My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years. These 3 years have been the best years of my life, but at times, also the worst. From the first moment we saw each other we had an instant connection and fell in love soon after. He has been the most loving and sweetest boyfriend you could ask for. I know I want to marry him but he has his moments where he loses his temper and does things that completely cross the line with me. After three years of good and bad, our bad fights consist of him calling me every bad name there is, shoving me, grabbing me, or verbally threatening "knocking me the out". It's like he snaps and turns into this monster. I don't think he would really ever actually hit me but the shoving and verbal abuse has got to stop. I've tried many different things and don't know what to do anymore. He also has a bad problem with humiliating me in public. I tell him all the time if he has a problem to discuss it with me behind closed doors, not at me in front of people and let everyone know our business. This is one of the things that hurts me the most because he's humiliating me and belittling me in public. I packed up all my belongings yesterday and moved out. I want to be with him but I don't know what else to do. I would appreciate any advice where he might could get help...

It's great that you've had a wonderful 3 years. But sometimes all good things come to an end. If you feel so suffocated in the relationship, then maybe it's time for you to move on to bigger and better things.

I know it's tough to be break, but sometimes, you're both better of separate from you each other.

You made a good move by leaving. Just don't listen to his lies and apologies now and let him work his own BS out, without you.

Glad you decided to not put up with his poor behavior.

Some things are workable. Abuse is not. Stay away, find someone who can communicate how they feel and what they want in a construstive loving manner. You were not meant to be his experiment or punching bag, and he is not your responsibility.