I'm smart. I have pretty eyes. I'm tall. I'm not bad looking. Yet I'm 13 and haven't had my first kiss yet and I'm about ready to give up. The guys I do go out with are total losers. I know I deserve better, but I'm like a jerk/loser/can't find the one magnet. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I smile a lot. And all of my friends have someone. My identical sister has more boys liking her than me and we look the same. So I guess I'm just lame. I give up. I don't think there is anyone for me. And if there is why isn't he here yet? I'm tired of waiting. Its useless. So help me. If you understand please please help me.

You're 13!

What's the rush?


I'm like a jerk/loser/can't find the one magnet

Can't find the one what? The one that will ruin your life?

Really sweetie, don't be in such a rush to grow up. Enjoy being a kid. Being an adutl will happen soon enough.

You're 13!

What's the rush?



Can't find the one what? The one that will ruin your life?

Really sweetie, don't be in such a rush to grow up. Enjoy being a kid. Being an adutl will happen soon enough.

I know. But you don't know what its like. Everyone that's my friend is with someone. Happy. They've all had there first kiss...

OK I totally understand how your feeling.. but your only 13. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 15 and it really wasn't that big of a deal after it happened and trust me don't worry about "finding the right guy" at this point in time. Relationships are hard especially for teens so don't focus so much on finding your perfect match or getting your first kiss when it happens it happens. Don't try to rush it, you have plenty of time.. just live your life and don't worry about the little things. Everything will work out fine. I promise.

I know. But you don't know what its like. Everyone thats my friend is with someone. Happy. They've all had there first kiss...

I do know what it's like, I was 13 once too.

Really, I give this advice because I've been there. I did try to grow up too fast, it didn't go well, had a lot of consequences.

Just be happy being you. Don't worry so much about what everyone else is doing. Be an original.

Keep you chin up. You'll get your first kiss one day, we all do. Don't do things for the wrong reason, because you want to follow the pack. Being a sheep, following the herd, anyone can do that. Stand out from the crowed, follow your own path, that's what will set you apart from everyone else.

Think about it.

I do know what it's like, I was 13 once too.

Really, I give this advice because I've been there. I did try to grow up too fast, it didn't go well, had a lot of consequences.

Just be happy being you. Don't worry so much about what everyone else is doing. Be an original.


Keep you chin up. You'll get your first kiss one day, we all do. Don't do things for the wrong reason, because you want to follow the pack. Being a sheep, following the herd, anyone can do that. Stand out from the crowed, follow your own path, that's what will set you apart from everyone else.

Think about it.

Thanks. You make a lot of sense to me. You don't know how much I mean it. I am so thankful. Now that you mentioned it, I never did stray away form the pack like my sister. I am going to be was, the person who followed the newest thing like always wearing name-branded clothes and shoes, never making anything my own. But you've made me come to realize I never liked it. I only did it so I can fit in and be normal. But that's the complete opposite of what I truly desire. Which is to be.. me. So thank you very very much.

You're very welcome.

Being 13 is great, so enjoy it.

Keep us posted, let us know how things are going. Go out, have fun, be yourself.

It really is that simple. :)