lindey_calvaro
May 30, 2009, 03:44 PM
I don't know if you wanted this in the teens section or not, but I thought it fit here, you can take it off if you like :)
My parents are extremely strict. They're very religiously involved, which I like. I like all of the religious stuff, I think it's important. What I don't like is their take on how it incorporates into parenting. I understand being wholesome and making sure your priorities are straight, but I think they take it to the extreme:
They don't allow me to have any close friends outside of church (no phone calls, text messaging, hanging out outside of school, etc.) which would obviously mean no boyfriends outside of church. This is where I have my issue.
I've had one boyfriend my entire life (I'm 17). I waited all that time and chose carefully and I found one I absolutely loved, and he loved me. He was my best friend, and I was his buddy. He was sweet, caring, had a spiritual interest, and good morals, which should make any parents happy. My parents made me break it off with him. I was so miserable to have my boyfriend and best friend out of my life I cried every day for months. I couldn't take how depressing and horrible each day was, so I got back together with him.
Well my parents found out while I was at dinner with him one day, and took my car and license away so I couldn't see him anymore.
My parents demand to know my every move outside of the house, check my phone bills to see if it matches their small list of approved numbers, and are stuck on having absolute authority so that it's either their way or the highway. I told them I'm miserable that way and would agree to chaperoned dates or whatever just so I could see him, and also that I want to have friends outside of church. They are giving me absolutely no leeway to make my own decisions and we fight all the time.
Being at home is making both them and me miserable. I've stayed this long only because I love them and want to make them happy. But this is just getting ridiculous. It's emotionally and physically draining, and I feel tired and sick. Should I stay at my house or move in with a friend or my boyfriend? (I will be 18 very soon)
My parents are extremely strict. They're very religiously involved, which I like. I like all of the religious stuff, I think it's important. What I don't like is their take on how it incorporates into parenting. I understand being wholesome and making sure your priorities are straight, but I think they take it to the extreme:
They don't allow me to have any close friends outside of church (no phone calls, text messaging, hanging out outside of school, etc.) which would obviously mean no boyfriends outside of church. This is where I have my issue.
I've had one boyfriend my entire life (I'm 17). I waited all that time and chose carefully and I found one I absolutely loved, and he loved me. He was my best friend, and I was his buddy. He was sweet, caring, had a spiritual interest, and good morals, which should make any parents happy. My parents made me break it off with him. I was so miserable to have my boyfriend and best friend out of my life I cried every day for months. I couldn't take how depressing and horrible each day was, so I got back together with him.
Well my parents found out while I was at dinner with him one day, and took my car and license away so I couldn't see him anymore.
My parents demand to know my every move outside of the house, check my phone bills to see if it matches their small list of approved numbers, and are stuck on having absolute authority so that it's either their way or the highway. I told them I'm miserable that way and would agree to chaperoned dates or whatever just so I could see him, and also that I want to have friends outside of church. They are giving me absolutely no leeway to make my own decisions and we fight all the time.
Being at home is making both them and me miserable. I've stayed this long only because I love them and want to make them happy. But this is just getting ridiculous. It's emotionally and physically draining, and I feel tired and sick. Should I stay at my house or move in with a friend or my boyfriend? (I will be 18 very soon)