nickomay
May 16, 2009, 02:10 AM
Hey everyone I'm nicko may. I need some advice on a relationship that's gone bad.
Ok well, I started going out with my boyfriend in November (last year). Everything was great perfect even. He was there for me from the start and understood that 2 months piror to going out with him I had just came out of a 3 1/2 year relationship. We had a connection and He understood what it meant to be hurt seems his last serious girl friend cheated on him. He helped me pick myself up and improve myself, he even helped me kick my alcohol additction, get my drivers licence and showed me what it was like to have fun with out alcohol.
After 2 1/2 moths he told me he was ready to say I love you, and he wanted to move in with me and settle down. Well I panicked :eek: mainly because this was around about the time my exboyfriend came back ( I know great timing) so naturally I didn't think I was ready and I didn't want to get hurt again so I blurted out " I'm not the right girl for you, I'm not settling down material, I'm moving away, my ex wants me back and I don't no what to do" (stupid I know). So I kind of stopped him feeling anything for me.
For 6 moths after that I kept getting abusive jelous messages and phone calls from my ex, which left me crying most of the time. I told my boyfriend every time my ex conacted me and why I was upset. My boyfriend got fustrated with me and couldn't understand why I was even still talking to my ex.
Then come April the 18th my boyfriend broke up with me :( . We didn't fight about it. I just excepted what he had to say and left.
We talked about it the week after and he said he's really confused and fustrated with our relationship he wants it to work but he can't see how it's going to. He wants to feel like his in love with me but he dosen't anymore. I tried to explain that that was my fault and I only said those things because I was confused. He asked for sometime to think about things, which I agreed to.
We didn't talk for about 2 weeks until last Monday when he said, things are very boring with out me and he misses me sometimes. I said well we can always give it another try which he replied yeah we could. I said so we're giving it another try then? He just laughed and said I have to go now.
I haven't herd from him since then I know his busy at the moment and out of town.
If anyone has any advice to share please do I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks.
Ok well, I started going out with my boyfriend in November (last year). Everything was great perfect even. He was there for me from the start and understood that 2 months piror to going out with him I had just came out of a 3 1/2 year relationship. We had a connection and He understood what it meant to be hurt seems his last serious girl friend cheated on him. He helped me pick myself up and improve myself, he even helped me kick my alcohol additction, get my drivers licence and showed me what it was like to have fun with out alcohol.
After 2 1/2 moths he told me he was ready to say I love you, and he wanted to move in with me and settle down. Well I panicked :eek: mainly because this was around about the time my exboyfriend came back ( I know great timing) so naturally I didn't think I was ready and I didn't want to get hurt again so I blurted out " I'm not the right girl for you, I'm not settling down material, I'm moving away, my ex wants me back and I don't no what to do" (stupid I know). So I kind of stopped him feeling anything for me.
For 6 moths after that I kept getting abusive jelous messages and phone calls from my ex, which left me crying most of the time. I told my boyfriend every time my ex conacted me and why I was upset. My boyfriend got fustrated with me and couldn't understand why I was even still talking to my ex.
Then come April the 18th my boyfriend broke up with me :( . We didn't fight about it. I just excepted what he had to say and left.
We talked about it the week after and he said he's really confused and fustrated with our relationship he wants it to work but he can't see how it's going to. He wants to feel like his in love with me but he dosen't anymore. I tried to explain that that was my fault and I only said those things because I was confused. He asked for sometime to think about things, which I agreed to.
We didn't talk for about 2 weeks until last Monday when he said, things are very boring with out me and he misses me sometimes. I said well we can always give it another try which he replied yeah we could. I said so we're giving it another try then? He just laughed and said I have to go now.
I haven't herd from him since then I know his busy at the moment and out of town.
If anyone has any advice to share please do I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks.