Wow where do i begin, i have been with my boyfriend for two and half years . We don't have the best relationship he cheated in the beginning but i took him back till this day i can't trust him at all. No matter how hard i try i just can't . But about two months ago a blast from the past contacted me . This guy was that one guy that got away the only guy i ever fell for . He doesn't want to give me any hope or fairytales that might mess up my relationship but he is still around it feels awesome to spend time with him and physically be with but what can i do about my boyfriend we live together we are raising our kids together , etc. :confused:

First off, avoid using caps. It makes it very difficult to read.

Secondly, if you don't trust your boyfriend anymore, then you shouldn't be with him. Why drag out the inevitable? You're just making yourself miserable for nothing. Let him go.

Thirdly, you shouldn't compare your old flame with your current boyfriend. They are two separate people. Seeing that you still have feelings for your ex, you definitely should not be with your current boyfriend because you are emotionally cheating on your current boyfriend.

Fourthly, just keep in mind that you broke up with your ex for a reason. So he's right in not making any fairly tale promises. Nor should you expect that to happen.

Finally, sounds like you are very confused about your feeling and emotions. Now is the time for you to be single to sort everything out.

Think about what your doing because kids are involved. But if you don't want to be with your boyfriend then be honest with him. However, do it without the influence of someone else because I would hate for you to leave and regret the decision later because you had the "grass is greener on the other side" syndrome.

Also, you stated that you can't get over your boyfriend cheating ways but exactly what do you think your doing right now? Even if you leave your boyfriend for this guy believe the thought of what your doing right down will creep into his mind. Then next he will be starting a thread of here stated "I can't trust my girlfriend because when we got together she already had a boyfriend but left him for me. Would she do the same to me?"

Without trust in relationship you have nothing and if you haven't gotten over what your boyfriend did to you in the past then you never will. However two wrongs don't make it right.

NO MORE CAPS! SEE HOW INGORING IT IS AND MAKES PEOPLE THINK YOUR SCREAMING AT THEM.