I hope you don't get lost in this lol.
Let's call my best friend Avril.
We're best friends for about 3 years now. We never really argued before. But for the last year it seems like we're just hurting each other.
About a year ago I became good friends with this one guy. He was so cool, that eventually I started calling him my best friend. He and Avril had met just a few times cause they didn't like each other. I kind of hung out with that guy more than with Avril, so one day she just said we're no longer best friends. She never explained why, no matter how much I would beg her to tell me. After that we met just about twice a month. I guess she was giving me the silent treatment and I was really mad at her for not telling me. In the middle of July one of her friends told me why she was upset. I tried talking to her about it again, but she denied everything.
When school started she seemed fine and we were best friends again. But in the end of September I broke my ankle and couldn't go to school for 2 months. Avril visited me only once, but at least we chatted online every 3 days or so. But she became good friends with a girl, Sarah. Sarah, here, doesn't have any friends, now, that we got a new girl in my class. She used to be friends with Avril's ex-best friend, but that girl now is BF's with the new girl, so Sarah constantly disses her [I never liked that trio].
In the end of January my ex-best friend Anna and Avril had a huge argument. And that's when fights with Avril began. Avril now thinks that me and Anna are best friends and because of that [I think] I get silence treatments once in awhile. For the first 3 times I asked Avril what's the problem, but she just kept saying that I don't care etc... She apologized to me twice, but I didn't accept it cause she didn't tell me what's wrong. After that everything was fine for the next 2 months. We even talked it out. She put the blame on me though. She said she gave me the silence treatments because she thought I was mad at her.
In the past 2 months I've been trying my off just to get her feel special. But 2 weeks ago, on Thursday, I got the silence treatment again. I'm sure I didn't do anything unless she thought me and Anna are dissing her or something. Next Monday she talked to me but I heard about her and Sarah's plans in summer. Avril said they're going to hang out 24/7 just in front of me. I thought we were going to spend this summer together. I'd think that means we're no longer friends, but during the silent treatments she looks at me all the time. When she makes plans with somebody else, they both are looking at me, like waiting for my reaction or something. Every time they talk I feel like I'm going to burst in tears. Yesterday I asked Avril what's her problem with me again, but she didn't tell me. Again. Then in about 50 letters I tried to explain to her that I love her, my summer sucked and will suck without her, I miss what we shared etc.. It was like she doesn't even care. I could've be dying right now and the last thing she would've said to me is, that I'm stupid. Well.. not really that harsh, but you get my point. I think she's passive-aggressive. Or this could be her revenge, though I haven't talked to that guy in over 6 months.
I'm really confused about this and I don't want to lose her. I think Sarah is just using Avril cause she doesn't have any friends. So what do you think? :confused: :(
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That kind of confused me a little lol

But it sounds like 'avril' is a spoilt brat who wants to get her way all the time.
You have to be her best friend or she won't talk to you.
You can't have any other friends or she won't talk to you.
You can't have a boyfriend or she won't talk to you.

She doesn't sound like the best person to want to be friends with.

I think you need to have friends who are mature enough to have outgrown the notion of a "bff". Most people when they get old enough to have a grip on lasting friendship recognize that they have different friends who fulfill different needs in their lives. I have friends who I can have deep conversations with and who love the give and take of that, and we're very close as a result. I have friends who are, like me, divorced moms, and like to go out on the town together when we have kid-free weekends, to do things our married friends don't do any more (like going to see live bands, etc.) I have a friend I work out with, one who I meet at the library to work on our job searches and so on. My closest friends are my mom and my sister because, being family, they would never, ever betray me (some families would though... you have to know yours!). The moral of the story is that you can't be everything to anyone and they can't be everything to you, so when that's the expectation, you both fall short and anger results. Your needs are valid, as are your friend's inability to fulfill all of them for you. The same is true in reverse - if you can't fulfill what a friend needs in a friend, they need additional friends - not different friends, just additional ones.

You girls need to all get together and make a pact that you will be what you can for each other, and above all treat each other with love and consideration. You also need to agree that each will take responsibility for her own happiness, and nobody will be acting immaturely by trying to make each other jealous or stealing boyfriends or other manipulative and mean things.

The other thing that can be helpful to have out in the open before it's an issue is that you are all too young to settle down, and may end up dating the same guys. Just agree not to date the same guys at the same time, and keep intimate things (both information and physical intimacy) about guys that you learn in your relationships with them to yourselves.

My friends had these sorts of boundaries in high school, and we are all celebrating our 45 birthdays this year - we remain the closest of friends, and now our kids are friends, too. I would never call any of them my "best friend" but I would call all of them my "closest friends".

I think I got lost. Can anybody help find me, Please?

It sounds though that this person your talking about is not a real friend. It is better that your not friends. It sounds like a game, just do not play into it.

Develop new friends and move on from this one.

Kids can play childish games and it sounds like that is what Avril is doing. She is jealous and feels you left her for another best friend.
You can keep things where they are and tell her she is your best female friend this guy is your best male friend or you can make an effort to spend more time being a friend to her again.