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kel003
May 13, 2009, 06:03 PM
Hey guys... How are you ? Its my 1st post here...

Well, I have a crush with 1 of my classmate in pre-u course in my university... But I was too shy to talk to her and I just kept it in my heart...

Her friend told me that she is still single but there's a guy in her hometown was wooing her but she rejected him a lot of times because she had no feelings to the guy...

All I can do is just by chatting with her via MSN and phone messages...

I had a plan to ask her out when we are in degree because the pre-u course is very important and I dun wan anything to distract her studies and as well as mine too...

Well, everything is fine until few days ago...
We are having our final exam and it's the Maths Paper...

After the paper, I turn my sight to her and I saw she was looking very down and she leave the exam hall earlier than I expected...

I was worried because in the 2nd exam I saw her cry and it hurts me a lot, but I was afraid to go close with her and ask her...

So, I decide to send a message to one of my friend who is close with my crush to make sure she is okay... But things weren't going as what I wanted... :(

I don't know what is wrong with me that time, I think I was too rush... :( Instead of my friend, I sent the message to my crush! :eek:

And I didn't realize it until she replied me told me that I had send wrong message to her... I was so nervous that time all I replied was " Sorry ! Thanks for informing me... "

The next day, I decided to tell her the truth about the message and she thanked me for being a concern friend but still I didn't tell her how I feel for her...

Well, things got worse in yesterday... Her friend told me that she had already guessed out that I liked her and she was asking why don't I make any move?

So her friend was asking my crush to give me a chance but all she said was she treat me as a friend and she hope that I will understand her meaning... She rather give the chance to the guy in her hometown

But she is not sure about giving me a chance because she said she do not know anything about me and it hard for her to accept me...

I was really heart broken that time and I sprain my ankle when I was in the gym few hours later... Its hurt a lot... :( I pretended to be okay in front of my friends but I cried loudly in my heart for all that happened to me :(

Before everything happened I planned to sent a teddy dog as a birthday gift to her because I know she likes dog a lot... And I still insist I will go on to my plan and that's the least thing I can do...

Invisible tears were dropping from my eyes when I was writing this post... What should I write to her in her birthday gift? I really don't know what should I do... and do I still have a chance?

Please help me... I am mentally and physically hurt now... :(

letmetellu
May 13, 2009, 07:03 PM
You are not in grade school anymore, speak up to the girl you want to talk to, and I don't mean by texting.

kel003
May 14, 2009, 02:42 AM
Tmrw will be the final paper, Physics and it will be 3 months holiday for us all...

We will meet again at degree, but in this 3 months anything will happen...

Should I call her?

Call her after she receive my birthday gift?

I feel I am no able to win her heart since there is a guy in the hometown which love her too...

I reallly don't know what should I do... Its 1st time in my life facing this problem...

:(

Silver Lining
May 14, 2009, 03:05 AM
Are you still PUC student.. your so young,, u should be daring enuf to talk to her rather than send messages,, make the 1st move,, tell her (face to face) before she accepts the hometown guy,, at least she'l have you in her mind and think about your proposal before taking any decision,,

unknown51
May 14, 2009, 04:56 AM
Well if she figured that you like her you have nothing to lose am I right or
Wrong

superk
May 14, 2009, 05:15 AM
Will there will be a birthday party and you're invited?

I am not a guy but I like to hear this from a guy...

You: Hi, happy b-day!
Her: Thank you.
You: Did you see check gifts?
Her: Not yet.
You: If you come across to my gift, can you give me a call to see how you like it?
Her: sure

Her b-day note gift will say "I like you very much and I just wonder if we can be friends for the meantime and see how things will go. Happy Birthday!"

kel003
May 14, 2009, 06:34 AM
Thanks for the advice...

Not long ago, another news came to me...

Few of us are having trip to my state for vacation and my friend asked her to join the trip...

She said if I were in the trip, she will not go... WHY?

Does she hates me?

I was planning to apologize to her tmrw for everything that happened, now I am afraid that tmrw she will ignore me...

I dun really want this to happen... :(

superk
May 14, 2009, 06:48 AM
Just do you thing and quit worrying. Worrying accomplishes nothing.

kel003
May 14, 2009, 11:20 PM
I just apologize to her now... She told me everything is okay...

And that we can only be friends...

It hurts, I really don't want her to know my feelings to her so soon, its sooner than I expected...

Silver Lining
May 14, 2009, 11:36 PM
Love starts with a good friendship,, be the fren she wans u to be,, gain her trust,, let her know who u really r,, give her some time,, least u can talk to her like a fren instead on hiding behind MSN msgr,, u have to b the bes fren she never had,, she has to fear losing u,, until then, don make any stupid moves,, don propose to her until u are sure she likes you,,
M not sure if this will help,, m married to my best fren,,

superk
May 14, 2009, 11:37 PM
No guts no glory.....

kel003
May 14, 2009, 11:47 PM
Love starts with a good friendship,,,, be the fren she wans u to be,,, gain her trust,,, let her know who u really r,,,, give her some time,,, least u can talk to her like a fren instead on hiding behind MSN msgr,,, u have to b the bes fren she never had,,, she has to fear losing u,,, until then, don make any stupid moves,,, don propose to her until u are sure she likes you,,,
m not sure if this will help,,, m married to my best fren,,,

Thanks silver...

I am planning to send the teddy dog as a gift and also I plan to make a simple movie for her

In the movie I plan to tell her that despite all that had happened and whatever will happen in the future, we will always be friend and I will always be there when she needs me...



Greenlight for me?

Silver Lining
May 14, 2009, 11:52 PM
Y a movie.. y don you tell her instead..

If your good with words, make a card for her with a poem on friendship,, propose to be her fren, Google and u'l get a lot of poems on friendship...

Seriously dear,, gals appreciate it if your straight,, I mean indirect communication.. ooops,, wrong choice,, until now you were communicating through msgr rite.. usually gals don trust those who hide behind a wall and talk,, they like it when you c them eye to eye,,

Rest depends on u,,

All the best...

kel003
May 15, 2009, 12:01 AM
Thanks silver... Thanks everyone who advice me...

I feel better now, and I will respect what she wants...

And I think I know what should I do... : )