Hi my name is Doug I've been in a relationship with girlfriend for almost a year and a half.I'm 26 and she is 20.We moved in together basically the first month we started dating and things were great up until 2 or 3 months ago.She got pregnant in August and had an abortion shortly after she found out due to fact she said she wasn't ready and her mom also pressured her and paid for it.I was upset about it but I forgave her and her mother for it and our relationship things were still great.Then in December she found out she was pregnant again and planned on keeping it.I was excited about the news and we went in for testing and a ultrasound for the baby however she had not told her mom or any family about it.She began planning for it and looking up new houses and such.I however did not plan as hard because I was dealing with it in my own way I was excited just not very showful of it.She was upset with me for not reading all the info I could on preparing and she felt like I didn't care as much for her while she was pregnant.But I had a lot on my mind my job had laid me off in December, a new baby on the way, and with all the needs for my baby and her it would be exspensive.I was excited but with all the pressure of my job laying me off exspecially because I was barley making half of what I did on unemployment so bills pilling up things were stressful for me.Well at the deadline to have an abortion she finally tells her mother and makes a decision to have another ebortion.Don't get me wrong I was never really mean to her I was just not the man I was needing to be because I was stressing but because I was the way I was she had the abortion.But when she told me the news I told her if she had the abortion I wanted to break it off mainly because I don't believe in abortion but I was upset about as well.But she had it done and prepared to move to her mother's.As the weekend went by I knew I loved her and called her to come back home.I was upset about the abortion but I was in love with her and that outweighed the bad.I feel part of loving someone is accepting them at their worst and not just the best.After she comeback she wanted me to change and I did started showing her more love and spending more time with her.She thinks that I only was like that because she wasn't pregnant anymore and I was jealous that another man could have her now that she wasn't pregnant that's why I wanted her back.But I wanted her because I was head over heels in love with her.Well now that I've changed she turned into someone else.It's like we swiched places now she's wants space from me and I want to spend tons of time with her.She is extremely beautiful and could have any guy at her feet if she wished but all we do is argue because I have to force her to talk about our relationship problems and she gets mad with me because we talk about it at least twice a week.She stays on the computer talking with people(guys and girls) all the time I know she hasn't cheated but she has lied about a few things so I've lost some trust for her and that makes me of course more of a Dr. Holmes investigator.So 2 days ago I confronted her about why we don't have a lot of sex or hangout a lot and what we can do to help our relationship.She told me she wanted to go to her mom's for awhile to figure out what she wants in her life and says she is still young with a lot options.She also told me tonight that I'm still out of work and not continuing my education she wants someone who has motivation and drive in life.So she wants change in other words once again.With the economy so bad I have struggled to find work but with more education I could have done more of that with the time on my hands.So I've said everything I can think of to get her to stay somehow I feel if she leaves she will not come back.Even if I do what she wants I know there is never a 100% guarantee on anything.She's packed and leaving tomorrow.my heart is broken and I'm all out of tricks.What should I do from here?

She's only 20. She's definitely going to go through the phase of not knowing what she wants. She asked for space. So if you really do love her, you would respect her wishes and give it to her.

You can't force someone to stay in a relationship. You're right, there is a chance that if you let her go, she won't come back. But then again, if you keep putting pressure on her and forcing her to stay in the relationship, you're going to end up pushing her out of the relationship. That's even worse.

Just give her the time and space that she needs, if you were meant to be together, she will come back to you.

(1) Just be patient. (2) Show her that you respect her by giving her time and space. (3) Focus on finding a job to pay your bills and get your life back on track.

If you can do these thing 3 things, you will become much more attractive to her and more chance of her coming back to you.

Thank you for your answer I think you hit the nail on the head with your advice.