bobbymoore1966
May 21, 2009, 07:42 AM
Something happened a few years ago and it's still bothering me . I will try to keep it brief
Nearly 3 years ago I was working away with a girl, I am married and she has a boyfriend who works for the same company, on the Friday night we decided to go out for some drinks , we had loads we where both very drunk . When we went back to the hotel we said goodnight, I coudntt sleep , I had a huge room with a 3 piece suite , I called her room and asked if she wanted to come and watch TV -she said yes,10 minutes later no show I called again -she said she would be right there-10 minutes later no show, called again no answer, I passed out ! When I woke up in the morning there was a message on my phone from my boss asking what has been going on up there!I thought o dear what have I done 1 I ran downstairs found her she smiled and said good morning I told her about the message from our boss-she told me she had called him, I then apologized for calling her, and asked her if she felt that the invites to my room where of a sexual nature, she said no, but you did call many times, I apologized again and asked if I could call her boyfriend to apologize -she said no. I didn't know at the time but her boyfriend had called the police the evening before I didn't find this out until the next night when a member of staff had told me!The next evening we went out for dinner and had a OK kind of evening even though I could feel she didn't like me. Every time I tried to apologize for what had happened she told me shut up.I went to work on Monday morning expecting to be in trouble but nothing was said ,over the next few weeks I had a couple of sarcastic comments from other members of staff, but nothing else ,I heard she had been bad mouthing me behind my back, which was to be expected and her boyfriend ignored me . A few months later we had to go away again there where 2 othermembers of staff, there was no problem I could feel that she didn't like me but besides that it was OK , I also went away with her boyfriend and we ended up getting on quit well.
My point is I can't forgive myself for making this girl feel uncomfortable!
I am a very sensitive person , and I was very drunk that evening in question and didn't realise what I was doing! I only invited her back to my room, but I feel like some kind of sexual deviant , which I am not
3 years on and I still fell bad about the whole event , I hate people thinking badly of me.
I know this might seem very silly to some people but I am finding it hard to forgive myself for making this mistake.
I haven't had the guts to tell my wife as she would go mental
Any advise would be welcome
Nearly 3 years ago I was working away with a girl, I am married and she has a boyfriend who works for the same company, on the Friday night we decided to go out for some drinks , we had loads we where both very drunk . When we went back to the hotel we said goodnight, I coudntt sleep , I had a huge room with a 3 piece suite , I called her room and asked if she wanted to come and watch TV -she said yes,10 minutes later no show I called again -she said she would be right there-10 minutes later no show, called again no answer, I passed out ! When I woke up in the morning there was a message on my phone from my boss asking what has been going on up there!I thought o dear what have I done 1 I ran downstairs found her she smiled and said good morning I told her about the message from our boss-she told me she had called him, I then apologized for calling her, and asked her if she felt that the invites to my room where of a sexual nature, she said no, but you did call many times, I apologized again and asked if I could call her boyfriend to apologize -she said no. I didn't know at the time but her boyfriend had called the police the evening before I didn't find this out until the next night when a member of staff had told me!The next evening we went out for dinner and had a OK kind of evening even though I could feel she didn't like me. Every time I tried to apologize for what had happened she told me shut up.I went to work on Monday morning expecting to be in trouble but nothing was said ,over the next few weeks I had a couple of sarcastic comments from other members of staff, but nothing else ,I heard she had been bad mouthing me behind my back, which was to be expected and her boyfriend ignored me . A few months later we had to go away again there where 2 othermembers of staff, there was no problem I could feel that she didn't like me but besides that it was OK , I also went away with her boyfriend and we ended up getting on quit well.
My point is I can't forgive myself for making this girl feel uncomfortable!
I am a very sensitive person , and I was very drunk that evening in question and didn't realise what I was doing! I only invited her back to my room, but I feel like some kind of sexual deviant , which I am not
3 years on and I still fell bad about the whole event , I hate people thinking badly of me.
I know this might seem very silly to some people but I am finding it hard to forgive myself for making this mistake.
I haven't had the guts to tell my wife as she would go mental
Any advise would be welcome