was in a different league, and she would spend the rest of her days with me, and that I answered all her needs in a relationship. Our 5 weeks, were like 2 years for others. (I always thought this was dangerous, but we were both strong characters) We spoke about everything If there is ath 1% of love at first sight, in my own opinion... I had it. In my assuption for her... she had it, but I can not speak for her too much there as its strong topic.

One issue which we had throughout the 5-6 weeks was her inmature ex-bf always phoning her, crying and wanting her back. He would see her out and make unnecessary comments to her that would hurt her (the drink didn't help him) because he's actually an OK guy from what she explained, he's harmless. I left it to her because she is a strong character and mature to handle, which she did, well up until now.

She would also have her moments at home where she would think about the past and get emotional, because she had hurt him so much. She should think of this way, but he was making her feel that way. She was overly nice and wanted to make up wiv him on a friendly basis. I explained to her this would not work, because he would understand, he only wants you as a girlfriend. So it was early this week, where he went overboard one night telling her she cheated etc, and non-stop phone calls etc. I explained to her that she should meet him for a coffee and lay the grounds, and tell him for the last time who she really loves now and that feeling of love were no longer der for him. He was being a kid that simpy would not get it, and it began to effect her.

We spoke about exactly what she needs to say, and I dropped her off to starbucks at 5.20pm, and a minute later I received a message from her (she was very fast at doing this).

Her exact words: Baby, I'm sorry I have to this little meet up but it has to be done. Remember that I love you very much and I'm not a stupid girls. I know what to say, you can trust me. C u soon, missing you alread xxx

The time was 6.20pm it had been an hour, I began to get worried, because it should have gone on too long. I received a phone call from her and she crying, telling me that she needs to go to her parents home for the night. This was the sign that the meeting went wrong. It was the outcome I least wanted because it was going to hurt what we had.

Couple hours later I went over to her parents house, and was understanding, and asked her what went on. She looked very guilty. She said it was all going well for 15 minutes until her emotions got to her and she realised how much she cared for him, and she broke down. I told her that she is mature enough to make up her mind, and that she will make the right decision in the end. Also explained to her that she is supposed to be moving into a new house with me (big move this really).

Next day she asked if she could come collect her things and go back to parents and have the alone time, own space time that she never got. She thanked me for everything and she appreciated how I accepted the situation and that she really needed to do this. This was nice of her, she did put it in the most nicest way possible.

So to conclude: We have me who is fully committed, know what I want, and my love is 100% real even if its 5 weeks, I know the girl, and its something that not every person can do, but I have this character and believe in myself. I have not cried or chased her, I am trying to help her now, but do wish to get her back.

Then we have her, whom did ask for time at the beginning to get over her ex, which was given but then suddenly was allowed enough time due to excitement between us. She exchanged real strong words with me, where I told her to calm down and that these words could be left for later in our relationship. However the words never stopped, our time spent together and the experiences we had in 5 weeks it was all POSITIVE and too good to be true. She began to notice all negative sides of her ex even more due to being with me and used to remenise about him and laugh at his inmaturtiy. (However I never got carried away with this because at the end of the day she spent 18 months, both happy and sad times with him)

Then we had ex-bf who pestered her, and kept reminding her of the past.

So my conclusion here is. Yes! She does love me more than anything in the world if the words she exchanged are true to her, she says they are and right now I still believe that. But she did touch on the fact that it may have come out to fast, but this only to make herself feel less guilty due to her emotions over a sorry inamture kid.

I asked her if she wants us to move on... shes replied... Yes, for the time being..?

She told me I was the most amazing guy she could ask for her and that I gave her everything, but she needs to do this to clear her mind totally.

So the result that could come here, is she really is true to be the girl I think and is a strong person she will get over emotions and come back to me.

If she results in opening new page and scrapping me and forgetting ex then she must have lost all feelings very easily for me which in my eyes is pretty weak for a character.

The last outcome is her going back to him because she can't get over him. If this happens, my love for her will finish that second and I will overcome this pain I'm experienceing immediately, because no girl is worth actions like this. Her going bk to him means that she will most likely always go back to him in the future and I wish couples like this good luck... :/


For those who read this rather long story, I appreciate you giving your time very much, and would greatly ask you to oput forward your understanding of this. What you think she will do, or advice for me??

Right now, I am deeply hurt, and unfortunately it has come at the wrong time with last yr Unviversity exams in its last week, but that's life for you. It's a learing curve. My friends and family have helped me very much. Your help will only be positive guys.

I was in love deeply even in a short amount time, but this was someone I know I could spend the rest of my life with up until last week. These are not simple words, but once again I believe in my impressions and thoughts.

Look forward to hearing from anyone with advice!

Nice one guys.

Part 1 of 2.


The title to your thread is me and my girlfriend are deeply IN LOVE (capitalized for emphasis), the rest

Then you start with the very first sentence...


I started dating my girlfriend around 6 weeks ago.

I knew you were going to get Chuffed at this very moment.


We had known eachother for 8 months at work. I had always liked her, but never got involved in making a move as she was currently in a long-term relationship of 18 months.

So you were the rebound.


It was not until a work night out in April that we had stron eye contact, and she became closer to me talking to me about how she feels she needs to be single again, and that she has broken up once again with her 18month boyfriend. They were on and off all the time. He is 18 and shes 19, but maturer than most.

If she's so mature why did she stay in a relationship for a year and half where she constantly broke up and got back together?


Anyway on that night i still did not make a move as i had respect for her relationship and was not sure if i should believe her about her break up.

You were right here.


Girls know how to tease, and lead us on....oh dont we know.

Hell yeah we do. I'm liking you more and more. Preach on brother.


I took it easy. However she came onto me that night, and we hooked up. When i wanted to make out wiv her she held back and i asked her why she did that, and she replied to me that she did not want to get hurt. From then i could tell that she was possibly a deep girl, and i had respect for that.

She's deep all right. She just laid the ground work for her escape from this "relationship" right from the very start.


That night ended with me driving her home from the club at like 2am and she literally poured her heart out to me explaining to me how she had noticed me and liked for sometime at work. It was weird for me having a conversation like this on my first night of hookinh up with a girl. This was when i noticed she was a relationship lover and not a one night stand.

Huh? Your having a one night stand and you immediately think it's a relationship because she says she likes you?


Shes 19 and has only slept with 2 guys before me.

So she says. And if it's 2, 150, or O what does this have to do with you?


She has an outstanding image,

Not saying she doesn't, but this is your opinion... and your opinion may be correct. But in just what I've read so far she's not the angel your making her out to be. I'm not saying she's a devil woman or anything close, but I am saying let's just look at the reality of who she is and not what you are making her to be.


she is a 10/10,

In what way? Looks? I've dated 10/10 girls and I have found them to be so stuck up and self centered I don't even waste my time. Again, I'm not saying she is that way, I don't know her but my point is don't be judging her by her looks, judge her by her actions, and her actions speak to someone who is not consistent with her behavior and is using you for a rebound. Her looks didn't tell me that, her actions did.


this is not just my view but shes a lady that stands out amazingly in a club.

The homeless stand out in downtown St. Petersburg, Florida What does this have to do with anything. You are building her up with false reality.


Along with this she has a great personality, which i was suprised at.

She probably does. But still she acts like every other woman who uses a guy for a back up or rebound and obviously doesn't know what she wants or feels a need to prove herself in dysfunctional relationships.


So drove her home and the night ended good. About a week later of keeping in contact trying to get to know eachother a bit more, she asked me if we could stay friends for now, but that she does really want to get to know me more and go further.

In girl talk that means, I'm slighty attracted to you, but I like you enough to keep around
In case something else doesn't come up.


The reason for he wating time is that she wants to get over her ex-bf who probably thinks shes going to go bk to him after every break up they had, but this time was different for her.

What you don't know is you are the new guy in her game. There were other guys before you when they broke up and got back together and broke up and got back together. Your just the latest.

Plus this sceniro is perfect for her. She gets a piece when she wants it, she's got a back up plan if the boyfriend falls through, and she adds a little drama to her dull existence.

You get to wait for her.


I understood wat she asked for and agreed. It was about a week later that i was out wiv my own guys at a club, and in a drunken state i sent the girl a very cheesy but emotional message (this was something that i regreted in the morning) it could turn out badly wrong or amazingly funny.

RESULT: She loved it and from that day on we began to roll into the relationship. This was was last week of april.

Beginning of May she moved into my house.

WHOA!! WHAT?? I think I did not read that right. I'm going to read that again.

No, it really said what I thought it said. WHY?


We connected on every level.

She played you for a place to live. That is not connecting on every level. In fact that is failing on every level.


I personally have a strong personality, and 1st impressions count alot for me, and i did analyse her very well.

NO!! No you did not. How can you even say that?


It was going to fast......the words we exchanged, her moving in etc. The so called honeymoon period.

What are you talking about? The honeymoon period lasts longer then you've known her and it certainly lasts longer then 6 weeks.


However i count on my initial impressions, and yes she began to tick every box a guy could want. I was aware of everything, but little did i know of an external factor which was awaiting us. So in the 5 weeks up till now, i had my 21st birthday, she met my family i met hers, and many would hate to hear this.....but yes we were scheduled to move into a new house together.

I am one of those many. Got to give this "mature" girl credit though, for completely talking you into moving out of your place into a home for her. I'm not sure if she's good or you gulliable.


We were the subject of everyone at work, from colleagues to managers at work (officed based environment with 40 people in our department knowing of us).

Your going to be the subject at my work tomorrow.


Our love began to grow everyday.

Your infatuation began to grow. Her manipulation began to grow. Love was no where near this.



She told me that i was in a different league,

Well, she's got you there. You are in a different league. Nobody else I can think of would let a girl move in a couple weeks after hooking up with her and then move her into a house and all within 6 weeks.


and she would spend the rest of her days with me, and that i answered all her needs in a relationship.

How could she know that? I've had bars of soap that lasted longer then your relationship.


Our 5 weeks, were like 2 years for others.

Seriously you can't be saying this?? I have food in my refrigerator and is still good to eat that has lasted longer then this relationship. I've been in 2 year relationships and I've been in 2 month relationships (which is still longer then yours) and don't you dare try and tell me or anybody else who has ever given themselves to a real relationship that 45 days is the same thing as 2 years. When you get your first adult 2 year relationship you can then start talking but this was a fling, and once she saw how gulliable you were it became a home.


(I always thought this was dangerous, but we were both strong characters) We spoke about everything If there is ath 1% of love at first sight, in my own opinion....i had it. In my assuption for her....she had it, but i can not speak for her too much there as its strong topic.

Thank God. Some sense in all this. You can't speak for her.


One issue which we had throughout the 5-6 weeks was her inmature ex-bf

You have some nerve calling him immature.


always phoning her, crying and wanting her back.

Hey, I'll give him this. He's at least got 18 months invested in her. You have a little more then one.

If the weeks line up right on the calendar, my truck payments last longer then this relationship did.


He would see her out and make unneccessary comments to her that would hurt her (the drink didnt help him) because hes actually an ok guy from what she explained, hes harmless.

Of course she's going to say that. She's still got it for him.


I left it to her because she is a strong character and mature to handle, which she did, well up until now.

?? She is in no way mature. You are in no way mature. This is a disaster of a situation and you've gotten completely used. COMPLETE AND UTTERLY USED.


She would also have her moments at home where she would think about the past and get emotional, because she had hurt him so much.

Because she's still in love with him and her dysfunctional relationship and lifestyle. Which you are now a part of. But she's mature. Please.


She should think of this way, but he was making her feel that way. She was overly nice and wanted to make up wiv him on a friendly basis.

By friendly, you mean get with him and have sex.


I explained to her this would not work, because he would understand, he only wants you as a gf.

Such a caring boyfriend to explain to your girlfriend, living with you after 2 weeks that her ex boyfriend, who she really wants just wants her as his girl.

Seriously, you didn't see where this was going?


So it was early this week, where he went overboard

You have some nerve saying he went overboard on anything, even if he did.

Part 2 of 2



one night telling her she cheated etc, and non-stop phone calls etc. I explained to her that she should meet him for acoffee

There are lot firsts in this post. Telling your girlfriend to go on a coffee date with her ex is quite something.


and lay the grounds,

You, the man, told "your girlfriend" to tell the guy she's in love with to lay the grounds? Shouldn't you have laid the grounds? I mean there's a lot of should'ves here in this post, but you should've laid the grounds down from the get go.


and tell him for the last time who she really loves now and that feeling of love were no longer der for him.

18 months vs. 1 month. Really, who do you think is winning?


He was being a kid that simpy would not get it, and it began to effect her.

I'm sorry, but I'm getting a little tired of you saying this stuff about him that is very applicable to you.


We spoke about exactly what she needs to say, and I dropped her off to starbucks at 5.20pm,

THE FIRSTS CONTINUE! You took "your girlfriend" to her coffee date with her ex who she's in love with.


and a minute later i received a message from her (she was very fast at doing this).

Her exact words: Baby, im sorry i have to this little meet up but it has to be done. Remember that i love u very much and im not a stupid girls. I know what to say, u can trust me. C u soon, missing u alread xxx

To the end she plays you. To the end.


The time was 6.20pm it had been an hour, i began to get worried, because it should have gone on too long. I received a phone call from her and she crying, telling me that she needs to go to her parents home for the night. This was the sign that the meeting went wrong. It was the outcome i least wanted because it was going to hurt what we had.

"what we had." You had nothing. Well, you had a leach house guest. But you sure didn't have a relationship.


Couple hours later i went over to her parents house, and was understanding, and asked her wat went on. She looked very guilty. She said it was all going well for 15 mins untill her emotions got to her and she realised how much she cared for him, and she broke down. I told her that she is mature enough to make up her mind, and that she will make the right decision in the end.

Get this through you head. She is not, in anyway mature.

Also, you have no idea what your doing. Beyond the fact you don't let a woman move in with you 2 weeks after she gives you piece, beyond dropping her off for dates, you never tell a woman that she can take her time and make the right decision about your heart. Have you know pride in yourself? You have given her 100% more then she has given you, and you still giving, while she's taking everything she can from you even to the bitter end. There is no way she respects you. If a woman doesn't respect you, she sure doesn't love you.


Also explained to her that she is supposed to be moving into a new house with me (big move this really).

So your going to hold a prize over her and think that equates to love? No respect, no love.


Next day she asked if she could come collect her things and go back to parents and have the alone time, own space time that she never got. She thanked me for everything and she appreciated how i accepted the situation and that she really needed to do this. This was nice of her, she did put it in the most nicest way possible.

She's so nice. She's also mature, we can't forget that. She used you as a rebound, she had you drop her off for a date with her another guy she dumped you and she's nice.

Jeepers (that's right, I'm bringing the word Jeepers back) atek move over I might be after this girl now to, because she's so nice and mature. She has used you from the very first night she lied to you about sleeping with 2 guys previously so you wouldn't think she does this all the time, when her and the guy she can't get enough of goes through there dysfunctional, yet mature break up for the 12th time. She's so nice. Give me a break. She is the furtherest thing from nice. She's a user, a liar, and quite honestly a cheat. You should know this though, you took her to the date.


So to conclude: We have me who is fully commited, know what i want, and my love is 100% real even if its 5 weeks, i know the girl, and its something that not every person can do, but i hav this character and believe in myself. I have not cried or chased her, i am trying to help her now, but do wish to get her back.

I'm not sure you do believe in yourself. Or perhaps you do about other things unrelated to woman. Trust me, I'm not trying to knock you down in any way, but how could a guy who believes in himself do what you have done, and put up with what you are putting up with? If you believed in yourself (at least regarding this situation) you would be dropping this useless fling and applying yourself to a real woman. On that really is mature and nice.


Then we have her, whom did ask for time at the begining to get over her ex, which was given but then suddenly was allowed enought time due to excitement between us. She exchanged real strong words with me, where i told her to calm down and that these words could be left for later in our relationship. However the words never stopped, our time spent together and the experiences we had in 5 weeks it was all POSITIVE and too good to be true. She began to notice all negative sides of her ex even more due to being with me and used to remenise about him and laugh at his inmaturtiy. (However i never got carried away with this because at the end of the day she spent 18 months, both happy and sad times with him)

Dude, I'm laughing at you right now.

I'm not saying that to be mean. I'm not saying that to knock you down. And I'm not saying this next line to attack you, but... You look like a damn fool. Trully ridicules.

I'm trying to soften this because I know I can come across harsher then I intend to but you just don't get it. You are mocking a guy she spent 18 months with, which really means you are mocking her and 18 months of her life. But what's worse is you don't even see she's still in love with him and what you mock him for by calling him immature is the same thing I'm laughing at you for. In fact, you are worse then him. He has the balls to stand up to her even if he does run back to her. But at least he's known her for 18 months to do that. You've been with her for 6 weeks, and moved her in. You are not the business to be calling anybody, and I mean anybody, her ex or a 4 year old immature.


Then we had ex-bf who pestered her, and kept reminding her of the past.

"WE" In the future make sure your relationships don't have "we" but instead "us." We includes the ex, us is two people.


So my conclusion here is. Yes! she does love me more than anything in the world

How can you write this and say that? Her's what she loves more then anything in the world. Challenge, her ex provides it you don't. Drama, her ex provides some but cuts her off so she seeks it elsewhere, like her new home. Attention, her ex gives her some but not enough, you give her more then she can handle.


if the words she exchanged are true to her, she says they are and right now i still believe that.

?? Ah, how or why or what are talking about?


But she did touch on the fact that it may have come out to fast,

Remember an hour ago when I said she laid the ground work for the escape from the very beginning when she said she didn't want to get hurt and move to fast. My how six weeks changes people. Or it was just the same women speak they always use in that situation.



but this only to make herself feel less guilty due to her emotions over a sorry inamture kid.

Man, you've got some nerve.



I asked her if she wants us to move on.....shes replied.....Yes, for the time being......??

For the time being is woman speak for I need to keep you around in case it doesn't work out with my boyfriend ( and when I say boyfriend, I mean her real one for the last year and half) but if we fight or I need a distraction I want you around on the back burner waiting for me.



She told me i was the most amazing guy she could ask for her and that i gave her everything, but she needs to do this to clear her mind totally.

Oh you are an amazing guy. Speaking of giving everything, you never give a woman more then 50%. If you give her everything she doesn't respect you because it comes off as immature (ah oh) and attempting to buy her love as opposed to her earning it. If she can't respect you, she can't love you. You've got neither.



So the result that could come here, is she really is true to be the girl i think and is a strong person she will get over emotions and come back to me.

When her and the ex break up again.


If she results in opening new page and scrapping me and forgetting ex then she must have lost all feelings very easily for me which in my eyes is pretty weak for a character.

Oh, I think she's a pretty weak character too. But she never had feelings for you.


The last outcome is her going back to him because she can't get over him. If this happens, my love for her will finish that second and i will overcome this pain im experienceing immediately, because no girl is worth actions like this. Her going bk to him means that she will most likely always go back to him in the future and i wish couples like this good luck........:/

Great, because she's already gone back to him, and you know this because you drove her there. It's over, move on and never ever let a woman do this to you again.


For those who read this rather long story,

Yeah, when does this end, I actually though I had just wrapped it up. This is longer then your relationship with her.


i appreciate you giving your time very much, and would greatly ask you to oput forward your understanding of this. What you think she will do, or advice for me???

1. Get far away from her.
2. Never talk to her again.
3. Never give a woman more then 50%.
4. Never let her move in 2 weeks after hooking up with her.
5. Make her pay for half the rent.
6. Learn that women don't speak in clear sentences but in actions.
7. Never drive your girlfriend to a date with another guy (seriously never thought I'd write that one).
8. Actions speak louder then words. Listen to actions never words.
9. Don't become any woman's rebound.
10. When you point a finger at someone take at look the three pointing back at you.



Right now, i am deeply hurt, and unfortunately it has come at the wrong time with last yr Unviversity exams in its last week, but thats life for you.

My ex girlfriend of 3 years dumped me in college during my last semester. Man that sucked. I remember actually being in the library trying to study and I just couldn't stop thinking about her and how this was the worst time for this to happen. What finally helped me was I told myself, "Give me 50 minutes to concentrate on this and I can spend the remaining 10 of the hour thinking about her." It wasn't a 100% cure, but it did help, so try that.


Its a learing curve. My friends and family have helped me very much. Your help will only be positive guys.

I'm hoping, and nothing against your friends or family but I've found there help is never very good. They tell you stuff they think you want to hear. We focus on the truth.


I was in love deeply even in a short amount time, but this was someone i kno i could spend the rest of my life with up until last week.

There are no words.


These are not simple words, but once again i believe in my impressions and thoughts.

Look forward to hearing from anyone with advice!

Nice one guys.

Dude, I hope you learn from this. This was a complete mistake from the very first moment. Everything you did was the exact opposite of what you should be doing.

Advice taken Chuff... nice one.

Some areas I may have gotten carried away when writing the post. Just need to get everything out.

Respect your views whether negative or positive, thanks a lot. Something that I could back myself on the wrong things I did, was the fact that I had not been in a relationship for a while. When a girl so stunning, and one that you see at work everyday and is number 1 der just clouds your mind I guess... and excitement results in doing the wrong things.

All an experience... doesnt matter whether good or bad. The next one can only be better!

Cheers

Advice taken Chuff.....nice one.

It took awhile, I'm glad you liked it.


Some areas i may have gotten carried away when writing the post. Just need to get everything out.

It's great you did. Just wrting it sometimes can be the cure. Or at the very least put things in perspective.


Respect your views wether negative or positive, thanks alot.

Believe it or not, they are all positive. I'm not going to sugar coat something, but at the same time I want you not to be suffering and I want you to learn from your mistakes so you don't go through this again.


Something that i could back myself on the wrong things i did, was the fact that i had not been in a relationship for a while.

I've been there bro. I know when the emotions take over and you want to prove to someone that tells you they've come from a dysfunctional relationship that you are better for them you'll throw everything you got at them. It's not that you're a bad guy for that, but deserve more then she was going to give you. You can't buy a woman's love and if she's so messed up in the head that she's got to play stupid mind games you deserve to hold you kindness for someone who will appreciate it. Having said that, only give 50% otherwise she'll take you for whatever she can.

I don't want you to look down on the last 6 weeks. Take what happened, and understand where you went wrong so you become stronger for it. The truth is she's going to play the same stupid game she has for 18 months for years. She's hopeless and pathetic. You've had some pathetic behaviors but you are not pathetic. Big difference. You played her game for 6 weeks and you are out. No more dysfunction for you.


When a girl so stunning, and one that you see at work everyday and is number 1 der just clouds ur mind i guess......and excitement results in doing the wrong things.

Preaching to the choir. I've been there. But again, remember that stunning looks do not matter when they are messed up in the head. That girl is messed up in the head. Have you ever heard a really hot chick say something like, "Everyone says I look great but I can't keep a guy." It's because no guy wants to put up with there attitude and games and they feel like because of there looks they have some special rights.


All an experience......doesnt matter whether good or bad. The next one can only be better!

This was a great experience for you. Sometimes you have to do some stupid things to learn from them and become stronger. The next one will be better and you'll have more to offer because of this experience.

You live and learn. Learn from this:
Don'T get involved with someone on the rebound, especially one who has been in an on and off relationship. Dysfunction with a capital D.
Both of them are dysfunctional.

Thanks for the reply homegirl.

The whole topic on the rebound fact, I totally understand. Yes it does definitely feel like a rebound, but I'm not 100% sure if I should look at the situation like that. Reason for this is because when we were together I did ask her about her on and off and why it happened, and whether she hooked up wiv other guys.

Even though I fell for her, I did have several thoughts which Chuff had analysed today. I always thought it was going to fast, the whole moving in was wrong etc. When coming to the rebound, yes I did think about it.

She explained to me that six months ago that when she and her ex were on a monthly short break up again, she slept with a guy simply based on looks and he had nothing to give her, and she did it to get bk at her boyfriend at the time.

Now I did ask myself, this girl could be dangerous, and to step away, but at the same time she told me several times that it was different with me, and that she wished she had met me many months ago. So once again I now come to see that a ladies words won me over too easily. Always think outside the box and put aside emotions.

But is there no credit to what she felt for me? Or do you still think these were just words to convince her that she was trying to get over her ex boyfriend wiv the new guy me, who lucky for her turned out to be overnice and was going to give everything to her, but after 6 weeks she finally realised she should being do this to me?

It was a rebound plain and simple. She had the hots for one guy and maybe she liked you, but you were still a rebound.
She sounds young and immature as does the boyfriend who has taken her back twice after she has been with someone else. The whole thing is just unstable and twisted. Be glad you are no longer in it.

I started dating my girlfriend around 6 weeks ago. We had known each other for 8 months at work. I had always liked her, but never got involved in making a move as she was currently in a long-term relationship of 18 months.


You obviously made a bad decision based on feelings, and not facts. You screwed up bigtime.


These are not simple words, but once again I believe in my impressions and thoughts.


Don't do that again.