herecomesthesun
May 17, 2009, 02:27 AM
I guess this is a age old question... is true love real?
I was with my partner for 9 years and about to get married. We loved each other, but were not "In Love" so to say.
I would do anything for her and we cared for each other and she gave me the same respect. In the end she left me saying she wanted "Movie Love" which broke my heart. I do love her but I was not madly "in love", besotted, first few months.. kind of love.. she was the same. She told me she would go out with her friends and that guys would hit on her and she would feel flattered and maybe like taking things further.. she said that she shouldn't feel like this about other people if I was the one and she didn't get that thrill or romanticism from me anymore regardless of how romantic I try to be. I tried to tell her that this kind of thrill and excitement is always present in new relationships, but that it is the mature respect and comfortable love and trust that comes after the initial thrill and excitement that really matters. I said that even if she found a new exciting partner she may feel that dwindle after some months and then find herself with someone she does not respect or feel so comfortable with... that this could lead to a cycle of almost constantly looking for that all consuming passionate love that lasts forever.. that might not really exist!
Thing is that I might be wrong, maybe we were jut wrong for each other and this does exist.. I don't really know! So I'm asking you guys...
Does "In Love forever" really exist or is it "Standing Love" that matters in the end as the thrill will always fizzle?
Believe me I want the prior if it exists but I'm trying to be realistic.
Thanks in advance for your comments!
I was with my partner for 9 years and about to get married. We loved each other, but were not "In Love" so to say.
I would do anything for her and we cared for each other and she gave me the same respect. In the end she left me saying she wanted "Movie Love" which broke my heart. I do love her but I was not madly "in love", besotted, first few months.. kind of love.. she was the same. She told me she would go out with her friends and that guys would hit on her and she would feel flattered and maybe like taking things further.. she said that she shouldn't feel like this about other people if I was the one and she didn't get that thrill or romanticism from me anymore regardless of how romantic I try to be. I tried to tell her that this kind of thrill and excitement is always present in new relationships, but that it is the mature respect and comfortable love and trust that comes after the initial thrill and excitement that really matters. I said that even if she found a new exciting partner she may feel that dwindle after some months and then find herself with someone she does not respect or feel so comfortable with... that this could lead to a cycle of almost constantly looking for that all consuming passionate love that lasts forever.. that might not really exist!
Thing is that I might be wrong, maybe we were jut wrong for each other and this does exist.. I don't really know! So I'm asking you guys...
Does "In Love forever" really exist or is it "Standing Love" that matters in the end as the thrill will always fizzle?
Believe me I want the prior if it exists but I'm trying to be realistic.
Thanks in advance for your comments!