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faithxhope123
May 28, 2009, 05:56 PM
Ok so here is the deal.. I dated this guy we will call him jo jo... we dated for a couple of months but things were going to fast too soon... emotionally I let him in right away... but he wouldn't let me in... he blocked me out. And wouldn't let me help him in anyway. So one day he tells me that he was having a bad day at work... so I did what any girlfriend would do... I went to see him at work... and attempted to talk to him. I was also alill upset about my own day... so he saw that I was upset and that made him more upset and fusterated cause he wanted to help me feel better but couldn't cause he was at work... and he just didn't understand why I was there and he got really mad at the fact that I showed up at his work...

So later that night we get online and start talking about our bad days... and he expressed to me that he was still upset. And I tried to be there for him but he wouldn't let me be there for him.. . and one thing led to another and he tells me that we don't know each other that well and it would be better to slow things down and try to be better friends before dating... I had no problem with that... even though it killed me... I told him I didn't know if I could do it cause I fell in love with him. And I don't know if I could have just think of him as a friend and not a boyfriend. He then calls me 2 days after we break up and asked if I would wait till he is ready to become friends and try to start over...

So my question is should I stick around and wait till he is ready? Or just end all ties to him... cause he broke my heart? Should I give him a time frame cause I don't want to wait forever you know..? Help me please

I wish
May 28, 2009, 06:36 PM
You don't need to wait for him. You can move on with your life. If he calls you one day, both of you will probably feel differently about each other, so just worry about it when the time comes.

Don't put your life on hold over a potential friendship. You have a whole life ahead of you. Keep moving forward.

talaniman
May 29, 2009, 06:17 AM
Leave him alone, and deal with your own insecurities, and issues. You both have issues, that causes conflicts in the way you deal with each other, so moving on, is a good idea.

N0help4u
May 29, 2009, 01:03 PM
The last thing guys want is anybody talking to them when they are in a bad mood and do not want to discuss it until THEY are ready.
He probably feels scared off because not only did you not want to leave him alone but you started putting your Love feelings out when he wasn't ready. Talking about love and commitment scares guys off they want it to just come natural.
I agree with Talaniman, you need time to deal with your insecurities and learn how to relate to guys in a way that doesn't make them stop and think you are letting your emotions get ahead of where things stand.