I have a boyfriend for 2 yrs now.. we also had our ups and downs.. broke up 3 times but then find ways to go back to each other.. now I am pregnant and I already told him about it.. seems that he has no plans on marrying me because of the baby.. I asked him what his plan was and I ask him why he don't want to take responsibility.. he said its not that he doesn't want but he's not ready because he doesn't have enough money for the wedding.. I told him even if it is just a civil wedding but he doesn't want because he is ashamed to my parents and family that he should give me a nice wedding.. now he seems fading away fr me.. he's not answering his phone and even the messages I am sending.. I am wondering now why he's doing that.. did he really love me? I
M not sure but during the past I can really feel that he loved me but now he seems to be running away fr me and I can't find him too.. I'm thinking of going to their house but I'm thinkning twice, maybe he'll reject me and ignore me.. what should I do now? Someone help.. I was thinking if he really loves me then he should find a way to be w/ me//

You kind of dropped a bombshell on him, I know you need support and your family will be there. He's right, getting married just because of a baby is not the right choice, him being around will be good until the right time comes.

How old are you? Have you both told each others parents?

now i am pregnant and i already told him about it.. seems that he has no plans on marrying me bec of the baby..

Why should he?

As for him fadding away, send him a certified letter asking how he intends to handle his portion of the finances for this child. If she refuses to answer then you will need to take civil action against him or the costs.

If you think for one second that having a baby can keep a man let alone make him marry you--then your dead wrong. The two of you relationship aren't even great at the moment and all you can think of is marriage? Marriage doesn't make the problems fade and it shouldn't be force.

It sounds like something is seriously lacking from this relationship and a baby won't solve the problems.

I know being a father is scary to some guys but maybe sooner than later he will understdnd that he have a baby on the way and be a father to that child. Hopefully you can accept him being a father and don't interfere their relationship if the two of you part ways.

Right now marriage should be the furtherest thing from your mind and hopefully this wasn't your intentions for having a baby. Focus on your pregnancy and keep your doctor's appointment and stop worrying about marriage. I just really hope this wasn' some trap set up by you.

Congratulations and good luck!