Hey guys! So I've been a pretty frequent poster on this site. It really helped me get through my break up and guys NO CONTACT WORKS! Its hard but SOO worth it.

Anyway. (ex broke up with me nov 1/2 because of lon distance 1/2 because of another girl) I was DEVASTATED but by not talking my ex... I lived a good 7 months single/dating. After 3 years of a relationship it was a really good detox for both of us getting over the things that really were hurting our relationship and making us reevalate each other. I went nc and healed thinking he would never come back but he has. We have talked and reflected on what ruined that last relationship and what we want from each other.

He said he wanted to be emotionally and mentally close to me the way we used to be so we decided that we weren going to jump into bf/gf. He said he wants to work on our friendship with our relationship in mind. Basically we decided we want to just start dating. But its so difficult after being together for 3 years to not feel so comfortable lol! This sounds good to me but at the same time he's leaving again in the fall for school.

But anyway I want your guys' thoughts. Do you think I'm doing this right? Any tips from people in a similar situation?

So you basically broke NC and have started seeing him again.

He wants to move it back to what it used to be.

So the reasons for the break up, where they discussed and those issues solved

This is tricky. First of all, he's going back to school in the Fall and the long distance was a major factor in your initial break up. To me, it seems like he just wants you for the summer. You said the NC was working and you were leading a good path. Personally, I would continue this path. The fact that you said another reason he left you was because of another girl makes me think that somehow, over the past 7 months, things with this girl have not worked out so he comes running back to you. This doesn't mean he won't do it again when he meets another girl.

Were the reasons you guys broke up resolved and discussed? If not, nope this won't work. You are both two completely different people and need to realize what made it not work the first time.

You make it sound good on paper, but I doubt he will be around long. Is he going to cheat again? Don't know if I would want any repeat performances like his last one.