Ok so my fiancé and I have been in a long distance relationship since we started dating. Last night we got into an argument because of a profile that was made by one of his friends/coworkers using my fiancés pictures.

So the story begins with the other day I was looking through the list of people who had viewed my profile on Tagged in the last 30 days, and saw that my fiancé had viewed my page. So no problem there right, well wrong because my fiancé deleted his page not long after we got engaged. So I sent a text to my fiancé since he was at work asking him about the page. He told me that it wasn't his but one of his friends had made it. So OK I believe him because I have no reason not to he hasn't done anything to ever make me not trust him. But this page is set to private so I can't see anything on it so today I made a new profile and sent a friends request to this profile and well when he accepted it I was able to view the page, and well there wasn't anything bad on it or anything really. Just kind of seemed more like it was really my fiancés page and not his friends and I said that to my fiancé when we talked. So I talked to my fiancé about it tonight and well it started a really big argument between us. I really didn't have a problem with the page what I had was for some reason I got really jealous about these women leaving comments on the pictures calling him sexy and after seeing those I got really jealous, and that is when I told my fiancé about sending the friends request and everything. So he told me that I had no reason not to trust him, and that his friend wouldn't do anything that would get my fiancé into any sort of trouble or anything. He also told me that I obviously don't trust him or his judgement, I told him I do trust him and that the jealousy got the best of me. So at the end of the argument he went on to tell me that I hurt him worse then I would have ever hurt him if I had cheated on him, and that I would have just been better off cheating on him. I understand him saying that since he was upset, and I shouldn't of let the jealousy get the best of me, he also told me that he will not be able to trust me for awhile now. I also asked him to give me a second chance to prove to him that he can trust me, and that nothing like this will happen again. So I guess what I'm writing for is does anybody have any recommendations on how I can keep myself from getting jealous over these women looking at him this way even though it is not him they are talking to, and also if anybody has any suggestions on things I could do to possibly earn his trust back. Also I know that I should have took his word about it not being his page because he father had been ill and in the hospital on life support and just recently passed away so he didn't really even have the time to get on and make this page, but because of his dad being ill we really haven't talked much and he kind of felt distant to me, so I had this feeling that something was wrong. I love him more then anything and right now really can't forgive myself for hurting him. Any suggestions would be helpful and taken into consideration. Thank you in advance.

He went on to tell me that I hurt him worse then I would have ever hurt him if I had cheated on him,
He also told me that he will not be able to trust me for awhile now.

Those are things guilty people say to twist the guilt off them onto you.

He very likely could be lying to you and covering it up by saying the page is his friends.
It very likely is his.
Do not confront him any more. Just watch more closely for things that could be red flags.

I don't plan on confronting him anymore on the subject. All I wanted last night was for him to be honest with me and admit the page was his.l See my previous ex's this is the way I found out that they had been cheating on me. When I first saw the page I told him I didn't like somebody else using his pictures and saying they are his and that I wasn't comfortable with it. I just never thought I would get this jelous over this page. Things just haven't been the same since his dad passed away on the 8th of this month.

Thing is that if he doesn't want to be honest about it being his then most likely he DOES have something to hide. He is trying to transfer guilt so that you feel bad if you confront him. Watch for more red flags.

If indeed it was a friend using his picture, that would be a mistake on his part.

Your mistake was letting your feelings dictate your actions. That's where you need the help from. Learning to get true facts, rather than act on just feelings.

Honestly though, something about his story doesn't smell right. My question would be why he allowed the dishonest use of his picture, friend or not?

Before you beat yourself up, or just let this go, you need more facts. Its not jealousy you should be feeling, but suspicion. Get some facts, before you take action.

He says that he let his friend use the pictures, because he just don't care, and that he trusts his friend to not do anything that would get him into any trouble. Yes I agree that something about his story doesn't seem right and honestly I still feel that it is his page and not his friends. I tried calling him and texting him but he won't answer, so honestly right now I'm at the point that I'm not going to try and contact him anymore today and when he wants to talk he can call me. If I could get all the facts I would.

Trusts his friend to not do anything that would get him into any trouble.

Thats so lame. Leave him alone and let him contact you. If he doesn't, good riddance.

He's lying to you... I'm really sorry to say it but he is. Why would his friends make a page of his pictures, don't you think they would use their own pictures? His dad dying is tragic but it's life he can't use that to minipulate you or scare you into keeping quiet about this odd profile. If I were you, I would wait until you are in person to discuss it. If he is lying to you, only time will tell. Keep your head up.

I am leaving him alone when and if he wants to talk to me he can call me or text me. Yes his dad dying is tragic but I'm not letting him scare me or keep me quiet at first I did but not now, and I would wait until we are in person to discuss this but really right now I'm not sure when that will be it was supposed to be back on the 11th which was my birthday but well with his dad passing that didn't happen. Thank you everyone for your advice and support it has really helped.

If he is your fiancé, there should be no privacy between you. People get married to share their lives together... sounds like he is covering up. There is not reason for him to have sexy pictures on there... and by the way jealousy is not attractive, but you have the right to be TERRITORIAL about him. However, it appears that he is not respecting you or the commitment you both have made. Hey, have y'all set a date? Please, don't marry this guy until you feel secure in his respect for you, and your position as his wife.

Ps. Guys would not likely make a profile for a friend, unless they are totally gay. He is lying to you.

Its not that the pictures are sexy they are just normal pictures of him it was the girls commenting on them that were calling him sexy. Yes I know jealousy isn't attractive. He did finally talk to me, and we talked things out. Were planning on talking more tonight. Lovinthetrail no we haven't set a date yet. We have talked about dates but the dates we have in mind are still over a year away.

I hope things all turn out in a way that will make you happy for the long run... take care.

This is why I absolutely HATE Facebook and myspace. People put WAY too much weight onto them and their meanings. I've seen relationships crumble because a status message was taken the wrong way. Do my fiancé and I have Facebook profiles? Yes, but we have enough respect for each other that when we made them, knowing the problems that they could cause. If we get a friend request, we tell the other who is in relation to each other. It prevents stupid little arguments, and it's easier due to us living together.

When you talk to him, ask him

1. Why is his friend making a profile with his pictures?
2. Put a picture of you and him up on his page