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Jenitt
May 22, 2009, 07:27 AM
I've been married only for one year. I want a divorce. I was a housewife and I didn't work.I don't have a place to go, I don't have money. Should I fight him in the court? After only one year? Is it worth it?

Justwantfair
May 22, 2009, 07:30 AM
Do you have children together?
Assets?
Debts?
Is the desire to divorce mutual?
What state do you live in?

Jenitt
May 22, 2009, 07:39 AM
Do you have children together?
Assets?
Debts?
Is the desire to divorce mutual?
What state do you live in?

We have no children together. We have a bank account together. He canceled my credit card. No debts. He owns the house. I have nothing. We both agreed on divorce. I live in Florida. Thank you.

Justwantfair
May 22, 2009, 07:50 AM
You maybe eligible for an uncontested divorce, try contacting your local legal aid.

stevetcg
May 22, 2009, 08:46 AM
I am unclear in what you are hoping for. Fight him for what?

Jenitt
May 22, 2009, 11:04 AM
I am unclear in what you are hoping for. Fight him for what?

My husband wanted me to be a housewife and I was for a year. I quit my job. The house we lived in was his. Now we both agreed to get a divorce. I have no place to live, no job and no money and no car(he wanted me to sell my old car and I did) Now He wants me to sing divorce papers and I get nothing. Zero. So what do you think? Should I just walk away? It is not even about money if be honest with you. I just feel like I was a maid for a year and I didn't get paid!

stevetcg
May 22, 2009, 11:10 AM
Well, the question is going to be "how badly do you want to move on"

WIth no money, its possible that you will lose anyway since he seems to have the upper hand. Does he have a lot of money kicking around? Typical division of assets should allow you some sort of relief, but he can certainly fight it. Some sort of spousal support is certainly not out of line in this situation.

I know you feel like an unpaid maid... but he likely feels that you were just there sponging off him. It works both ways... depends on how you want to spin it.

My advice would be to ask for spousal support.

Justwantfair
May 22, 2009, 11:10 AM
Well you can fight for marital support but that will require an attorney and attorney fees.

I see two alternatives, a costly divorce (in the small hope that he will be required to pick up the legal fees) or walk away empty handed for the year-long marriage.

Jenitt
May 22, 2009, 11:35 AM
Well, the question is going to be "how badly do you want to move on"

WIth no money, its possible that you will lose anyway since he seems to have the upper hand. Does he have a lot of money kicking around? Typical division of assets should allow you some sort of relief, but he can certainly fight it. Some sort of spousal support is certainly not out of line in this situation.

I know you feel like an unpaid maid... but he likely feels that you were just there sponging off him. It works both ways... depends on how you want to spin it.

My advice would be to ask for spousal support.

He does have money. 5 bedroom house and 3 cars... I asked him to help me to get an apt. The answer was "NO". And that's all I want 2000$. And some respect.

stevetcg
May 22, 2009, 11:43 AM
It might be easiest to just cut your losses and ask for help from your family. You can fight him... but it will cost money and there are no guarantees.

And sorry, but it's a divorce... chances of getting respect are about none if it isn't already there.