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poiuytr
May 16, 2009, 10:35 AM
I am becoming severely depressed about this. Would be grateful for any help.

Men are terrified/repelled by me.

I feel very isolated in that I am fairly liberal minded, artistic, always described as eccentric by those who meet me. Without wanting to toot my own horn I feel I have qualities to offer.. eg I try to be kind, in the early years of training to be a surgeon, am open minded, I do modelling... etc
I am always myself and when men meet me they will perhaps show that they are atteracted to me but comment that I am weird. I thought about changing and wearing ugg boots like the rest of the world(no offense I'm using that as a symbol) but decided that would be a deceit to myself and others
The men that I have liked in the past will have had girlfriends and just perceive me as some exotic fun or the problem will be that they are not kind/stimulating/liberal enough for me.I am 20 years of age and can not see things changing

Sorry if reading this sounds like I am being trivial. But feeling alienated from your peers and sick with fear that you can not connect is something maybe you can empathise with.

ANY ADVICE WOULD BE SO APPRECIATED!! THANK YOU x

talaniman
May 16, 2009, 03:24 PM
Forget the guys, especially the one with girlfriends and do your own thing and be happy with who you are. You will meet someone when the time is right. Don't trip over it now, and don't let the guys get you down.

wantanftw
May 16, 2009, 05:52 PM
Well in my opinion the first thing to do is stop saying you have a problem just be yourself if they don't like you what good are they

I wish
May 17, 2009, 06:15 AM
You are only 20. There's so much growing to do. Don't get so guy-crazy.

Take some time to do some self-reflection. Be the person that you want to be and when you are comfortable enough with yourself, someone will see the good in you.