This girl and I worked together for a little while - both mid 20s. Shortly after I quit we hung out as friends, and a few days after that we went out on a date. Things went very well (better than I would've expected really), everything was very natural. When she left she was gushing about how great everything was, said she definitely wanted to do it again soon, and she actually kissed me first.

Now it's been about a month since that date. We emailed back and forth afterwards, and shortly after she said she wanted to get together soon. I called her and texted her but heard nothing back. About two weeks ago she emailed me to say things are good but she'd been busy. I've emailed and called her since then and have had no reply. For context, we talked daily when we worked together, and she's always responded to emails within a day or two. So in a nutshell I've got no clue what's going on. Knowing her as I do, nothing's adding up and I'm not sure how to proceed. Any ideas?

Even if she's busy, she should be able to set up a date to hang out. If she's not budging, then it seems like she might have had a change of heart.

Try to find a common time to meet up.

Oh yeah the busy excuse only gets you so far in my books. Could be a change of heart, though I'd appreciate being told so instead of being ignored. That said I'm not going to keep pestering her, she knows how to reach me.

Oh yeah the busy excuse only gets you so far in my books. Could be a change of heart, though I'd appreciate being told so instead of being ignored. That said I'm not gonna keep pestering her, she knows how to reach me.

Well, if she's going to ignore you, it is rude and a bit disrespectful, so maybe she's not that great.

Good attitude though, play it cool. You did your part, now let her find you.

Yeah let her contact you if 'n when she is ready. If she was all that interested in you she would have made time to see you even for a little while.

Well that solves it. She e-mailed to say she's too busy to talk or hang out, has no time for friends, and I should take a hint. What a crock. Oh well.

That should end that discussion! Sorry guy.