My situation is a little different. Iam 37 and she is 27. We were set-up by friends. We talked for a week before we ever meet. I mean I had no idea what she looked like. I just went with it and trusted my friends. The first night I spoke to her, we hit it off! So she said I could call her back tomm. I did and it went well as well. Then after 3 days I get a text from that says she misses me. I thought ummm.this is early, but we did hit it off very well and had so much in common. We are even in the same line of work. She was the sweetest person I had ever meet and that's what attracted me to her. Now I know before we meet, she saw me on Facebook, because I told her that I was on there. I never asked, but Iam sure she did look. Also she does live a 2 hour drive, but that wasn't a problem. We both travel and plus I have family were she lives. When I first spoke to her on the phone, I never thought that it would turn into a everyday, emailing at work, texting and phone calls at night. But, it did and it seemed natural and she was so caring. I was really shocked and thought wow I found the person of my dreams. So this past Friday she decides to come up and see me, even though I was going to be at her place in a couple days. When we first meet, it was awesome. I had never felt like that before, maybe because I got to know her before we meet. I don't know. We had mutual feelings! When I went to see her a day later, her friends were asking how I felt about her and I said I really like her, and they said she felt the same. It was just it felt like I have known her for a lot longer than I did. Everything was great until the last night. I can't figure out what happen and I feel like Iam going through the same phases that someone would go through after a long relationship. The night before my last night. We had sex. The sex was good. I mean it was a little awkward because it was so dark I couldn't see her face. But, anyway, I didn't detect anything was wrong. So the next day she had to go to work. I texted her, she responed back, but the text wasn't chatty like usual. So, I knew something was wrong and this was my last day before I go back home. Anyway, that evening we all went out, I could still detect something, but after she got a few drinks in her, which this was the first time I had seen her drink a lot, she loosened back up and was really all over me. The couple I was with started fighting and she waslked off to the bathroom. I didn't know where she went, gone for like 45 minutes. Anyway, it was her and her ex husbands 5 year anniv. She told me though, she never loved him. Anyway, I was mad to say the least and said some things I shouldn't have. Also , I left went home! I texted her when I got back, to say that I was sorry, and are things to meesed up now. She texted back saying that she was sorry and we will have to see, I just need 2 process things. So, what do I do? I said OK and I haven't texted since. I havern't heard from her and I feel like she pulled me in and just spit me out. I don't know? Please advise me!

First off, I think you overreacted, which scared her off. You guys just met and you're giving her grief about being upset about that? Granted, I'd be bothered if my fiancé was affected by their anniversary but we've been dating awhile. You haven't, that's the difference.

You may have gave her impression that things are moving too quickly, best to do now is take a step back and regroup.

I haven't heard from her and I feel like she pulled me in and just spit me out. I don't know? Please advise me!

Get over yourself, she has done nothing, and you have made a big deal from nothing, in my opinion. I think you blew a good bonding opportunity, with your immature attitude and reaction.

My advice, let the emotional dust settle and send some apology flowers with a humble note in a day or two. Then wait another day and see if she will forgive your dumb A$$!

Sorry to be harsh, (Naw! ) but you deserve it.

Get over yourself, she has done nothing, and you have made a big deal from nothing, in my opinion. I think you blew a good bonding opportunity, with your immature attitude and reaction.

My advice, let the emotional dust settle and send some apology flowers with a humble note in a day or two. Then wait another day and see if she will forgive your dumb A$$!

Sorry to be harsh, (Naw!!) but you deserve it.


You are right! I just needed the truth! There is a little more too it, but you are right!

Next time be a little more understanding. Just because she was reflected on it being an anniversary doesn't means she is still in love nor wants her husband. It just an emotional day for her.

Do what Tal suggested and watch your reactions to do things. How do you expect her to open up and be honest with you if your going over react?

Next time be a little more understanding. Just because she was reflected on it being an anniversary doesn't means she is still in love nor wants her husband. It just an emotional day for her.

Do what Tal suggested and watch your reactions to do things. How do you expect her to open up and be honest with you if your going over react?

Thank You for being easy on me. I just feel so bad for being a jerk. It was a build up of things that had nothing to do with her. I emailed her and explained that. Since we did become friends first. I told her that... I missed her friendship. It's her 4 year old's graduation day, so I told her that was the main resaon of my email. Nothing else I can do! Thank You!

Next time be a little more understanding. Just because she was reflected on it being an anniversary doesn't means she is still in love nor wants her husband. It just an emotional day for her.

Do what Tal suggested and watch your reactions to do things. How do you expect her to open up and be honest with you if your going over react?


Liz, she has emailed me! Iam afraid to look!

Stop! Relax, and read the e-mail

If not, feel free to give this complete stranger your email and password and I'll look for you

Stop! Relax, and read the e-mail

If not, feel free to give this complete stranger your email and password and I'll look for you

Iam back in!! She was very sorry and wanted to forget that night had ever happened! This site has been so helpful! I will be cool about it!

Iam back in !!!!!!!! She was very sorry and wanted to forget that night had ever happened!! This site has been so helpful!! I will be cool about it!

What do I do now? Just friends or what. The email was more than friendly.

You go slow and think before you speak.