quanyin8
May 17, 2009, 01:36 AM
Hello
Wondered if I could get an opinion on my current situation. I am a single mum to a 9 year old boy, a full time student and have a partner of 3 years, he proposed to me over a year ago but no date set for wedding or moving in together.
We both have our own house and live in the same town, but sometimes I feel like we hardly see each other. For example he has a son who is a teenager and he doesn't see him on his normal weekend after an incident, so now he just seems to be at home, doing his car or sorting his house and I might pop over for dinner or he might pop over to me and then he goes home, or I go home and that's it..
I know its difficult now to sell our houses, but I feel like everybody else who gets engaged gets married and moves on and I seem to be nearly 40 and nothing progresses!
My ex (sons dad) was seeing someone behind my back while we were together, we were never married, but within a year they bought a house, got married and now have a little girl who's nearly one!
I feel like all I wanted was a family unit, and he just seems to do his own thing and we fit it whenever.
Do you think I am just being silly, should I just carry on as usual and do my own thing with my son and leave him to his own devices.?
I haven't even booked a holiday this year, it's the same every year, as he doesn't know what he is doing, whether his son is coming etc, etc, and I sometimes feel like he would be happy to go on holiday with me but not my son. I have no family nearby to help and his dad only has him for 2 weeks holiday a year, so what can I do!
Wondered if I could get an opinion on my current situation. I am a single mum to a 9 year old boy, a full time student and have a partner of 3 years, he proposed to me over a year ago but no date set for wedding or moving in together.
We both have our own house and live in the same town, but sometimes I feel like we hardly see each other. For example he has a son who is a teenager and he doesn't see him on his normal weekend after an incident, so now he just seems to be at home, doing his car or sorting his house and I might pop over for dinner or he might pop over to me and then he goes home, or I go home and that's it..
I know its difficult now to sell our houses, but I feel like everybody else who gets engaged gets married and moves on and I seem to be nearly 40 and nothing progresses!
My ex (sons dad) was seeing someone behind my back while we were together, we were never married, but within a year they bought a house, got married and now have a little girl who's nearly one!
I feel like all I wanted was a family unit, and he just seems to do his own thing and we fit it whenever.
Do you think I am just being silly, should I just carry on as usual and do my own thing with my son and leave him to his own devices.?
I haven't even booked a holiday this year, it's the same every year, as he doesn't know what he is doing, whether his son is coming etc, etc, and I sometimes feel like he would be happy to go on holiday with me but not my son. I have no family nearby to help and his dad only has him for 2 weeks holiday a year, so what can I do!