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ahayes09
May 12, 2009, 07:12 PM
I've posted a question similar to this one. But I felt I needed to tell the whole story.

My boyfriend & I got together in March of 06 we hit it off great never fought or anything. I changed schools, and he was getting upset that a lot of the guys that went there liked me. So he stopped talking to me about anything and everything. He was always short with me when I would try to start a conversation.. I started to fall for a guy around November.. two months later.. My boyfriend decided to break up with me so I could figure things out.. 8 weeks later I find out I was pregnant with my ex's baby.. So I knew I wanted to make things work with him. So Him & I got back together in March.

Everything was like it was when we first got together. Then we had the baby, and I was the stay at home mom with her 24/7.. Never had anyone watch her. So we began to fight none stop about anything and everything. I still think to this day that I was taking my frustration out on him that I had built up about the baby, school, money problems.. just everything.. (I know that was wrong to do, but I had no one else to vent my problems to.)

We've been having problems here and there. We've been going GREAT since the start of April, of this year.. But on May 11th, he finally told me that he likes a girl he works with. I can't be hypricritical about it. Because I started liking a guy when we first got together. He was texting her like crazy, non-stop. I love him more than I ever knew. But he's told me he's not in love with me. And he doesn't know who he wants, and that he doesn't think he can stop talking to her. They say they are just friends but, they are emotionally connected.. and I feel like he's not wanting to emotionally connect with me.

ajGambino
May 12, 2009, 07:48 PM
You should stay out of his hair for now and give him some breathing room.

You also need to do NC for yourself, don't wait around for him.

nicolerocks711
May 12, 2009, 07:51 PM
I totally understand how hard it is to watch a kid 24/7, and I think anyone would be mad at the person that put you in that position. I would be furious that he "likes" someone else, but at least he is being honest with you and hopefully he hasn't cheated or anything like that. You need to give him time to figure out what he wants and if he is smart he should chose you and your child, but guys are not smart so good luck w/ everything.

IWHO
May 12, 2009, 08:16 PM
Sounds to me like the two of you have a lot of issues to work out. His jealousy and your frustrations with life... unless you two seek counseling and can work these issues out, I don't see anything changing. You fell for someone else because of his jealousy, and now he has fallen for someone else because you take out your frustrations on him... you BOTH need to change... seek professional help...