katiesolomon
May 11, 2009, 11:50 AM
My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago - we had a particular issue that we couldn't resolve and had had our fair share of fights over our one year relationship. He upset me incredibly and after bottling it up for a while I eventually had an outburst during which he asked me to leave his house and I did. This wasn't the first time this had happened (perhaps 3 other times during the relationship) He has hurt me very much, but I still love him very much. I've been trying to move on and keep busy/see friends etc but a four days ago Friday I received a letter from him (it was written a week ago from this post) which I'm not sure is him genuinely asking for closure or if there's something in there which indicates he would like to talk/reconcile:
The letter said (this is almost word for word)
Dear xxx
I hope things are well with you - he then briefly explained about what he'd been up to recently, just a couple of lines. He continued "I am so sorry that things ended in the way they did - I think for all the negative experiences there were many positives as well and I would have hoped that we could at least have been amicable about closure.
Of course, I understand that I hurt you in a number of ways and that was unforgiveable and I very much regret that this - for the rest of my life.
I hope you find the happiness and love that you seek and deserve.
He then mentioned that he's enclosed some items of mine and finished with saying "Wishing you all the best for your future" followed by his name.
He didn't have to write to me at all... is he just being decent or is it designed to provoke a reaction? If yes, is that desired reaction contact from me to relieve his conscience about the events that hurt me, or because he may be genuinely sorry that the relationship is over? I know no one's psychic, but any thoughts appreciated - I've read it too many times to be clear about it now!
The letter said (this is almost word for word)
Dear xxx
I hope things are well with you - he then briefly explained about what he'd been up to recently, just a couple of lines. He continued "I am so sorry that things ended in the way they did - I think for all the negative experiences there were many positives as well and I would have hoped that we could at least have been amicable about closure.
Of course, I understand that I hurt you in a number of ways and that was unforgiveable and I very much regret that this - for the rest of my life.
I hope you find the happiness and love that you seek and deserve.
He then mentioned that he's enclosed some items of mine and finished with saying "Wishing you all the best for your future" followed by his name.
He didn't have to write to me at all... is he just being decent or is it designed to provoke a reaction? If yes, is that desired reaction contact from me to relieve his conscience about the events that hurt me, or because he may be genuinely sorry that the relationship is over? I know no one's psychic, but any thoughts appreciated - I've read it too many times to be clear about it now!