Wendyrite12
May 19, 2009, 03:01 PM
Well I am on my 3rd day of NC with the ex and 10th day of no smoking! I decided to do it all together and just be disciplined all around. I have a question about NC though. I wrote my ex a "nice as possible" let's be friends and stop all this madness email. I didn't say anything about going NC, just thought I would do it. I read that your suppose to say this from the get go that you'll be needing space and will contact when you are ready. Can I leave it the way I did it? He actaully responded to my breakup email with a nice but rambling reply about how great I am and how messed up he is and I deserve more but that I'm "sexy and cool" (his words not mine ;)). I didn't reply. I was just going to leave it unless he writes again and then I would say "you know,I think I just need some space. I will contact you when it's right for me" kind of thing. Is that OK or do I need to write him telling him I need space? That seems like an oxymoron and feeling like I should leave it. Also, after day for the smoking thing got easier so I'm hoping it's the same here!