I was diagnosed with cancer in January 09 the same time my boyfriends father died which was terrible for him they were very close. Before this happened things were great between us and we had planned to move in together in June 09. We both had too much to deal with but he assured we he would stay with me through my ordeal no matter what. Here I am 1 week after being dumped the same week I lost my hair and started chemo. I am devastated! He didn't even have the balls to tell me in person told me on the phone that HE DID NOT HAVE TIME FOR A RELATIONSHIP, right now and anyway he decided he wants to get married and have children! I am 58 so even if I were not sick that is not possible, just 2 days before he still said he loved me, I asked him to come talk to me so I can have some closure because I am feeling confused and keep thinking it is my cancer that had driven him away,my question is if he really loves me at all how can he just walk away and leave me like this

I can't imagine anyone doing such an awful thing to someone they profess to love,especially when you are in such a life changing and difficult situation.

It is a horribly selfish act and I am sorry that he has deserted you in your hour of need.

I understand he may be scared and he may not be good with handling illness but he needed to step out of his comfort zone and do the right thing.

He failed not only as a boyfriend but as a human being.
I hope you have a full recovery.

To artlady thank you for your response which expressives my feeling exactly he really caught me by surprise amd I'm sure it will take me some time to heal from all this with my illness I have to deal with as well thanks again for your input take care witetiger

Just because he is an idiot, and a coward, don't let him bring you down. Good Luck.

I agree with Tal, good luck with your recovery and I know everything will work out!

Hi Witetiger,

I wish you peace and love and may you have a full recovery. I am so sorry that he did this to you. He isn't worth it at all. You are sooo much better than him, and deserve so much more.

Thank you all for your response it does help to hear your feedback on this situation