Ok, so one week ago today I broke it off with my fiancé on accident. By that, I mean that we were in an argument and sometimes I would just say things like us breaking up or something along the lines. Well, this time I kept pushing it, and we broke up, I did it supposedly. Anyway, we have got on good terms and everything and we talked about getting back together. Nothing would make me happier. Here comes the messed up part. I have a myspace that I check every now and again and when I logged in the other day, I had a request from some girl. I wasn't sure who she was so I added her and started checking things out. Then we talked trying to figure out if we new each other. Turns out she is dating the ex of my ex. My current ex that is. Well anyway, we talked here and there not too much. I told my ex about it because I thought it was kind of funny. Anyway, last night I get a text message from my ex saying that she had got a message from her ex saying that I asked his girlfriend out and wanted to be with her and all that. He also sent her the messages I sent to her asking her out but the thing is, I never did ask her out. Now where did he get a message saying all that stuff and was able to put my name on it. I just don't get it. I am telling the truth and she believes him over me because of the messages. Well, that ended us and I have no proof of anything. Oh well, life goes on, but I still don't know how he was able to do something like that? My only thought is that he was wanting to get back with her or something because I think him and his girlfriend broke up too. Still, Is it possible to do what he did, or also I was just thinking that this is her way of breaking it off permanately and going with him or something. Any help?

If she believes her EX over YOU, that says something. And yes, those things can be easily faked. But why, we don't know. Maybe he wants her back, and he's found a way to get you out of the picture. Talk to her. That's all that you can do. If she trusts you she will believe you. Good luck.

1- I feel your pain about threatening to break up when you don't really mean it. The last day with my GF we argued and then I sent her a text "just end it if you want" and that's what ended up happening. Careful what you wish for even if you don't mean it!

Emails and Myspace messages can be easily faked and it's a shame that she doesn't believe you, but there is nothing you can do. Sounds like she was done before that point anyway. Not sure why these ex's are trying to stir things up by lying to her about those messages.

Are you really wanting to get back with her? Or just confused about the situation?

P.S. Keep in mind that she may not want you back, and she is using this email as an excuse.

I thought that Chihuahuamomma but I guess it didn't turn out that way. She was finally told by her ex that he was lying and that he wrote the messages not me. She felt so bad and begged and begged for me back but I had to cut it off somewhere. I don't know where the trust is anymore, so it's done and I am happier now. I was in such a state of confusion but everything has became much clearer now.

Thank You all for your help!

How does one fake a myspace message? Or a fake message in any capacity for that matter?

Can you not ask the girl you spoke to over myspace to clarify the situation?

Ahhh well, if it's over and your content than what's the point really?

You're doing the right thing. The trust is gone and might never be repaired. No point dragging out the inevitable.

Yes indeed.

Well BMI, I am guessing that they wrote something and made it look like I sent it. Then the truth came out. Yea, I am happy now.

Awwww Adam... I am so sorry to hear about that. To be quite honest though... you two just aren't right for one another. For the past couple of months all you two have done is break up and get back together... so unhealthy!! You need to move on and find a girl that is perfect for you, and besides... you can do better than her since you are such a sweet guy!

While I may get slammed for this, but I have to question where exactly this relationship was ending in the first place. No offense, but if someone came to me with proof of messages and admitted they had been talking. I'd be a little on their side to be honest, after I found out it was a lie, I would apologize for it but still proof goes a long way man.

Second, your temper got the best of you. You might want to get that checked, but if you are content with throwing away a relationship, an engagement, then that's your decision. But personally, I'd think about it a bit

"There's no doubt about it - breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there's one important truth you need to recognize: some things can't and shouldn't be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump them. It's over for a reason, and deep down inside you probably know what that reason is."


WOW... that is 100% true. I wish I would have known that when I was much younger... might have helped me get through all the pain a little easier. LOL, but I am married now and doing great!

Rome, I respect your answer. Things are more complicated then I can explain here though. I know proof might go a long way but I know what happened and so did some other people. The truth finally came out about it and I was telling the truth. I don't blame her for teaming up with her ex on that one but things are going to be better. It is just a long story. Kari and Justy here know the most about it. It is one of those things that will probably be for the better. It has been a couple weeks now and things are still going OK. Thanks for the help everyone!

Adam, I am so sorry.

Especially for not being there.

Hope you know where to find me, if you need a friend.

adam_89 agrees: Kari, I missed your wedding!! I don't mean in person either. I'm sorry. Congratulations!


Thanks Adam:)~ Yeah as you can tell I am joyfully back at work again... the honeymoon is officially over!!

I'm sorry to hear that Kari, did you enjoy your honeymoon though?

I'm doing really really good now since that breakup. I wish I wouldn't have wasted anyone's time for that time.

Yeah good. She wasn't right for you anyway.
Our honeymoon wasn't the best.. it poured the whole time, and the food was terrible... we couldn't wait to get home. We found out that it was the rainy season in Punta Cana! Oh well!!

Adam sorry this happen but hopefully you learned a valuable lesson from this.

Don't see things out of anger because you will regret them and a lot of couples have broken up due to this.

Next thing is people will lie of you and the whole thing regqrding the ex of an ex of hers contacting you should have been a setup so watch out who you add as friend to stay away from the drama.

Btw, your invite to my wedding if you can make it otherwise I'll send you some photos. Or you can watch the video because I will post it on my social site so the people who couldn't make it can watch it.

Anyway, how are you feeling today?

Hey Liz. Thanks for everything.

I don't know if I will be making it up to New York city anytime soon so I guess you will have to send pics. Haha.

I'm doing really good right now. I became friends with this girl through a friend of mine and that lasted for awhile until we both kind of wanted more than friends and I didn't expect it but I hope this one will turn out better. She actually likes me for who I am and doesn't ask me to change anything so I am so happy and I can still have my friends which my ex didn't like me to have friends I don't think.